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After a while...
After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman, not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn…
I found to my love...
I communicate them with this that finally I found somebody... he is pretty, intelligent, understanding and the most important thing that loves me... me same I want him, I believe that I am falling in love, it is even little time to affirm this, but if the things are developed very between both, possibly have wedding, and it can complete the expectation that made me visit this page... I hope everything leaves well with him... I want to all that find to their ideal as well as I found it in him...
A friend's greetings...
Sarah
A friend's greetings...
Sarah
REFLECTION
My House at rest in loving You, and all in and with You.
Open my eyes ... my ears ... my heart, O Lord.
Help me to see, to hear, to love
In TRUTH.
Life in the Fasting Lane
Right this moment it feels as though life is a spiral and I can look back across the curves down to the very centre, the moment where I ceased being a possibility and became a reality.
An unintended unexpected reality - my parents wedding night was cursed or blessed depending on the point of view with faulty contraception and nine months later to the day I made my first annoyong mark upon the world.
Looking back across the coils and convolutions I have turned life into I realise the amazing joke that life plays. For each year I live I seem to relinquish some bedrock certainty. I know so much less now than I did when I was born, a squirming yellow bundle - I was jaundiced - who contained the answer to the meaning of life. And promptly forgot it when I began to talk.
So many things I knew for certain, would have fought and sacrificed over have become mere possibilities in a world filled with different paths to take, different decisions to make.
My studies of philosophy no longer enthrall me, do not capture me in impassioned rhetoric and long late night discussions because when all is said and down and we pick our bleeding selves up of the floor of some sawdust strewn after hours bar it is all theory. All opinion.
Oh, I have my favorites of course and I read Epictetus and Aurelius with great joy and rich enjoyment as I read Suzuki, Russell, Schopenhauer or Zeek. And some will mutter to themselves that these are not all philosophers and that surety will make me smile. I used to have it myself, but no more.
In fact I think the spiral is inverted in my life. It starts on some farflung wide unimaginable curve and tunnels down through layer after layer of perception to the singularity of truth that I will know without a doubt in the moment that I expire.
From know it all to know nothing to completion. An admirable path. I am beginning to suspect fasting holds surprising secrets in its emptiness. Nothing in, everything out, tabula rasa all over again.
I really am enjoying this.
An unintended unexpected reality - my parents wedding night was cursed or blessed depending on the point of view with faulty contraception and nine months later to the day I made my first annoyong mark upon the world.
Looking back across the coils and convolutions I have turned life into I realise the amazing joke that life plays. For each year I live I seem to relinquish some bedrock certainty. I know so much less now than I did when I was born, a squirming yellow bundle - I was jaundiced - who contained the answer to the meaning of life. And promptly forgot it when I began to talk.
So many things I knew for certain, would have fought and sacrificed over have become mere possibilities in a world filled with different paths to take, different decisions to make.
My studies of philosophy no longer enthrall me, do not capture me in impassioned rhetoric and long late night discussions because when all is said and down and we pick our bleeding selves up of the floor of some sawdust strewn after hours bar it is all theory. All opinion.
Oh, I have my favorites of course and I read Epictetus and Aurelius with great joy and rich enjoyment as I read Suzuki, Russell, Schopenhauer or Zeek. And some will mutter to themselves that these are not all philosophers and that surety will make me smile. I used to have it myself, but no more.
In fact I think the spiral is inverted in my life. It starts on some farflung wide unimaginable curve and tunnels down through layer after layer of perception to the singularity of truth that I will know without a doubt in the moment that I expire.
From know it all to know nothing to completion. An admirable path. I am beginning to suspect fasting holds surprising secrets in its emptiness. Nothing in, everything out, tabula rasa all over again.
I really am enjoying this.
horse lovers
I am just a country chick looking for a horse loving man to have fun withh and a serious relationship but ne way if thats you e-mail me at racheypoo1766@yahoo.com !
Speaking from the Heart
How many times have you been deeply hurt by something someone said, only to be told by them, "But it was the truth." Perhaps this kind of "honesty" isn't the goal for true sharing between people. Read what this well-known writer has to say about speaking from the heart, instead of from "honesty" here:
SIMPLE SOLUTION: The ego is always creating symbols of defeat, just so it can tell itself it was in a fight. Its claim to reality is, "I oppose therefore I am." No wonder we often come away from conversations, even with friends, feeling slightly disappointed and dissatisfied. We delude ourselves if we think that we are communicating simply because we are literal. No two individuals' emotions are identical. On that level there is no joining. Only degrees of separateness can be expressed. Something deeper than "honesty" broadcasting our superficial thoughts and feelings is needed if we are to achieve a real connection with another person.
And remember, as Henry David Thoreau said, "The only way to speak the truth is to speak lovingly."
SIMPLE SOLUTION: The ego is always creating symbols of defeat, just so it can tell itself it was in a fight. Its claim to reality is, "I oppose therefore I am." No wonder we often come away from conversations, even with friends, feeling slightly disappointed and dissatisfied. We delude ourselves if we think that we are communicating simply because we are literal. No two individuals' emotions are identical. On that level there is no joining. Only degrees of separateness can be expressed. Something deeper than "honesty" broadcasting our superficial thoughts and feelings is needed if we are to achieve a real connection with another person.
And remember, as Henry David Thoreau said, "The only way to speak the truth is to speak lovingly."
I have been alone too long. Would you please pray
"Pray for the right man to come to me. I know he is out there."
Bhante Wimala says:
"The woman described the type of man she was waiting for: a kind, caring person who would love her unconditionally and accept her for who she was. She said that he should be an unselfish, honest, and generous person. After listening to her for a while, I said to her that the best I could do was to pray, not for the appearance of that man, but for the discovery, and maybe cultivation, within herself of all those qualities she wanted in a man. I told her that once she experienced those qualities within herself, there would be plenty of good men who would be attracted to her.
I encouraged her to spend time looking within and working on herself, instead of waiting with anxiety and frustration for the ideal man. I said, 'Maybe the wonderful man you are looking for is waiting for a wonderful woman. Are you ready now to fit into that spot? If not, are you prepared to do what is necessary so that you become the one qualified to fill the spot?'
I often meet people who are selfish, uncaring, unhappy, and aggressive. I see men who have a very poor image of women and women who are angry with men. They are looking for a relationship with someone who is unselfish, caring, happy, and gentle. They go on blaming others for their not being loved. If you believe that men are terrible, how are you going to attract a good man? If you believe women are detestable, how are you going to attract the right woman?
We have a saying in Sri Lanka that a flower that is full of nectar does not have to beg the honeybees to pollinate it. The bees will know how to find the flower so long as it has nectar. Once they find the flower, they will also be very careful not to destroy it.
If you want to attract human 'honeybees,' you need to be a flower--not just a beautiful flower but one that also has nectar, a sweet essence. For the bees, the outside of a flower does not matter much, because they know the sweetness is in the essence. For human beings, spirituality and love constitute the nectar of life, the sweet essence within."
Bhante Wimala says:
"The woman described the type of man she was waiting for: a kind, caring person who would love her unconditionally and accept her for who she was. She said that he should be an unselfish, honest, and generous person. After listening to her for a while, I said to her that the best I could do was to pray, not for the appearance of that man, but for the discovery, and maybe cultivation, within herself of all those qualities she wanted in a man. I told her that once she experienced those qualities within herself, there would be plenty of good men who would be attracted to her.
I encouraged her to spend time looking within and working on herself, instead of waiting with anxiety and frustration for the ideal man. I said, 'Maybe the wonderful man you are looking for is waiting for a wonderful woman. Are you ready now to fit into that spot? If not, are you prepared to do what is necessary so that you become the one qualified to fill the spot?'
I often meet people who are selfish, uncaring, unhappy, and aggressive. I see men who have a very poor image of women and women who are angry with men. They are looking for a relationship with someone who is unselfish, caring, happy, and gentle. They go on blaming others for their not being loved. If you believe that men are terrible, how are you going to attract a good man? If you believe women are detestable, how are you going to attract the right woman?
We have a saying in Sri Lanka that a flower that is full of nectar does not have to beg the honeybees to pollinate it. The bees will know how to find the flower so long as it has nectar. Once they find the flower, they will also be very careful not to destroy it.
If you want to attract human 'honeybees,' you need to be a flower--not just a beautiful flower but one that also has nectar, a sweet essence. For the bees, the outside of a flower does not matter much, because they know the sweetness is in the essence. For human beings, spirituality and love constitute the nectar of life, the sweet essence within."
Beautiful words..
May the sun
bring you new energy by day.
May the moon
softly restore you by night.
May the rain
wash away your worries.
May the breeze
blow new strength into your being.
May you walk
gently through the world and know
its beauty all the days of your life..
Becoming A More Successful Online Dater
Make no mistake I am a guy, however what you are about to read works equally as well for men or women. Online Dating is no different than any type of relationship, you get out of it ONLY as much as you are willing to put into it.
I hear all the time from men and women that nobody views their profile. That no one sends them email, or flowers, or ecards. Why?
My basic answer to you is no one knows you’re here. Say if I were to open a really great restaurant up out in the middle of some forest somewhere, and I offered $200.00 cash to the first 500 people that came thru the door, I would never have to pay a penny to anyone because nobody would show up if I didn’t advertise.
It is no different here. You don’t advertise, you don’t get. The more you advertise, look, flower, email or ecard, the more you get in return.
The best way to do this is to do a search in your comfort zone area. This is the area where you feel comfortable driving to for that someone special. Mine is something like 250 miles. Then you find yourself at least 20 possible matches, you visit their profile page to make sure that they are what you are looking for.
Now comes the time to email all 20 of them. What goes into that email we will talk about in a minute.
Face it some will not respond, maybe they have already found someone. Some will come and have a look but will not respond because you may not be right for them in their eyes. But you will eventually get a response. This is why you should set aside a time spot everyday to do this same thing over and over till you get it right.
About the email that you are about to send and this is very important.
The first thing that people look at when they get an email is the subject, be creative.
The second thing they look at is your photo, I personally toss the emails without photos.
The next thing they do is read the email. All email’s should be customized to the person you are writing to. NO ONE EMAIL FITS ALL type of thing. Keep them short but no one liners. Say something about the person, maybe something about their photo or their profile. This actually shows them that you actually took the time to have a look at it.
Leave them wanting to know more about you.
Ok now this part is VERY important, NEVER disqualify yourself in the email. By saying something like I know that I am not your type, but…. This just confirms that you are not their type.
If they like the email, the last thing that they are going to look at is your profile. And I will tell you about that in just a minute.
Now for those of you that have done all that, but still get nothing or are always getting what they don’t want, don’t give up yet. There is still a silver lining in this cloud for you as well.
Women don’t take offense to this cause you know it is true, and this applies to your profiles as well.
A profile should be like a woman’s skirt. If it is too short there is no mystery. If it is too long, nobody is going to look. Those so called cookie cutter profiles suck. Nobody wants to see the same thing everywhere they go. Make it interesting. Nobody is looking for the couch potato type. Don't over sell yourself. Just be yourself.
One last thing. It wouldn’t hurt if you dropped a flower on the people who visited your profile regardless if they send you an email or not. It is a nice gesture and it lets them know that you noticed them. The same applies to those who email you, even if they are not your type.
Together we can make this a greater dating experience for everyone.
I welcome your comments, any questions should be directed to my profile email.
Who knows if this goes well, I may even open up a forum thread just for this topic of discussion.
Thank you very much
The Outlaw Wolf
I hear all the time from men and women that nobody views their profile. That no one sends them email, or flowers, or ecards. Why?
My basic answer to you is no one knows you’re here. Say if I were to open a really great restaurant up out in the middle of some forest somewhere, and I offered $200.00 cash to the first 500 people that came thru the door, I would never have to pay a penny to anyone because nobody would show up if I didn’t advertise.
It is no different here. You don’t advertise, you don’t get. The more you advertise, look, flower, email or ecard, the more you get in return.
The best way to do this is to do a search in your comfort zone area. This is the area where you feel comfortable driving to for that someone special. Mine is something like 250 miles. Then you find yourself at least 20 possible matches, you visit their profile page to make sure that they are what you are looking for.
Now comes the time to email all 20 of them. What goes into that email we will talk about in a minute.
Face it some will not respond, maybe they have already found someone. Some will come and have a look but will not respond because you may not be right for them in their eyes. But you will eventually get a response. This is why you should set aside a time spot everyday to do this same thing over and over till you get it right.
About the email that you are about to send and this is very important.
The first thing that people look at when they get an email is the subject, be creative.
The second thing they look at is your photo, I personally toss the emails without photos.
The next thing they do is read the email. All email’s should be customized to the person you are writing to. NO ONE EMAIL FITS ALL type of thing. Keep them short but no one liners. Say something about the person, maybe something about their photo or their profile. This actually shows them that you actually took the time to have a look at it.
Leave them wanting to know more about you.
Ok now this part is VERY important, NEVER disqualify yourself in the email. By saying something like I know that I am not your type, but…. This just confirms that you are not their type.
If they like the email, the last thing that they are going to look at is your profile. And I will tell you about that in just a minute.
Now for those of you that have done all that, but still get nothing or are always getting what they don’t want, don’t give up yet. There is still a silver lining in this cloud for you as well.
Women don’t take offense to this cause you know it is true, and this applies to your profiles as well.
A profile should be like a woman’s skirt. If it is too short there is no mystery. If it is too long, nobody is going to look. Those so called cookie cutter profiles suck. Nobody wants to see the same thing everywhere they go. Make it interesting. Nobody is looking for the couch potato type. Don't over sell yourself. Just be yourself.
One last thing. It wouldn’t hurt if you dropped a flower on the people who visited your profile regardless if they send you an email or not. It is a nice gesture and it lets them know that you noticed them. The same applies to those who email you, even if they are not your type.
Together we can make this a greater dating experience for everyone.
I welcome your comments, any questions should be directed to my profile email.
Who knows if this goes well, I may even open up a forum thread just for this topic of discussion.
Thank you very much
The Outlaw Wolf
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