I'll admit it....I'm scared (167)
Sure I do hun and depending on how I am feeling that inventory changes.
I am a middle aged single Mother of 3 (one with a learning disilbilty) with a history of mental illness and will be on meds for the rest of my life.
I am short, a bit overweight, have stretch marks and a bit passed mny sell by date.I have been in a very abusive relationship and am always weary of the next one.
God Starlin could go on all night, what did you start.....
I am a middle aged single Mother of 3 (one with a learning disilbilty) with a history of mental illness and will be on meds for the rest of my life.
I am short, a bit overweight, have stretch marks and a bit passed mny sell by date.I have been in a very abusive relationship and am always weary of the next one.
God Starlin could go on all night, what did you start.....
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vonney: Sure I do hun and depending on how I am feeling that inventory changes.
I am a middle aged single Mother of 3 (one with a learning disilbilty) with a history of mental illness and will be on meds for the rest of my life.
I am short, a bit overweight, have stretch marks and a bit passed mny sell by date.I have been in a very abusive relationship and am always weary of the next one.God Starlin could go on all night, what did you start.....
I am a middle aged single Mother of 3 (one with a learning disilbilty) with a history of mental illness and will be on meds for the rest of my life.
I am short, a bit overweight, have stretch marks and a bit passed mny sell by date.I have been in a very abusive relationship and am always weary of the next one.God Starlin could go on all night, what did you start.....
See? Told ya I was a mean old man
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pretzelman: See? Told ya I was a mean old man
And you just love proving your point
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First off if you want others to give an honest opinion then you need to as well. The fact that you have run women off, to save them from you, shows that you are not unattractive... and do you really think that your crusty exterior fools any of us??? We see right through it and love you for your effort!
Ship you show a great tolerance and open mind, you are not an abusive man and have a kind heart in spite of your efforts to cover it up... so please, knocking yourself isn´t honest... try taking a look at yourself through someone else´s eyes, stop and look at the women who are posting things like should I stay with a man who beats me when I´m pregnant... and realize how much you truly have to offer someone.
Ok... now I´ll shut up... sorry I broke your rules
Ship you show a great tolerance and open mind, you are not an abusive man and have a kind heart in spite of your efforts to cover it up... so please, knocking yourself isn´t honest... try taking a look at yourself through someone else´s eyes, stop and look at the women who are posting things like should I stay with a man who beats me when I´m pregnant... and realize how much you truly have to offer someone.
Ok... now I´ll shut up... sorry I broke your rules
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Thank you for your honesty Ship! That says alot! And I assess myself ALL the time! I'm overweight. And can't lose it because of health issues. I have more health issues than your average 37yr. old. I'm not drop-dead gorgeous and look like a model. I live with my sister and brother-in-law for various reasons. My boys aren't 18 yet. Well, the oldest one will be next year. ALOT of guys don't want someone with teenagers. And I'm not wealthy. I'm also a burned-out Christian. So there's my honesty in a nutshell for those interested......
Hugs to one and all,
Merky
Hugs to one and all,
Merky
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pretzelman: See? Told ya I was a mean old man
I have got the impression that you are very much in real life as you are on here.
Am I right?
Well, ladies, does that scare you?
For money - at that age, most people have got their own economy to some kind of level, bit it low or high, but they are used to it. I do not believe they really need to find financial support; it is something else in their mind.
For health - don't we all build up a number of issues over time? I have so far got three to live with, and I am sure they will increase with one every 5 years.
Relation wise, to let someone in to the privacy of your life and mind, the fear of commitment has a point. I was scared of that just thinking about it, I'd still be if I was to figure out what I would do if I did not commit to one that already know me.
Your biggest problem is that you have become an icon here and therefor almost untouchable
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I feel like you do Ship.
No money, I am on social assistance
No house, Live with my daughter
Health, panic attacks, asthma, trouble walking, arthritis over all of my body
Have 5 kids- two will not talk to me
- three who have alot of problems, which I cannot separate myself from
Feel who would want a 58 yr. old lady with so much baggage.
So you see we are all alike in some way.
No money, I am on social assistance
No house, Live with my daughter
Health, panic attacks, asthma, trouble walking, arthritis over all of my body
Have 5 kids- two will not talk to me
- three who have alot of problems, which I cannot separate myself from
Feel who would want a 58 yr. old lady with so much baggage.
So you see we are all alike in some way.
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pretzelman: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.
Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"
Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"
OMG....We could be twins,only add 6 yrs.
I'm so poor, I can't afford to pay attention and the government is repossessing the vacant lot I'm living in. My belly keeps my feet from getting sunburned in the summer and my teeth are like stars, they come out everynight. Health wise, I've had TB as a babe, polio as a pre-teen, prostate cancer 5 yrs ago, a major heart attack 9mos ago. This body needs another trip down the assembly line. You think you lack of love prospects? I could'nt get laid in a womans prison with a fistful of Presidential Pardons....literally.
Welcome to the club of old age....other than all of that, I'm fantastic but getting better all the time.
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well...I can see this isn't going in the direction I was hoping.
But yes, I try to show myself as I really see myself, others choose to see things that aren't there.
for those who did an honest self exam...thank-you for participating.
But yes, I try to show myself as I really see myself, others choose to see things that aren't there.
for those who did an honest self exam...thank-you for participating.
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>>>>>>>>> takes over mike......
One life. That's all we've got. It is a journey we might as well enjoy, since we have no other choice.
What is the point of restricting our very own soul for someone else's whims and desires?
Travel the route of discovery together yes.....
but leave my desires unfulfilled for the sake of following someone else's......NO.
Whatever the journey may bring along my path....but it is mine...
to life.
One life. That's all we've got. It is a journey we might as well enjoy, since we have no other choice.
What is the point of restricting our very own soul for someone else's whims and desires?
Travel the route of discovery together yes.....
but leave my desires unfulfilled for the sake of following someone else's......NO.
Whatever the journey may bring along my path....but it is mine...
to life.
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pretzelman: well...I can see this isn't going in the direction I was hoping.
But yes, I try to show myself as I really see myself, others choose to see things that aren't there.
for those who did an honest self exam...thank-you for participating.
Than at the end of the day ship that is all you can do.But yes, I try to show myself as I really see myself, others choose to see things that aren't there.
for those who did an honest self exam...thank-you for participating.
Sorry if I got a bit off track, but I started shooting off at my mouth and it just kept going.....
I don't think any of us want to be alone. I don't think any of us want to relive the bad that we have experienced.
Therefore I think the majority of when asked 'why are you single' its because we choose to be.
I have sweet fark all I can give you materially. But I want sweet fark all materially in return.
What I have is mine. What you have is yours.
Ok ill shut up now Im starting again
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Starlin, I'll repeat what I've said many times on here, and you can give me that coal if you want...it doesn't change who I am. I honestly don't care about a man's looks, money, or possessions. I care about his personality...and you have tons to offer a woman in the area of heart and personality.
I have my own house, car, and all the other toys. I would be willing to share those with the right man. (We'd have to work on getting him his own car, but we'd find a solution. I need mine for work. However, we do have buses here, and a lot of things within walking distance of where I live, so he wouldn't be housebound in the meantime.)
Yes, I've already supported one husband...and a family of four, actually, at that time. It wasn't easy, we were on a tight budget, but it worked for many years. And it was his meds that changed him and broke us up because he became selfish and abusive. And I've already married one man who wasn't anything that I'd normally be attracted to physically because I loved who he was inside. And I married him legally to put him on my medical benefits, knowing that he was very ill...and nursed him through his death. So, I know what I'm saying is true because I've been there, done that. And though I might be rare, I'm not unique. There are others out there, some of whom are right here on this site. It's just a matter of finding the right one, my friend.
I understand your fears...but it's not impossible for someone to love you just the way you are, Starlin.
I have my own house, car, and all the other toys. I would be willing to share those with the right man. (We'd have to work on getting him his own car, but we'd find a solution. I need mine for work. However, we do have buses here, and a lot of things within walking distance of where I live, so he wouldn't be housebound in the meantime.)
Yes, I've already supported one husband...and a family of four, actually, at that time. It wasn't easy, we were on a tight budget, but it worked for many years. And it was his meds that changed him and broke us up because he became selfish and abusive. And I've already married one man who wasn't anything that I'd normally be attracted to physically because I loved who he was inside. And I married him legally to put him on my medical benefits, knowing that he was very ill...and nursed him through his death. So, I know what I'm saying is true because I've been there, done that. And though I might be rare, I'm not unique. There are others out there, some of whom are right here on this site. It's just a matter of finding the right one, my friend.
I understand your fears...but it's not impossible for someone to love you just the way you are, Starlin.
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I often wonder why someone would be interested in me after they get to know me. I'm always surprised that someone looks past the health problems, etc and still is interested in me.
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dcj22: I often wonder why someone would be interested in me after they get to know me. I'm always surprised that someone looks past the health problems, etc and still is interested in me.
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I'm not scared, just realistic. Most women are a hell of alot prettier than me, and any man that says looks don't matter at all is a liar. Doesn't mean I don't have any confidence; just means I know my place and where I stand. 
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pretzelman: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.
Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"
Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"
Beautiful post. Many of us on here have health, financial, family and other problems. My problem is that men don't want to see that part of me or deal with it and I'm tired of pretending that it doesn't exist. I've found that I've kind of gone into a shell so that I don't have to meet anyone's expectations. When I tell them things they blow it off in the beginning and say it doesn't matter but then very soon it does and I'm tired of being hurt so I understand everything you've written.
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LACali: Beautiful post. Many of us on here have health, financial, family and other problems. My problem is that men don't want to see that part of me or deal with it and I'm tired of pretending that it doesn't exist. I've found that I've kind of gone into a shell so that I don't have to meet anyone's expectations. When I tell them things they blow it off in the beginning and say it doesn't matter but then very soon it does and I'm tired of being hurt so I understand everything you've written.
All it boils down to is....
stand in front of a mirror....
ask this question to the face looking at you....
are you happy.....
and make sure the answer is yes.
That's all there is to it.
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sxc666: I think a lot of the time Dana, we will put ourselves down to save anyone else doing it.
That's true.
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gozoman2: All it boils down to is....
stand in front of a mirror....
ask this question to the face looking at you....
are you happy.....
and make sure the answer is yes.
That's all there is to it.
stand in front of a mirror....
ask this question to the face looking at you....
are you happy.....
and make sure the answer is yes.
That's all there is to it.
I'm content with my life but that isn't all there is to it unless you're alone which I've stayed for much of my adult life. But when you add someone to the equation that isn't all there is to it. For example I work either almost full-time or full-time. I am exhausted at the end of the day and my back is so bad I have to lie down-these are from health problems. So far I've never met a man who wants to cook dinner or pay my bills but I have met lots of men who thought I was either boring because I couldn't do much at the end of the day or didn't do enough for them.
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Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post???
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??
Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?[/b]
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"