Compliment vs Harrasment (54)

Feb 6, 2018 7:43 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
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A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?
Feb 6, 2018 9:57 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?
Sadly track this is to be avoided as almost anything you say can end up on #me too. I am afraid the pendulum of PC is at or near the top of the insane arc now.

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Feb 6, 2018 10:01 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?


Let's see...hmmm

Unless she was out in a field trying to fill in holes which could a danger to her lifestock , I wouldn't offer the 2nd 'compliment'

If she was somebody you didn't know, I wouldn't offer the 1st one either laugh

It has all to do with circumstance; your friendship and knowledge of the person; and how you say it.

The same words can be used in a polite respectful way, or with a leer..they mean different things then.
Feb 6, 2018 10:04 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
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I'm afraid to say anything these days uh oh
Feb 6, 2018 10:09 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?
....never pay a compliment to a woman....to them its a sign of weakness........professor grin laugh
Feb 6, 2018 10:14 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
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Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?
Don't bother to compliment women, because too many men have done it before you and their egos are already massive....talk to them and ask questions...don't treat them like prize or something special...don't talk about sex to them and remember to announce you are white male and privileged(We know it's a lie), before you start a conversation with them...grin
Feb 6, 2018 10:47 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Given the loaded indoctrination by the media toward generated paranoia, some women now will take the words Good Morning even said with a smile as a threat or Verbal abuse or harassment and some will go as far as to report the matter to Security or even Police.
Feb 6, 2018 11:20 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
jac_the_gripper
jac_the_gripperjac_the_gripper..., South Glamorgan, Wales UK15 Threads 3,719 Posts
It's context dependent,Track.

You could make a crude joke and the vast majority of women on the forums would laugh, or give as good as we get. We know you, we see your thoughtful side, we know you revel in crass jokes,we know it's not personal.

Somebody else could follow any one of us around the forums repeating how nice we look and we'd be running for the block button and yelling 'stalker'.

It's about recognising boundaries and that can be quite difficult. I know I've got it wrong saying something silly (forum flirt style) and I've had a mouthful back about the kind of woman I obviously am.

I can act the same with men and women - I might be accused of flirting with men, but not with women because of an assumption that I'm heterosexual.

There are cultural differences. The British will flirt with everyone including the pet hamster, but we're British, so no actual sex, please. giggle

Perception of harassment is to do with both parties - sometimes the giver gets it (slightly, or badly) wrong, sometimes the receiver gets it (slightly, or badly) wrong.

It's minefield, but a bit of thought and sensitivity stops most of us getting it really badly wrong and stepping into total creep territory.
Feb 6, 2018 11:41 AM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
jac_the_gripper: It's context dependent,Track.

You could make a crude joke and the vast majority of women on the forums would laugh, or give as good as we get. We know you, we see your thoughtful side, we know you revel in crass jokes,we know it's not personal.

Somebody else could follow any one of us around the forums repeating how nice we look and we'd be running for the block button and yelling 'stalker'.

It's about recognising boundaries and that can be quite difficult. I know I've got it wrong saying something silly (forum flirt style) and I've had a mouthful back about the kind of woman I obviously am.

I can act the same with men and women - I might be accused of flirting with men, but not with women because of an assumption that I'm heterosexual.

There are cultural differences. The British will flirt with everyone including the pet hamster, but we're British, so no actual sex, please.

Perception of harassment is to do with both parties - sometimes the giver gets it (slightly, or badly) wrong, sometimes the receiver gets it (slightly, or badly) wrong.

It's minefield, but a bit of thought and sensitivity stops most of us getting it really badly wrong and stepping into total creep territory.


Jac, Say you was waiting at the bus stop and someone pinched your a** and you turned around a saw the guy, and thought he was "drop dead" cute...would it matter ? heart1
Feb 6, 2018 12:32 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
jac_the_gripper
jac_the_gripperjac_the_gripper..., South Glamorgan, Wales UK15 Threads 3,719 Posts
No, it wouldn't matter.

I'd still find the action intrusive and probably threatening whatever he looked like.

If a man can't, or won't recognise the inappropriateness of crossing a boundary like that, what else might he do?

What's the chance of me being bigger and stronger than him?

Rarely having to deal with those kind of situations is one of the most liberating things about getting old. laugh
Feb 6, 2018 12:35 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?


Depends on whose saying it.
Some men r just creepy to the core.
Or women for that matter...( in case lee is reading this and goes off on one)
Feb 6, 2018 12:35 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Mesange1
Mesange1Mesange1Ici, Poitou-Charentes France1 Threads 129 Posts
Frankly, it is very different. Harrasment is a heavy pression, a vulgar and rude insistence that gives you a deep repulsion for the person in question and for his or her manners, speech or attitude. Personaly I avoid them and block them straight away.

Conversely sincere compliments shine like rays of sun, beautiful and gentle words make you smile when they come from a person you appreciate and love. You feel them through the heart and accept them just like gifts. So do I.
Feb 6, 2018 1:15 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
jac_the_gripper: No, it wouldn't matter.

I'd still find the action intrusive and probably threatening whatever he looked like.

If a man can't, or won't recognise the inappropriateness of crossing a boundary like that, what else might he do?

What's the chance of me being bigger and stronger than him?

Rarely having to deal with those kind of situations is one of the most liberating things about getting old.


You know that old quiz show called "Mr & Mrs" - the question I posed was one I remember from it (no idea why) laugh

I had a cat whistle from a young lady who was in the back seat of a recoverable which went passed the high st...I can say that it did not feel good (about the "compliment") at all. If someone else told me this without it happening to me, I would probably think they was taking things the wrong way, when they have not. In this instance, most likely the cat whistle was done with the best of intentions in regards to giving a compliment from a far.wave
Feb 6, 2018 1:42 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
jac_the_gripper:
I can act the same with men and women - I might be accused of flirting with men, but not with women because of an assumption that I'm heterosexual.


Oy missus!
You flirt with me professor

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Feb 6, 2018 3:15 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Akeldama40
Akeldama40Akeldama40Hernando, Florida USA1 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
Always consider we live in a do as I say not as I do world. A woman today is empowered by the only thing that they know all men want and will start wars over if possible. It rests between their legs. Its always been that way.
Every thought, every sign of emotional endearment from a man to a woman of their interest these days is constantly misconstrued over analyzed and misinterpreted as some form of s*xual harassment. As long as its the women making the approach that's OK if the guy makes an approach he is considered either a perv or he is a mama's boy or gay if he doesn't.
Men can never reach a woman until he has her heart. He has to have some quality that she likes or is somewhat lacking in her own personality. Paying a compliment deep down inside is what all girls like but the PC people have distorted the idea of offering compliments to women and convinced them that anything a man tells her is lie or not convincing enough or he wants something of her like sex. Well, to consider on this site its next impossible for sex being everyone lives too damn far. Yet, it is nice to have someone we can relate to. Its nicer still when the men stop acting like useless wankers and treat their women of interest with the love and respect they deserve.
However, its equally important the women of their interest stop dodging the issue of what they think they want or don't want. Women love to declare their independence of needing or wanting a man in their lives but then complain they don't have one or cannot find one suitable. I think the guys all they want to know is what women want. That is the $64000.00 question To be honest most men don't know what they want either. Everyone can easily enumerate what they don't want. They may like the attention and the playing of the game but, when the rules of the game are broken then it becomes harassment.
Feb 6, 2018 3:27 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Callistee
CallisteeCallisteeTokyo, Japan66 Posts
Track16: A facebook post got me thinking, when do a compliment become harassment? Like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. I would imagine that something like "you look nice today" would still pass for a compliment where as "hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?" would probably be on the side of harassment.

What do you consider a compliment and harassment to be?


I think that a harassment is something very serious - constant verbal bullying and insulting.

'You look nice today' is a compliment.

'Hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?' is a rude stupid joke.

Compliments are nice and I cannot understand how someone can be against them or think that they mean something more than just - people being nice and polite? dunno I think that we should all compliment each other (both men and women) much more. It's an effort to see something good in someone and it can really make a difference. smile
Feb 6, 2018 3:29 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
the best compliment a man can give a woman is to tell her the truth.......regardless......professor giggle giggle giggle
Feb 6, 2018 3:35 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Callistee: I think that a harassment is something very serious - constant verbal bullying and insulting.

'You look nice today' is a compliment.

'Hey baby, can I stuff your holes full?' is a rude stupid joke.

Compliments are nice and I cannot understand how someone can be against them or think that they mean something more than just - people being nice and polite? I think that we should all compliment each other (both men and women) much more. It's an effort to see something good in someone and it can really make a difference.


Very well said Call.
Ive never understood people who think its a flaw to compliment.
The way i grew up was under harsh critisism all the time....once i was old enough to see how damaging that can be i made the decision to see the good in all people and tell someone if i thought so.

We are our own harshest critics...i know i am...because of that...anything anyone throws at me flows right off me...ill say my piece but i wud not hold onto it.

Anything thats crass or crude i just dont like.

But then again it all depends on who says it because some..like truheart ..say it in jest and theres no malice...and u can just tell him to piss off tongue ...he never does but i tell him..lol.

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Feb 6, 2018 3:37 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Deedee123x: Very well said Call.
Ive never understood people who think its a flaw to compliment.
The way i grew up was under harsh critisism all the time....once i was old enough to see how damaging that can be i made the decision to see the good in all people and tell someone if i thought so.

We are our own harshest critics...i know i am...because of that...anything anyone throws at me flows right off me...ill say my piece but i wud not hold onto it.

Anything thats crass or crude i just dont like.

But then again it all depends on who says it because some..like truheart ..say it in jest and theres no malice...and u can just tell him to piss off ...he never does but i tell him..lol.


Just to add...not from my parents did the critisism come...wouldnt have it on my conscience that i had left that thought out there without clearing it up.
Feb 6, 2018 3:37 PM CST Compliment vs Harrasment
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Track16online now!Track16Near Clarenville, Newfoundland Canada453 Threads 6,011 Posts
Deedee123x: Very well said Call.
Ive never understood people who think its a flaw to compliment.
The way i grew up was under harsh critisism all the time....once i was old enough to see how damaging that can be i made the decision to see the good in all people and tell someone if i thought so.

We are our own harshest critics...i know i am...because of that...anything anyone throws at me flows right off me...ill say my piece but i wud not hold onto it.

Anything thats crass or crude i just dont like.

But then again it all depends on who says it because some..like truheart ..say it in jest and theres no malice...and u can just tell him to piss off ...he never does but i tell him..lol.


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