I've Got a Secret
Are there things ... things about you ... thoughts, interests, experiences ... things that you will never share with another person?
I have a few.
There are things many cannot (or will not) understand. I'll talk about them with the right person, but not with everyone and not in casual conversation.
Can you be trusted?
Are you able to understand and keep things in perspective?
Until I believe this, I'm not going to talk about it. Nope. I've got a secret. I'm not telling you.
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I'm just talking in riddles again.
Actually... It's a relationship question. Do you have secrets you would never trust another person with?
I don't think I do ... haven't thought too much about it but I do know there are things I've spoken about with very few. It's rare to find someone who is interested and can be trusted with some things.
What do you think? Should there be some things that should always remain secret?
You figured it out!
The romance part, you know; if it's a romance killer watch out.
Or a trust strainer.
RESPECT
There's more to this... as you've pointed out.
(Okay... it's a deal... playing with the puppy in the wet grass. Thanks for the offer!
There are some things that need to be shared and some that don't ... but if someone asks ... are you willing to talk about (nearly) anything?
It appears that you would ... if the conditions were right ... if the topic needed to be talked about.
C.. Ca .. Cat
(Psst. It's okay... it's just the CS blogs... not like telling the whole world... just a select few... some you know and many you don't... we can be trusted... I'm sure of it!
Alright ... C ... Ca ... we'll wait for the rest to be revealed over time ... patience ... a good lesson for us ... we'll wait.
I feel that whatever one person does before they meet someone shouldn't count.So not really a secret.
After you meet them however there shouldn't be secrets.
I believe we only keep secrets of things we are not very proud of.
I guess i feel if the "secret" were to come out and it would cause too much pain to someone i cared about i wouldn't keep it a secret.
if it's something harmless like eating ice cream when you said you would diet, that kind of secret is ok
I think it's past my bedtime i'm rambling
Men's brains ... one side at a time, eh? ... and for women, both sides at once ... hmm ... could explain a lot (and not completely flattering for each gender perhaps
A clean slate for a new relationship ... I like the idea!
Should anything be voiced before it's considered to be "cleaned"?
That's a tough question I think ... past behavior that may not be well accepted or understood ... but one might still feel a need to talk about it in order to feel the burden lifted ... there are undertones of guilt issues behind this ... no one answer will work for all, that's for certain.
Not proud ... perhaps embarrassed ... or perhaps just wondering if the other person can handle it ... "during survival training I once drank my own pee" ... who knows what a secret might be ... something like that (I saw it once on "Man vs Wild" on TV) might disgust someone ... but should the other feel they can't talk about it? ... challenging questions.
(I think about anyone who has witnessed horrible things... I'd like to think I could handle it if the time came that they wanted/needed to talk about it) ... lots of potential challenges.
Hello!
No big secrets really ... until that special someone wants to hear about it ... there are things we all think about ... perhaps a dream we have ... perhaps something that really doesn't need to be talked about with anyone other than our special someone ... I think we all might have a couple of secrets we keep for just those closest to us.
Yes, there are few things that I think I will never share with another person unless I can talk about it to someone that I really can trust...errr or may not be at all
I hope somehow my future partner would be someone who can understand and who keeps things in perspective but there would still be risk that either he'll stay or he'll run away
I think I would be fine if he keeps his secret while I keep mine as long as his secret doesn't harm his and my life in the future
All I wanna say, I can be trusted with any secret unless it affects me or anybody else in a bad way.
so Now I can give you a
I like your last statement quite a bit. To paraphrase...
"... as long as secrets don't harm his and my life in the future"
One of the key factors is trust. If I tell you something that I'm very sensitive about, will you ever use this information against me? Will you shout it out when you are angry? Will you tell others? I think many keep quiet because of these risks.
Sharing secrets with trees ... and perhaps animals ... That's a good idea!
I'm glad you can trust your trees.
You make a real important point...
"...sometimes we need certain kinda ways to deliver what we know..."
To be able to handle the news... whatever our partner needs to talk about... "I lost my keys" ... "The washer broke today" ... whatever the news is... It's important that we're able to accept the news, good and bad, in a supportive way.
(some get upset too easily so people learn not to tell them anything of importance... different challenges to be worked out)