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I think I've got it!!

I think I've finally figured out the mystery which is holding all of us back from finding what we are looking for....yes! It makes sense!!

It is the yin yang theory: If I show any interest in a man he is instantly bored with me and turned off BUT if I show absolutely none he becomes infactuated to the point of obsession. Its the theory of "you always want what you cannot have" I guess........and how difficult is it to act as though you don't give a **** with someone you actually really like? Almost impossible and so this vicious cycle of unattainable love continues for generations to come.

The solution? Lets go have some ice cream!

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single_engineer●Detroit, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●46 Comments

lanna.....

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Lana! I wait anxiously to read some solution of this vicious circle

I guess we have to torture men all the time so they run after us like puppies

But what if I'm nice and really like the man? Pretend and force my nature all the time?

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

Jana,

I don't pretend either and I am also still single which is why in my own strange way with twisted humor I am expressing my experience.
It seems that when I respond with a positive email and say things like " I like your profile too" I never get a response back but if I ignore the guy or act distant he never gives up....does this only happen to me?

baltus67●Kolkata, West Bengal India

Jul 13, 2011●7 Blogs●811 Comments

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Lana, men here often talk they like women to approach them and I have done it a couple of times in my life, guess the result

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

On the other hand, I have often seen women who take the initiative and gain the man with being stubborn and self-confident. as we say here, these men have finally found ther master

And in these cases we say: she married him to herself

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

Jana....yes. I have tried approaching a guy that I like and the response is usually one of suspicion : "why would you want to go out with me?" or " do you do this all the time? go around hitting on men?"

But if you wait for them to approach you then the attitude is either: "she must already have a boyfriend so I won't bother" or " I will probably be turned down so I won't bother"

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Lana I've always had the illusion men are simple creatures and women are the complex ones

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

True Jana...we are

single_engineer●Detroit, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●46 Comments

Men are straight forward. They have these small interest like sports and cars and things like that. They don't think any further (most of them). Lot of men don't even think what they need. All they do is just what makes them happy and never worried about consequences or anything like that. It is bad, but if the same guy is 10yrs old kid, it is acceptable. If he is 30yrs old, then it is not acceptable. So treat men like small kids, you'll understand. When women take the position of a mom in a man's life, things are very easy

. But if the same woman tries to take the position of someone who can own him, he will become the teenage rebel (which most of us would have gone through).

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

Single I agree. I think it must be a subconscious reaction. All of us even women sometimes are more intrigued by the unattainable...remember the shiny toy truck your mom would never let you have? Well it looked even more desirable when she said "no" didn't it

single_engineer●Detroit, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●46 Comments

yeah

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Ok we put the diagnose of the problem, but the Q is what to do???

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

I have no clue Jana....taking up drinking is no good.

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Hope some men will hint something

Or some ladies that have had success?

baltus67●Kolkata, West Bengal India

Jul 13, 2011●7 Blogs●811 Comments

lana. Who ever reads the manual anyway?

Nooo, much more fun trying to put things to work, whitout a clue how...

baltus67●Kolkata, West Bengal India

Jul 13, 2011●7 Blogs●811 Comments

Speaking about myself here... No misunderstandings!

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

Yeah,
You're right balt...I guess it keeps things interesting

baltus67●Kolkata, West Bengal India

Jul 13, 2011●7 Blogs●811 Comments

Yes, Lana, Interesting indeed...

single_engineer●Detroit, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●46 Comments

Lana, back on the comment. If women plays a lot, then the guy will just turn away.. Too bad, he might be a good guy

morgenulv●oslo, Oslo Norway

Jul 13, 2011●43 Blogs●3,230 Comments

And me who thought u were gonna say that u finally realiced that distance was the problem..

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Frank!

Frank men are scared of our perfection

Frankinstien●San Juan, Puerto Rico

Jul 13, 2011●1,830 Comments

Jana, You are probably right . It's unfortunate that it gives you an emotional dry spell, but at least it gives me more oppertunity to flirt with you . . . . . . . . . . . . .the Black Knight . .

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 13, 2011●1,803 Comments

Anytime, Frank

Swissblueeyes●a lake, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●709 Comments

ya ive given up trying to understand men..so, i go shopping instead..

Belle936●Somewhere, Florida USA

Jul 13, 2011●360 Comments

Swiss yeah let's go shopping! Great blog Lana! Good insight sinle engineer thanks for sharing!

sweetkitten4●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Jul 13, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

Good post lana. When I was with my ex and I was keen we had an arrangement where he would phone me at 7 pm between dates. Nine times out of ten he would be late. Anyway whilst I was recovering from my op I got fed up with chasing after him every time he was late so I stopped chasing after him. He started phoning on time.

Frankinstien●San Juan, Puerto Rico

Jul 13, 2011●1,830 Comments

Swiss, Your solution is not unique with those of your gender . I've heard a roumor that Visa and American Express actualy hire men to frustrate women so the can up there card sales . Hay why else would someone pass up a chance to meet you . It's all a conspiricy to get you to belive Fox News ! ! ! !. . . .

. . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . ... .the Black Knight . .

Swissblueeyes●a lake, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●2 Blogs●709 Comments

Frank.. ya i think most of us females have the shopping gene..

Macys department stores loves me..Most of the women who work in the perfume department know my name.. lol

@Belle.. ya go shopping and to lunch..sounds cool to me.

willem4u●Santiago, Santiago Metropolitan Chile

Jul 13, 2011●247 Comments

The proof that every inconvenience has its advantage, in this case ice cream

hmmmm...ask him to eat ice cream with you?

lana1234567OP●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Jul 13, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

Jana,
I agree they are just afraid that we may be smarter than them

great new pic BTW!

Swiss,
Lets go! Got my credit card and running shoes!!

bernie49●Halifax, Nova Scotia Canada

Jul 14, 2011

Simple,,,if you want something bad enough,,,go for it,,,if you don't get it,,,move on. There are men out here that would love for the woman to make the first move, myself included.

Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Jul 14, 2011●1,803 Comments

Thank you Lana, you look very classy on yours!

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