Open your eyes just a LITTLE wider ;-)
So quick to pass judgementHow long have you known him/her?
3 days? 3 weeks? 3 months? 3 years?
A man spends 10 years working, taking care of his 3 children and cancer stricken wife
His wife passes
He loses his job
He networks online, while emailing resumes, meets new people, chats, blogs
He lied and said he was an accountant when really he was forced to leave his job, due to lack of work
He felt shameful enough because he was homeless and let his family down
The world on his shoulders
He failed
But hd behind what little strength he held onto behind a computer screen, carelessly typing on the keyboard at the local library
In search of caring words.... A friend....some encouragement to repair his already damaged facade
But he said he was an accountant
He lied
He is labeled as a liar, manipulater, a bad man
Was he really?
Because of one untruth?
A woman spends her whole life with negative criticism
As a child......overweight....insecure....poor....unattractive, according to society standard
Bullied to the point of being ridiculed, beaten and spat upon
Time passes, facial features change ...... Though still poor and still overweight, she is beautiful
But just not beautiful enough still for the standof society
She networks online, while emailing resumes, meets new people, chats, blogs
She edits her profile photos so she appears thinner, taking mostly facial photos to focus more on her beautiful face rather than her curvy plump body.
She wants to feel accepted by those who normally would scoff at her if they were to meet in person
In search of caring words.... A friend....some encouragement to repair her already damaged facade
But she is fake
Her photos were misleading
She is labeled as a liar, manipulater, a bad woman
Is she really?
Because of one untruth?
Many people say and do many things for many different reasons. If you don't know a man or a woman, never assume the kind of person they truly are based on a single mistake they make. Some people may say or do something randomly on impulse because its how they're feeling during that moment. There's always a reason, a purpose for our actions. There's no such thing as a bad man or bad woman because they've made a mistake. You never really know unless you've walked a mile in their shoes. So unless you're perfect, which is certainly not possible, carefully view yourself, your own misgivings and embrace your own faults before you judge others.
Comments (36)
Wolowitz said it as it is...
Read the blog again....all that is mentioned is viewpoints of those on the opposite side of a computer screen....how those judge someone by just words and pictures on a screen, rather than knowing who they are and where they come from.......then out comes wife beating....
All I'm saying is never to judge a book by its cover without browsing through the pages to get the whole story first
Funny though, in your comments you don't refer to the actual scenarios given in the blog but instead create your own ..pay more attention to the actual blog rather than create your own interpretation of what youve assumed .... Your way of thinking dear, not mine.
If you are going to make huge, broard sweeping statements such as the above, you are going to be challenged, darling.
I'll let you get on with your sociology lesson.
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
An eye for an eye (makes the world blind)
You Reap what you sow.
You have written a blog based on forgiveness. the penultimate reason for Free will in christian ethos, and the reason for the wrath of many Gods,
Im afraid you got a fight on if you want to corral everybody to one side or the other of this argument. Like I posted on a blog a day or two ago We all have a little gavel hidden on us somewhere.
and We are all Judges of and in our own existence. Some more so than others. In my opinion of course
"So let us seek the good in all things."
Thank you.
Yes we all judge....though some don't realize it .... The blog just advises to keep an open eye to that realization in an attempt of avoidance of falling into that same trap time and again, though inevitable as It is at times
But yes, we've also all told a little lie from time to time, though we may forget it being told, we're all guilty
Putting those two facts together creates an endless cycle
Not trying one side over another, just voicing an observation.....there will always be those who agree and those who disagree. There are no right or wrong answers for everyone has their own view as an individual.
African saying or not, it still holds true, its a common reference here in the states as well
i believe serenity just tried to say this.
No deception about looks, age, etc., you just get chatting and gradually get to know a person. People in Ireland are quite open about being out of work btw.
I met guys who lied on their profile and that was it for me, I wouldn't be interested in them. I think you can just leave things of your profile and talk about it in private mail.
I have made a similar mistake years ago, though I had paid for his plane ticket from England to come to the states for a month on visa .... Fact is, he was very different than he was online. Many things said in text weren't true. I just played it out, treated him like a guest in our country.....we had a month so I just made the best of it, knowing it wouldn't be forever and treated it like more of a cultural experience rather tha any type of relationship until he went back so it wasn't an uncomfortable situation for either one of us until he returned to his country. Was he happy about me discontinuing all contact? Of course, but I'd like to think he learned from it. Would I do it again? No. I certainly learned from the experience but i wouldnt be bitter about it. Lessons learned on his part and mine. He was wrong for lying.....for whatever reasons. And I made the mistake for allowing it to happen.
the problem is that some people don't care about not being judged and just being accepted as a person is not enough... people want their actions and behavior to be accepted also... and if you don't tolerate their manners, then they feel that you reject them as a person…
yes, we make "judgements", based in our values, education, culture, etc ... and obvious we all make mistakes...
What people see on their computer screen is this beautiful woman, who may very well be to some, but yet us considered to be fake when met in person. She was just trying to hide her own insecurities and be accepted. But thought of as a bad person because she was "fake". Both scenarios "labeled" without understanding.