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i cant believe whats happenedi meet a nice guy of the net a few months back, things were getting serious between us and all going really well
he tells his ex about us before someone else does as it turned out our kids go to the same school and the ex kicks of about it and he finishes it cos of her
we were meant to be going to the theatre tomorrow for my birthday treat and looks like we wont be going to that either then monday i have to go into school and face her and whats the betting she will be all smug with herself as she has managed to ruin it between us
i just dont uinderstand why he cant stand up to her, i know she was using the kids and were making them turn against them but four of them were not his, only one was
feel devastaed
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I don't quite understand why he would end the relationship over this but I am sure it is complex.
It does seem that your future will have a lot of angst with her in it...not something you'd want for yourself.
I too have had a few heartbreaking breakups with men i met online and realize it is better for me to not rush into anything, get to know them very well, make sure they are in "love" with me and had enough time to see if he is acting or really seriously being himself.
It is too easy to get hurt and I personally dont like pain.
So for me it is better to be safe than sorry.
Hopefully you will meet one that will stand the test of time and it will work out.
Dont worry about what that guys ex is thinking, he doesnt sound like he was the right one to give your feelings to and its better to find that out sooner than later.
Wouldnt it have been worse to have lived with him or married him and had her ruin it?
Simone
one thing i will say is he defiantly was not sleeping with her still as if he was not with me he was at work or taking the kids round to see his mum who i also met and get on with very well, both his mum and sister are sooo mad at him, they say he is all over the place, she really has worked those kids against him and his trying to calm things down as she really has kicked of which means he told me he could not see me any more
she has used the fact that we go to the same school an issue but before she found out it was not a issue
your all right though as he has to learn to stand up to her but whilst the youngest is only 5 and she is using her and the other kids as weapons he has said he needs to put the kids first before his happiness, sod the fact that my kids have grown close to him
i am just soo upset that his done this, he kept telling me that when he told her that all would be ok and he got of at the first hurdle, thought as a couple your meant to work through everything together as a couple
What a crummy time to dump you to, just before your birthday?
If I were you, I would be extremely mad at him for both.
By all the other posts on here,you can see you're better off without him!
Happy Birthday
It sounds like things are pretty confusing for him right now,divided loyalties,not quite knowing where his role is anymore,and also the fear of his ex making it difficult to see his child and the other's he has raised for some time.
If I were you I would focus on doing something nice for your birthday for now.And enjoying your single life.
Tell him you understand and leave it up to fate and him to work things out.
If it is meant to be,you will end up together,simply because attraction will draw you together again.
i know his sister and his mum and they were telling me all he talks about is me and how happy he has been
his mates have said they have never seen him sooo happy
he told me saturday morning how much he loved me and wanted us to be together, the reason he told the kids was cos he was so serious about us, we were really happy, in fact our relationship was perfect
he is just scared of loosing his kids and he will do anything to keep hold of them, even if it means sacraficing his happiness, our happiness
it got worse on sunday though with his ex going crazy, saying she was going to smash me all over the place, i had to call the police out on here cos i cant have that at school which made him turn on me, he has now blocked my phone and got the police to ask me not to text him any more, he told me i cant contact him any more as she will stop him from seeing the kids
i saw him at the school yesterday and he looked down at the ground, could not look at me
my sister had a word with him and he is gutted about us and did not want us to split up but just keeps saying about the kids
i saw his ex today and she is well pleased with herself
I realize a lot of us dont want to be alone and if we find someone attractive we hope it will work out but obviously your situation wont work out..
Stop thinking about what his crazy ex thinks and dont give her the satisfaction of knowing she is getting to you.
In my opinion the guy is not in love with you if he dumped you on your birthday..I think it is quite cruel.
i text him today, could not help it and he never got back to me, instead for the first time ever he showed up with his ex to collect all the kids, normally they do it seperatly but i think she made him do it to get to me which yeah it did, think i need to move on but so hard
thing is he went out and replaced all the furniture she has smashed up in her home cos of this
he has called his sister shouting at her saying if anyone touches jaz (his ex) or the kids he will have them and yet when she was threatning me he basically laughed about it and said i had asked for it
just cant get my head round it, i feel i have no closure, the last time we spoke was thursday morning when he left to go to work, we were all over eachother,
i will try to move on though x
she is your EX so bye bye.
you are better off on your own. move on kas.
best of luck