Friends or Not? ( Archived) (22)

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ye its difficult babe....i had that prob with my ex



you see i still loved him so thought i could be friends but i coudnt handle it.....so its best out really babe x babsie xx

I cant believe it............

I agree with everyone else!!!!

TELL HER??????

There's probably lots of reasons she may want to still be friends, but in most cases of ex's seems moving on is usally best for everyone unless children are involved, then "yes" I think you should always try to be friends. The children need to see a caring respect towards each other from their parents for a lifetime.

Earl & I try to do that for his children and for my children. Good, Bad or Ugly that man or woman is still that child's parent.

You didn't say specifics about the relationship with your ex, the length of time together, etc....that might have some bearing on why she wants to keep in touch with you. Course that's none of our business on CS.

I hope for you both that moving on in the near future happens and that there will be happy memories to accompany the hurtful ones that tore you apart. I'm a hopeless optimist and always want to remember something positive out of every situation in my life.

Shelia

honesty really is the best policy saves more heartbreak in the end

Hey peachesandray, and everyone else,

She isn't my ex wife, but my ex girlfriend. There aren't any kids involved. I have told her. and I just can't get her to leave me alone. She even has been lurking here in the forums and has told me not to post anything about her. My response was " I'll post what I want and about whoever I want in these forums" I never post names or anything that could be traced back to them, so whats the harm in a little advice and forum therapy. If she would just realize that If she would leave me alone, that would make me happy. She always says that she wants me to be happy.

It's always ambigous to keep friendship with an ex...
Because one of the two is often the one who has been left and the other, the one who acted for it...
I never tried, friendship means complicity and love but not the same you found into a relationship. Feelings are never erased completely of our memories, even if they don't exist anymore, they did one time. Therefore we can't forget for good, right?

sometimes the anger and hurt we experienced can cloud our mind, and decision making. Sacrificing, letting go of a friendship is not a decision to be made lightly.

definitely a tough call to make.... best of luck on making it.

I completely agree. She has told me that she is over me, yet I have mentioned a couple of times about my new girlfriend, and she can't handle that. I get coments like "Did you have to throw that in there?". Yet I listen to her talk about the Guy that's flying her to Miami for the weekend on his private jet, and the guy she went to dinner with. I think it's great that she's dating other guys, but I'm not really interested in hearing about it. That's something she should talk about with her girlfriends. I truly believe that she isn't really over me because of the comments she makes, but I've moved on, and just want to live my life without her in it. Do you think that that is too much to ask?