Apologies (102)

Feb 14, 2018 11:40 AM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
This is just an advice thread.
Have u ever had to deal with a situation where you were wronged in a big way.
For years you are hoping for a sincere apology that you know is never going to come.

Its fine if you never have to see this person again, you can learn to let go and move on, but if it is someone who you have to deal with everyday knowing what they did, how have any of you overcome this.



bouquet
Feb 14, 2018 12:43 PM CST Apologies
Hi Deedee,wave I've been waiting for an apology for over 15 years from a couple of my immediate family members and I know I'm never ever going to get it.
So I wrote them off as a bad debt.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Feb 14, 2018 12:47 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x: This is just an advice thread.
Have u ever had to deal with a situation where you were wronged in a big way.
For years you are hoping for a sincere apology that you know is never going to come.

Its fine if you never have to see this person again, you can learn to let go and move on, but if it is someone who you have to deal with everyday knowing what they did, how have any of you overcome this.



I’ve received few apologies after being wronged. Genuine ones felt good when it happened. On the other hand, a lot of other wrongs will never be righted because the other person, for any number of reasons, probably doesn’t realize that they wronged me. Most apologies received were selfish ones and for ulterior reasons too. wave
Feb 14, 2018 12:53 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x: This is just an advice thread.
Have u ever had to deal with a situation where you were wronged in a big way.
For years you are hoping for a sincere apology that you know is never going to come.

Its fine if you never have to see this person again, you can learn to let go and move on, but if it is someone who you have to deal with everyday knowing what they did, how have any of you overcome this.
Hi Dee wave

we all have some faults and we feel regret , we do apologize too , for the answer of your question , i dont think i have done that much to be in that situation wine
Feb 14, 2018 1:08 PM CST Apologies
Miwagi
MiwagiMiwagiFlyover, Kentucky USA72 Threads 2 Polls 3,170 Posts
I always get non-apology apologies like: I'm sorry you took it that way.dunno
Feb 14, 2018 1:18 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Bearwoman: Hi Deedee, I've been waiting for an apology for over 15 years from a couple of my immediate family members and I know I'm never ever going to get it.
So I wrote them off as a bad debt.


Hi BW

Do u find it affecting your interactions with those family members
Feb 14, 2018 1:22 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
galrads: I’ve received few apologies after being wronged. Genuine ones felt good when it happened. On the other hand, a lot of other wrongs will never be righted because the other person, for any number of reasons, probably doesn’t realize that they wronged me. Most apologies received were selfish ones and for ulterior reasons too.


Hey Gal.

Yes ive had a fair share of them too...theres alot that we can accept as just a bad moment on heir behalf or a bad judgement...we all do it.

Its the ones where it has affected ur peace of mind and stripped you of any self esteem or confidence.
The sad thing is they know they did wrong.
They even know they should apologise or i should hope they do, but yet it never comes.

I know plenty will say, get over it, let it go...but sometimes its just not that easy really.
bouquet
Feb 14, 2018 1:24 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
ali110: Hi Dee

we all have some faults and we feel regret , we do apologize too , for the answer of your question , i dont think i have done that much to be in that situation


Hi Ali..how r u?
Yes i know im not trying to portray myself as someone who hasnt ever done someone wrong.
I like to think i always apologise...in fact sometimes i over apologise for certain things.

Im sure you havnt done anything that bad either, Ali.
wave
Feb 14, 2018 1:25 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Miwagi: I always get non-apology apologies like: I'm sorry you took it that way.


Ya those are the worst. mumbling
Feb 14, 2018 1:27 PM CST Apologies
truheart1941
truheart1941truheart1941brentwood, Essex, England UK69 Threads 1 Polls 31,406 Posts
looking back.....i can honestly say......I,ve always done the right things for people......its they ,,,,,iwho should apologies to me.........I joke not. tru.
Feb 14, 2018 1:28 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x: Hi BW

Do u find it affecting your interactions with those family members


Deedee Yes it did affect me but they made their choice to play drama queens which I refused to subject myself too anymore.When neither of them apologized to me I thought oh well.Their lose and mine too.

It's so so sad because my immediate family had always been very important to me.Obviously there are no winners and everyone loses.

But at least I have my two sons and close friends.
Feb 14, 2018 1:33 PM CST Apologies
Miwagi
MiwagiMiwagiFlyover, Kentucky USA72 Threads 2 Polls 3,170 Posts
Deedee123x: Ya those are the worst.
Feb 14, 2018 1:35 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
truheart1941: looking back.....i can honestly say......I,ve always done the right things for people......its they ,,,,,iwho should apologies to me.........I joke not. tru.


Not so sure i believe you there Pete...mumbling

We all make mistakes hun grin
Feb 14, 2018 1:36 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Miwagi.

laugh
teddybear here have some love
Feb 14, 2018 1:38 PM CST Apologies
Track16
Track16Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada629 Threads 7,860 Posts
Deedee123x: This is just an advice thread.
Have u ever had to deal with a situation where you were wronged in a big way.
For years you are hoping for a sincere apology that you know is never going to come.

Its fine if you never have to see this person again, you can learn to let go and move on, but if it is someone who you have to deal with everyday knowing what they did, how have any of you overcome this.


I was expecting you to describe some horrible thing you done to someone and apologize for it, but this is cool. I have had that situation a few times and if I had a chance, I would make right.
Feb 14, 2018 1:38 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Bearwoman: Deedee Yes it did affect me but they made their choice to play drama queens which I refused to subject myself too anymore.When neither of them apologized to me I thought oh well.Their lose and mine too.

It's so so sad because my immediate family had always been very important to me.Obviously there are no winners and everyone loses.

But at least I have my two sons and close friends.


Sorry to hear that BW.
sad flower

Sometimes families can take u for granted and dont realise the hurt they can cause you.
Feb 14, 2018 1:41 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland72 Threads 6,050 Posts
Track16: I was expecting you to describe some horrible thing you done to someone and apologize for it, but this is cool. I have had that situation a few times and if I had a chance, I would make right.


Hey D.

No. Id like to think id figure out my way to apologise of it were the case.

You would make what right D?
If you were the one wronged how can u make ot right??
Feb 14, 2018 1:41 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x: Sorry to hear that BW.


Sometimes families can take u for granted and dont realise the hurt they can cause you.


Deedee Thank you I've always been a strong lady and have been a survivor too.hug
Feb 14, 2018 1:41 PM CST Apologies
Deedee123x: Hi Ali..how r u?
Yes i know im not trying to portray myself as someone who hasnt ever done someone wrong.
I like to think i always apologise...in fact sometimes i over apologise for certain things.

Im sure you havnt done anything that bad either, Ali.
Not happy being away from you hole grin ..haha sorry just fun laugh

I am good thank you , nothing wrong to post such sort of thread Dee , it is a good deep subject ,wine hug
Feb 14, 2018 1:42 PM CST Apologies
Track16
Track16Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada629 Threads 7,860 Posts
Deedee123x: Hey D.

No. Id like to think id figure out my way to apologise of it were the case.

You would make what right D?
If you were the one wronged how can u make ot right??


Smoke a fat joint with them and admit my mistakes.
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