You - And you ex.........
Was it smooth or acrimonious?For me it was fairly easy. We discussed it like adults, looked into the problems, looked for the solutions, but in the end decided to separate.
Easiest option, mostly for economic reasons was sharing the house, which we did successfully for 18 months.
Of all the folk I have known, chatted with and dated - I have been open about this arrangement if (and when) I felt they needed to know. Only one found it odd and eventually made an issue out of it.
ex met one in person and has spoken to 2 on skype.
Recently I have moved into my own apartment with a new partner and I think both will get on with each other when necessary.
Do you find this odd, un-natural, exceptional or civilized?
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Good to hear you're shacked up in an apartment now though... please say hello to her for me!
It's good to know you can still get along fine with your ex even though you and her have decided to separate.
Most of broke up couple here, one of the two, tend to go back to a parent's house if he/she can't afford a house or an apartment, but I have heard few couples who still share a house after they decided to split up so I think your case is not really an unusual one.
Anyway, life goes on my friend. Congratulations for your new apartment and your new partner (
I find it totally normal and 'grown up'.. However, deciding for oneself before even meeting in real life that one will be a perfect match is wishful thinking.
I have a similar arrangement and it works for me.
If you find no problem about you and your ex living together after the relationship ended, then why not. 'Though I have not heard somehting like this in our own little village, I have seen couple in this arrangement in the bigger cities. Minding own busines and respecting each other's privacy, that would be the key maybe.
Very civilized in my opinion.
I think it comes back to the reasons you both had for becoming "ex" partners. Some go directly from love to hate so can't be near each other.
Life should be practical when circumstances allow. This also allowed for emotional distance to grow without being isolated from the person and the home that was familiar.
Many go through a slow transition... though for some, this would seem strange.
Best wishes to you and your new partner.
2nd wife - very smooth. As smooth as a baby sliding on butter.
Still friends.