Can You Know A Stranger By Looking In Their Eyes? (139)
secretagent09: I never look into someone's eyes especially when I'm out and about. If someone is walking in the opposite direction that I'm walking I make a point of not looking at them at all. I feel they will take my "look" as a challenge. I don't look at people when I'm driving for the same reason.
However, I am observant of who is around me.
If I know someone well I feel it is respectful to look directly at them when we are talking. Nowadays, people are looking down at their cell phones and talking to someone at the same time.
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However, I am observant of who is around me.
If I know someone well I feel it is respectful to look directly at them when we are talking. Nowadays, people are looking down at their cell phones and talking to someone at the same time.
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Hiya SA
Do you think people will think you're challenging them if you looked at people with a smile on? I can understand how some people may feel challenged if it's just a stare without that little grin to accompany it. Being observant is a good thing and this is something lacking as well these days. Like you say, cell phones and other gadgets to distract. It's kinda sad to see this. 
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2intrigued: Men tend to mistake them for eyes.
I like eye contact :)
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Track16: I like eye contact :)
I'm sure you do.
Careful though, one may hit ya in the eye. 
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2intrigued: Hiya SA Do you think people will think you're challenging them if you looked at people with a smile on? I can understand how some people may feel challenged if it's just a stare without that little grin to accompany it. Being observant is a good thing and this is something lacking as well these days. Like you say, cell phones and other gadgets to distract. It's kinda sad to see this.
I'm hesitant to look at a man with a smile as he might see it as an invitation to get to know me.
Once in awhile I smile at women but in general they look bored to death and look away. God forbid they appear to be friendly. I find it comical when they do that.
New Jersey does not have friendly people. That sounds harsh, but that's the way it is.
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2intrigued: That's an excellent idea with or without the wheelie bin.
Deal...we'll do this and report back. I have on occasion, tried this while out shopping but they were all using their cell phones. But, this could work.
Deal...we'll do this and report back. I have on occasion, tried this while out shopping but they were all using their cell phones. But, this could work.
Yep, Deb....think I'll leave the wheelie bin at home....for this...
If I took bin for company, I may get strangers looking for sure, but for all the wrong reasons....
Snack time....
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secretagent09: I'm hesitant to look at a man with a smile as he might see it as an invitation to get to know me.
Once in awhile I smile at women but in general they look bored to death and look away. God forbid they appear to be friendly. I find it comical when they do that.
New Jersey does not have friendly people. That sounds harsh, but that's the way it is.
Once in awhile I smile at women but in general they look bored to death and look away. God forbid they appear to be friendly. I find it comical when they do that.
New Jersey does not have friendly people. That sounds harsh, but that's the way it is.
Damn, all those men out there not getting an invite to get to know you.
You might want to give it a try sometime. Ah yes, the poker faced people who seem so miserable...I've seen them and they live here too. Know what though? sometimes it's those people that I will look in the eye and smile and to my amazement, some of them will smile right back...no more poker face.
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BerrySmoothie: Yep, Deb....think I'll leave the wheelie bin at home....for this...
If I took bin for company, I may get strangers looking for sure, but for all the wrong reasons....
Snack time....
If I took bin for company, I may get strangers looking for sure, but for all the wrong reasons....
Snack time....
Who needs a darn wheelie bin anyway although they may not even notice it while they're texting. 
Enjoy your snack
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2intrigued: That's an excellent idea with or without the wheelie bin.
Deal...we'll do this and report back. I have on occasion, tried this while out shopping but they were all using their cell phones. But, this could work.
Deal...we'll do this and report back. I have on occasion, tried this while out shopping but they were all using their cell phones. But, this could work.
I can see this working..
You make eye contact, smile, and then feel awkward over the whole thing..
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Dancers use what they call the stare to make guys think theyre interested in them and get more money. 
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2intrigued: This latest social experiment might change the way you look at people.
‘I See You’ is a short film that explores the power of real human connection. As eye contact becomes a rare occurrence in the digital world we wanted to shed light on a culture starved of presence.
We watched 10 strangers make eye contact and silently acknowledge one another for 5 minutes. The results were uncontrollable; uncomfortable laughter, uncontrollable smiling, the pursing of lips, fidgeting of hands, tears.
Are we losing the human connection? Discuss please. This is also a picture thread.
‘I See You’ is a short film that explores the power of real human connection. As eye contact becomes a rare occurrence in the digital world we wanted to shed light on a culture starved of presence.
We watched 10 strangers make eye contact and silently acknowledge one another for 5 minutes. The results were uncontrollable; uncomfortable laughter, uncontrollable smiling, the pursing of lips, fidgeting of hands, tears.
Are we losing the human connection? Discuss please. This is also a picture thread.
2intrigued ,,, maybe yes,, couldn't really confirm by myself as i'm not used to looking/fixing a look at someone's eyes specially at strangers, but i've heard that you can find truths by looking directly at someone's eyes, they say liars couldn't resist a direct eye to eye confrontation.
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2intrigued: This latest social experiment might change the way you look at people.
‘I See You’ is a short film that explores the power of real human connection. As eye contact becomes a rare occurrence in the digital world we wanted to shed light on a culture starved of presence.
We watched 10 strangers make eye contact and silently acknowledge one another for 5 minutes. The results were uncontrollable; uncomfortable laughter, uncontrollable smiling, the pursing of lips, fidgeting of hands, tears.
Are we losing the human connection? Discuss please. This is also a picture thread.
‘I See You’ is a short film that explores the power of real human connection. As eye contact becomes a rare occurrence in the digital world we wanted to shed light on a culture starved of presence.
We watched 10 strangers make eye contact and silently acknowledge one another for 5 minutes. The results were uncontrollable; uncomfortable laughter, uncontrollable smiling, the pursing of lips, fidgeting of hands, tears.
Are we losing the human connection? Discuss please. This is also a picture thread.
I think it depends on the situation and the person.
When I talk to someone I will look into their eyes and I do notice that if I'm in high spirits doing my shopping etc. with a smile, I do get smiles in return.
Being too intensive with a stranger can be taken up wrong though, but being open as in smiling, not looking at the mobile all the time, engaging with people and looking in their eyes when talking does help to make a connection with people and start conversation.
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KNenagh: I think it depends on the situation and the person.
When I talk to someone I will look into their eyes and I do notice that if I'm in high spirits doing my shopping etc. with a smile, I do get smiles in return.
Being too intensive with a stranger can be taken up wrong though, but being open as in smiling, not looking at the mobile all the time, engaging with people and looking in their eyes when talking does help to make a connection with people and start conversation.
When I talk to someone I will look into their eyes and I do notice that if I'm in high spirits doing my shopping etc. with a smile, I do get smiles in return.
Being too intensive with a stranger can be taken up wrong though, but being open as in smiling, not looking at the mobile all the time, engaging with people and looking in their eyes when talking does help to make a connection with people and start conversation.
Are you a dancer?
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raphael119: Are you a dancer?
I like dancing but I'm not a professional.
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Ive read a little on eye contact and body language, its interesting how complex and subtle it can be. Most of it is unconcious stuff, very rapid, and can have profound communication.
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I like eye contact........
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You can ask KN to dance then!
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Specifically ? No ... It does take time for familiarity to breed contempt. 
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Of course you can. You can read the mood they're in and the mood they're usually in, you can see an introvert or an extrovert through the eyes, you can read respect in the eyes(or lack of it), you can read another's background(sometimes), you can see whether they want to punch, kiss, laugh at or laugh with you. Are they intimidated by you? Are they hypocrites? Are they in love with you? Do they secretly hate you? What do they really think?
It's all in the eyes and it's all instinct. At street level people are obviously going to be the best at this because they have and need to have keener instincts, and these instincts become blunted and foggy with affluence and age(often the intelligent/high IQd have these same enfeebled instincts).
It's all in the eyes and it's all instinct. At street level people are obviously going to be the best at this because they have and need to have keener instincts, and these instincts become blunted and foggy with affluence and age(often the intelligent/high IQd have these same enfeebled instincts).
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Obstinance_Works: Of course you can. You can read the mood they're in and the mood they're usually in, you can see an introvert or an extrovert through the eyes, you can read respect in the eyes(or lack of it), you can read another's background(sometimes), you can see whether they want to punch, kiss, laugh at or laugh with you. Are they intimidated by you? Are they hypocrites? Are they in love with you? Do they secretly hate you? What do they really think?
It's all in the eyes and it's all instinct. At street level people are obviously going to be the best at this because they have and need to have keener instincts, and these instincts become blunted and foggy with affluence and age(often the intelligent/high IQd have these same enfeebled instincts).
It's all in the eyes and it's all instinct. At street level people are obviously going to be the best at this because they have and need to have keener instincts, and these instincts become blunted and foggy with affluence and age(often the intelligent/high IQd have these same enfeebled instincts).
You'd be an interesting person Obs, to gaze into one's eyes, for 2 minutes.
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Next time we're out and about, when the wheelie bin goes out.... let's make a point of looking directly into a stranger's eyes and smiling and see what response we get.
....maybe even say hi....why should that be so difficult?....and we'll report back. I'm usually the one who looks everywhere else but the eyes, if I have things to do, but I'm going to try it....we may be pleasantly surprised.
That's an excellent idea with or without the wheelie bin.
Deal...we'll do this and report back. I have on occasion, tried this while out shopping but they were all using their cell phones.