The sky last night
As I sat in the hospital room at my daughter's bedside last night I noticed a glorious sunset . The view from her hospital room window was really nice...peaceful.An hour earlier she (my daughter) began having severe stomach spasms and pain so I had to rush her into the emergency room of our local hospital. Of course as a mother you always fear the worst and as I sat there quietly praying that it would be nothing serious the nurse came into the room with the results . she smiled reassuringly and said "well , everything looks absolutely normal" I took a long deep breath and sigh of relief and as she went on to explain she said "I know you must have feared the worst since I am a mom too and I know what its like when your kids are not well." Now I felt a sense of relief and safety as though I was surrounded by friends...people who cared . Other women who understood.
Just then my daughter ask me to give her cell phone to her so I did. I saw she was calling her boyfriend (my daughter is 17) to tell him that she is in the hospital....I guess she thought he would come visit her , comfort her or something. I tried to act as though I wasn't listening but was. As tears began streaming down her face she said in a sad voice "ok, thats fine" and ended the call. Disappointing, crushing, devastating ...I knew what she was feeling that moment all to well. I held her hand and did not say a word for I knew that we both knew what had just occurred. After a few moments of silence and tears I looked at her , smiled and said "I love you" she said "love you too mom" ....and as I looked out her window I realized the sky looked particularly beautiful last night and we were there for one another, together to comfort and care and does anything else really matter?
Comments (19)
Glad she's okay
tears dont come to my eyes easy but after reading your blog you have them streaming out of my eyes
Thank you
balt,
And great dads like you...thank you
Yeah, we want to save them or spare them of the hurt but at the same time we realize that they must feel the pain in order to grow and learn
have and still do and will till the end, thats life
Thanks for the kind words
Now now! Sensitivity with a woman goes a long way
seriously though , yeah I understand he could have been busy but I could hear his voice on the phone and he obviously was insensitive. didn't say "are you ok?" or "wish I could be there for you" those words alone would have made a world of difference.
well ... kay ... still, at the end of the day, he wouldn't have popped over at the ER so end result would have been exactly the same... so ... i cannot see the difference practice-wise; but, I mean, ... if u say it's imp ...
welcome.
from one of my step-daughter friends, it was kind of hard under standing her. About the same time someone was at our door,she was laying on the ground, six blocks away, without thinking my wife and one of my brothers ran that six blocks, in no time at all.We were their,the E-Unit was already their. They were going to take her to the Hospital. We had to have someone bring us back home, because at that moment we turned towards each other
ask why we just did not drive that six blocks
We drove to the hospital, Lin was talking to her boyfriend telling him she was in the hospital with a concussion, he just did not have the time, to see her.I told my wife that boy well never be their for her, how can she depend on him
Iam asking you the same thing,how can your daughter depend on this kid when a real Emergency comes along
seems you are a very good mother,,"Lana".
May God protect you and your daughters.and be in a good health.
yes,,the good one be known from the way he deals in the hard time just.
what will happen if he came and saw her,and assure her that he really cares about her,,and she is everything for him!!!!
I think this is a good exam for any one who doesn't care in a sensitive situation.
terbear,
I understand exactly how you must have felt...its scary but what more troubling is the fact the the boy who she is "crazy about" is no where to be found when times get tough. Isn't this when the person we count on and believe in should be there the most? I would be willing to bet that if my daughter called him for something which involved having a good time he wouldn't have been as "busy"...the thought of that honestly infuriates me
Regarding the boy... it's not an easy time to learn lessons but there is one here. The things he's good for and not so good for. Things that she'll learn to look for with future friends ... like being supportive and kind ... and understanding how to react when a friend is hurting (physically or otherwise).
The challenge is to learn the traits to look for without too many hard lessons along the way. The lessons are valuable... but really not fun.
I'm glad you were with her... that she knows how you feel... that she can learn from your example, some of the character she should watch for in who she dates.