LIVING A LIE

Inspired by a blog i have just recently read, i offer the following.
It has been my unfortunate experience to be associated with a person for a period of time that was not the person I thought I knew.
Now I am not that easily fooled, but over a reasonable period of time I had taken time to befriend this person and delve into their life. We shared many private things together, things that maybe our family members may not know.
We shared many hours getting to know each other, understanding each other’s traits and getting to the stage (or so I thought) that we knew each other as well as we knew ourselves.
It has come to pass, that the person I had befriended had been living a life full of lies.
This is the problem with the telling of just one lie, unless you own up to it, another lie is needed to cover up the first lie, and then another to cover that one and so on, like a snowball rumbling down a mountain it just gathers speed and becomes out of control.
Before you know it, your life has become a complete and total lie.
Not are you lying to those around you, but more importantly to yourself. How can anyone have such little regard for their own life that they would continue creating another lie to cover the lie before that and on it goes.
It matters not what the lies are, your age, where you work, your friend’s name, where you went to school, creating extra family members, using other people’s pictures and passing them off as your own. Even your name, your qualifications, what sort of phone you have, inventing a child you never really had or stating that a family member has passed or has a terminal illness. It is just being deceitful.
Now I know some people will say a little white lie is ok, but if you don’t own up to that little white lie, you have to invent another lie, and that is a little bigger than the first and not as white either, until you have been caught in a web of deceit. WHY would anyone want to do that to themselves and to those who try and surround them with love?
I am no angel, yes I have lied in the past, and will no doubt find a reason to be untruthful in the future, but I have not, and will not live my life as a lie.
The biggest problem comes when that person believes their own lies are the truth, when that happens, how can anyone differentiate what is real and not real.
Just recently I have had to deal with a person like this, a person I respected and held in high regard, a person who I was proud to say was a friend. I found myself doubting everything this person said to me, and that made me feel terrible, as if I was letting this person down in some way.
I went away to try and clear my head, with the help of other friends I researched some of things I was told, what I found out was mind boggling, it completely floored me, how could I have been so naive, so gullible as to believe without question for so long what was being told to me.
I am not bitter, just confused/bewildered as to why some people go to the level of deceit that they do in order to lie to people. The level of the deceit I uncovered included the help of others, others that may have befriended many other people.
I feel betrayed, but the person has betrayed themselves more I think.
Can I help, should I help?
What would you do? The scariest thing is you may even know a person like this.