But will you be there when I need you?
He/She is fun, smart, loving ... everything you could ask for.
But how about on the bad days? Will they be supportive and caring when life has beaten you down?
Is this something you think about? Do you look for indications of loyalty, commitment and nurturing/caring in the people you meet?
We all know that life isn't easy. There will be times when it's quite painful and stressful. When those times come around... do you think your special someone will be there with you? Are you going to be there with them?
One final thought. When this happens, how will you handle it? What will give you enough strength?
Deep topics tonight ...
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I think I am caring and supportive and quite loyal as friend and partner. I expect the same from the other too!
Actually it s maybe the most important test for my special man. If he is positive, gives me advice, safety, and support me in whatever I decide and go through: then he is my man.
To support ... to encourage ... to lean on ... Some friends might do this... family might... and some might not. I think when we're younger, we don't consider this as much. As we experience challenges, we think about it more. I've been thinking about this lately.
It's good to know that you're ready to offer support and are looking for someone who is supportive as well. Are they tough to find?
I also wonder about our personal strength
Maybe a topic for another blog... "Do you have a personal support system?"
I have been lucky so far with most people in my live.
Hello Viking -
Man's best friend, right?
Itz - Thanks for lending a song!
Hi Roxana!
Perhaps you've provided just the right headline for someone's profile.
Yes, there are times I need it as well. It's not about her having a strong arm to pull me to my feet though. It's more of a feeling, as you probably know. It's knowing that when things go wrong, she'll help me face the challenges. It's knowing that we'll face them together... and frankly at times, just comfort each other... help each other cope when nothing can be done... the really tough times... unfortunately, these happen.
Please don't think of your hand as fragile. Think of it as strong - seriously. Consider your contribution to anyone, at any time, to be powerful. In that moment when someone feels weak, your strength (literal and figurative) is significant.
Thank you for adding your thoughts.
You are right of course. When the times get tough... yes, that's when you really know who your friends are.
How about when you're dating? Do you look for signs that they are the type of person who will stand with you? What would you look for?
And the tough question... Can you learn about this part of someone's personality without having to go through a crisis?
Some difficult questions, I think.
Good family and good friends. Awesome!
Loyalty is a wonderful trait. Having good relationships with family is treasure that not everyone has. Building relationships with friends in the community is important too.
This comes around to dependent relationships and people who are 'givers and takers' ... it isn't simple but nurturing good relationships is an important part of our lives, in my opinion.
Thank you for adding your thoughts!
A though situation we face on in life might be the best time to see if your partner sincerely care about you or not.
I believe that almost all of us have gone through that situation before. I was very lucky that my family and friends were the one who cheered me up when I was down so I could get up again. Big thanks to them
Hope life's treating you well lately
Tough situations... yes, they happen. It's part of being human so we can't avoid it.
I'm very happy to hear that your family and friends have been with you during tough times... ready to help you through it just as I'm sure you've been ready to help them.
We remember to smile... we tell jokes... we watch the wonder in a child's eyes. Through this, we build strength. We build our reserve of positive emotions that can help carry us through the tough times. It will still be difficult, but with a strong partner (referring to my comment to Roxana) we can get through the storms that come.
I really value the people who are ready to be with me when there's a storm. They are true treasure.