Why do young people join dating sites? ( Archived) (147)

Hey you!

You need to get over to the 'flirt' threads!

Besos.

Thanks Lorraine.

I'm not going to bother replying to the dear child but she's obviously referring to the one and only e-mail I sent her asking why she thought a particular person she had, and still has, a problem with, seemed to be chasing me around the forums with negative remarks. No big secret, so I'm not sure why she had a little tissy fit and mentioned it like it was going to get me into trouble. Tantrums tantrums!

Not sure what she means by housewives though? Perhaps it's a dig at us 'oldies' who know nothing.

Never mind, I'm sure she'll be a much more rounded personality in 20 years time eh!

I like the pic with Jim and Nuala, where was it taken?

A few weeks ago when we had a meet.
Another one planned for January. Have you signed up.
Hope you can make it.

You are right about not reply anymore. It will be someone else turn tomorrow.

I think it's the cute chick in the brown!!!!!!!!!!!

MY you are a saucy grandma arent you...I like you, you can stay....

To begin with, if you are under the 30 year old age that Jan originally posted, this could have easily be precieved as a hostile thread to basically anyone of that age group that signs up for dating sites. However, I'm sure this wasn't her intention but got misunderstood as such.

I mean I can understand what she is saying in basically, why are we signing up for dating sites and not out enjoying youth and such. For some it's just alot easier to sift through the crap that is the internet, than to waste a full night on one loser, when we can discard numerous losers in one fell swoop on the internet.

It all comes down to the sign of the times. I understand that traditionally of yester-year that people would go out to a bar, get a drink, hook-up and miraculously have a relationship. Things aren't quite like that anymore. The new generation sees alot of the mistakes that our parents had made and remember how "dry" our childhoods where and honestly want to do whatever little bit we can to make sure that when we meet this person of our dreams, that it is the one that we can be without. That way we don't have to experience heartbreak and such.

However, I do believe that is part of life and part of growing up. But regardless, it's a moment of life I could do without. Pretty much we want our first relationship to be the one that lasts forever.

100 years ago, it would have been unfounded that we looked for people that we loved to begin with and settled with people whom our parents chose for us. Once again, times are a changing though and we find ourselves in the digital age were we can look for those exactly like us because we inevitably feel more comfortable with those that are of similar backgrounds.

As far as guys in their 20s flirting with older women, I personally always have, I find them to be more willing to sustain a serious relationship and be of a more intellectual nature. I want a woman I can not only be romantic with but someone I can have an intelligent conversation with about world events. I don't ask they agree w/ my views, just that they be willing to accept that I do. This is harder to find in younger people because most don't really even have an opinion of the world around them, except on what hairspray or nail polish to use.

If I met a younger woman that could sustain an intelligent conversation and such, I'd be just as attracted to them, as I am to an older woman. But the fact remains, in most cases, this isn't so.

In essance, we are all here to find who we feel we want. Younger & older, we are all just looking for that someone with whom we feel comfortable enough with to say "I love you" too and such. There is no magical rhyme or reason as to why young & old come onto these sites except that we are all looking for some sort of acceptance, whether it be friendships, or romantic relationships.


In closing, sorry about the wall of text, but I just thought I'd add my 2 cents. I hardly reply to forums but figured this one I would.

Drinks are on me

I started doing dating sites when I was in my mid-20s. The fact was all my friends were getting married and having kids. Then it came down to they never wanted to go out. I don't enjoy going to do a lot of things alone so I rarely went out and therefore rarely met anyone outside of work (which dating a coworker is taboo in my book, did that when I was younger and it was horrible after we broke up).

2 of my longest lasting relationships came after trial and error with dating sites and since I'm single again, with 1 truly single friend (no husband or boyfriend or kids) in my life, I am still to a point where I don't get out to meet anyone.

Via classes, ok. Gym, no. Work, HECK no.