So what do you want...... (66)
Halv0: Hey Jo,
I think that what a person wants at first when introduced and dating another person, changes as time goes on. The more time we spend with someone, the more things that we like / don't like.
For example I was happily married to my wife for about 6 years, then she changed and the downward spiral began. I put it down to her illness, which may have been a contributing factor.
But after the divorce she was even more disagreeable toward me, also preventing through court action any of my relatives access to my daughter as well as preventing my own access and hence relationship with my daughter. So I realised that the first 6 years with her she was not the person she pretended to be and could no longer keep up the lies she was telling herself, and still continues to live.
My top 5 attributes:
1 - Accepting
2 - Her own person
3 - caring
4 - humourous
5 - attractive (eye of the beholder)
Dealbreaker: Pretending to be Christian like my first wife, when she is nothing of the sort.
So here ya go....
Thanx for the reply.......I did thing this would be interesting to see what other feel about what they want in a partner and what to others is important???? Looks like nobody has much to say about what the want or need from a partner/relationship......Maybe I want to much or am too complicated...I think that what a person wants at first when introduced and dating another person, changes as time goes on. The more time we spend with someone, the more things that we like / don't like.
For example I was happily married to my wife for about 6 years, then she changed and the downward spiral began. I put it down to her illness, which may have been a contributing factor.
But after the divorce she was even more disagreeable toward me, also preventing through court action any of my relatives access to my daughter as well as preventing my own access and hence relationship with my daughter. So I realised that the first 6 years with her she was not the person she pretended to be and could no longer keep up the lies she was telling herself, and still continues to live.
My top 5 attributes:
1 - Accepting
2 - Her own person
3 - caring
4 - humourous
5 - attractive (eye of the beholder)
Dealbreaker: Pretending to be Christian like my first wife, when she is nothing of the sort.
So here ya go....
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josingleinspain: Thanx for the reply.......I did thing this would be interesting to see what other feel about what they want in a partner and what to others is important???? Looks like nobody has much to say about what the want or need from a partner/relationship......Maybe I want to much or am too complicated...
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josingleinspain: Need or desire from a woman/man?????
passionate about life and learning
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
not necessarily top 5...but important to me
integrity
compassion
intelligence
openness
generosity of spirit
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
dishonest or manipulative for self gain
For example would you want to be with awoman man that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
nope
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
selfishness/arrogance
passionate about life and learning
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
not necessarily top 5...but important to me
integrity
compassion
intelligence
openness
generosity of spirit
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
dishonest or manipulative for self gain
For example would you want to be with a
nope
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
selfishness/arrogance
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josingleinspain: So anybody else got any more to say about this.
My five? Okay, here goes, he must be:1. warm-hearted
2. fit
3. gentle
4. trustworthy
5. relaxed/casual*
*though not dismissive or unattentive
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just for my partner to be honest nice long hair would be nice
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Hey Jono, or anyone who knows: how do I find out who's rated me (my profile) and comments/suggestions. I can't seem to find it in the "categories" choices. Thanks
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josingleinspain: Need or desire from a woman/man?????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Taken from my profile...A gentleman with a kind, caring and considerate nature as well as being a good communicator. To me, a man is defined by his beliefs, character and values and not by the material things he has. He is true to himself and those he cares about, he isn't pompous or arrogant....humble perhaps. He enjoys a good laugh and can find the humour in most anything.
A dealbreaker would be a man who doesn't have the above characteristics/qualities.
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I don´t go in with a plan.
Either they attract me or they don´t, initially.
IF the attraction is there........then, let´s say, after a few "getting to know each other sessions"....... the long term stuff requires commitment and dedication.....shouldn´t really be any deal breakers!!!
Either they attract me or they don´t, initially.
IF the attraction is there........then, let´s say, after a few "getting to know each other sessions"....... the long term stuff requires commitment and dedication.....shouldn´t really be any deal breakers!!!
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Very interesting so far... Now we are on a role. I love hearing others point of view on things. Thanks all keep it going please
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rohaan: Hey Jono, or anyone who knows: how do I find out who's rated me (my profile) and comments/suggestions. I can't seem to find it in the "categories" choices. Thanks
hiya
rohaani have mine shut off...(grin)
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Post Author: jono7
Forum Post:
passionate about life and learning
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship with somebody.
not necessarily top 5...but important to me
integrity
compassion
intelligence
openness
generosity of spirit
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
dishonest or manipulative for self gain
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
nope
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
selfishness/arrogance
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clever----clean ---50% attractive ---a deal breaker would mensa student ---------------------could not deal with ----conservative republican ----lol
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Halv0: Hey Jo,
I think that what a person wants at first when introduced and dating another person, changes as time goes on. The more time we spend with someone, the more things that we like / don't like.
For example I was happily married to my wife for about 6 years, then she changed and the downward spiral began. I put it down to her illness, which may have been a contributing factor.
But after the divorce she was even more disagreeable toward me, also preventing through court action any of my relatives access to my daughter as well as preventing my own access and hence relationship with my daughter. So I realised that the first 6 years with her she was not the person she pretended to be and could no longer keep up the lies she was telling herself, and still continues to live.
My top 5 attributes:
1 - Accepting
2 - Her own person
3 - caring
4 - humourous
5 - attractive (eye of the beholder)
Dealbreaker: Pretending to be Christian like my first wife, when she is nothing of the sort.
So here ya go....
So what would you do if you met somebody and the relationship has moved on.....the he/she changes work jobs and the whole status quo changes you don't see each other much because of longer working hours......never does anything in the line of any help in and around the house.....even thou you have 2 jobs as well. Would you except taking on his/her responsibilities ie. walking his/her dog and having no help??????I think that what a person wants at first when introduced and dating another person, changes as time goes on. The more time we spend with someone, the more things that we like / don't like.
For example I was happily married to my wife for about 6 years, then she changed and the downward spiral began. I put it down to her illness, which may have been a contributing factor.
But after the divorce she was even more disagreeable toward me, also preventing through court action any of my relatives access to my daughter as well as preventing my own access and hence relationship with my daughter. So I realised that the first 6 years with her she was not the person she pretended to be and could no longer keep up the lies she was telling herself, and still continues to live.
My top 5 attributes:
1 - Accepting
2 - Her own person
3 - caring
4 - humourous
5 - attractive (eye of the beholder)
Dealbreaker: Pretending to be Christian like my first wife, when she is nothing of the sort.
So here ya go....
Is that just being silly or would you feel the whole dynamic has changed for the worse. What will you do about it?????
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josingleinspain: Need or desire from a woman/man?????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
A nice cup of tea goes a long long way
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josingleinspain: Need or desire from a woman/man?????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
- his action & his words are match
- acceptance
- good leader ( I hate babysitting )
- good partner
- good lover (romantic)
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship ????
- manipulator traits and any kind of political correctness
For example would you want to be with a man that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
- I think about 50 years later, so just be smart in relationship !!! I don't need Brad Pitt or Einstein...
What will make you say this I can not deal with ???
- The man who values women just after animal instinct
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
- his action & his words are match
- acceptance
- good leader ( I hate babysitting )
- good partner
- good lover (romantic)
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship ????
- manipulator traits and any kind of political correctness
For example would you want to be with a man that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
- I think about 50 years later, so just be smart in relationship !!! I don't need Brad Pitt or Einstein...
What will make you say this I can not deal with ???
- The man who values women just after animal instinct
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josingleinspain: Need or desire from a woman/man?????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Sweet. caring, good personality, loyal, friendly
good looking to me as long as she likes to go out and have fun
she would have to be super dull and boring.
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Good
good personality
good looking
good wallet
good house
good car
good business
good future
good personality
good looking
good wallet
good house
good car
good business
good future
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heavensmile: Good
good personality
good looking
good wallet
good house
good car
good business
good future
good personality
good looking
good wallet
good house
good car
good business
good future
Is that the same thing as a fat and generous wallet?
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Peace, Joy, Love, Passion...
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Top 5 most important attribute a woman/man for you to be in a relationship
with somebody.
What would be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship????
For example would you want to be with a woman that is domesticated, just good looking, clever?????
What will make you say this I can not deal with????
Completely unrelated, and I am sorry for not adding to the conversation but you have an awesome username.