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Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it? (32)

Jul 22, 2020 2:55 PM CSTWho would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?

Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?(Vote Below)

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I do
13
81%
I don’t
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6%
Would definitely happen with galrads and myself
1
6%
Other
1
6%
Total Votes
16
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Jul 22, 2020 3:09 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
I prefer donations. wink
Jul 22, 2020 3:14 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Well, I can tell you that there wouldn't be much getting done... drinking
Jul 22, 2020 3:18 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Jul 22, 2020 6:57 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Bnaughty
BnaughtyBnaughtyMálaga, Andalusia Spain54 Threads 3 Polls 5,896 Posts
GeneralBeacon: I prefer donations.
Sperm donations no doubt
Jul 22, 2020 7:04 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Shouldn't you be dusting?rolling on the floor laughing
Jul 22, 2020 7:15 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Bnaughty
BnaughtyBnaughtyMálaga, Andalusia Spain54 Threads 3 Polls 5,896 Posts
GeneralBeacon: Shouldn't you be dusting?
General Beaker and his friends, making cabbages look intelligent since 1793
Jul 22, 2020 11:51 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
if I didn't contribute most then I would not have the upper hand...u gotta have hand...lol
Jul 23, 2020 12:13 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Bnaughty: Sperm donations no doubt
laugh
Jul 23, 2020 3:12 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
69ers sound cool.
Jul 24, 2020 3:20 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
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Jul 24, 2020 3:34 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Butin
ButinButinIngatestone, Essex, England UK5 Threads 1,448 Posts
It's. A case of. Give and take. True. To each other.........till the end of days........jmowave wave wave wave
Jul 24, 2020 3:36 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Let me get this straight, the Smiley guy is from Russia and wants to be a "HOUSE HUSBAND" even giving his phone number... funny my friend called and she got no answer. LMAO. He hasn't set up his diverter yet and is kind of slow. I also love the fake vehicle in his profile ... very impressive. Do you have a friend from India whose girlfriend cheated on him? I tell you... this is entertainment central. rolling on the floor laughing
Jul 24, 2020 5:14 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Do you mean "relationship" or "household"?

A relationship is seldom symmetrical: one loves more intense, the other rather allows that. (I personally find that the one, who loves, is the happiest one.)

A household is another matter. I don't expect anyone to contribute to my household and I promise to not contribute to his :)
Jul 27, 2020 2:03 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
I know it sounds old fashioned.... but I always worked (made a good living) and she ran the household.
Which after her passing and by raising 4 daughters by myself... I found she was working much harder than I ever did.
Sat Aug 1, 2020 4:22 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
MustangWriter: I know it sounds old fashioned.... but I always worked (made a good living) and she ran the household.
Which after her passing and by raising 4 daughters by myself... I found she was working much harder than I ever did.
Not so much old fashioned as not working so well for women these days. Glad a male will admit that raising kids is not an easy chore as raised two practically by myself!
Sat Aug 1, 2020 5:21 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Butterflygirl1
Butterflygirl1Butterflygirl1Dublin, Ireland54 Posts
MustangWriter: I know it sounds old fashioned.... but I always worked (made a good living) and she ran the household.
Which after her passing and by raising 4 daughters by myself... I found she was working much harder than I ever did.
I love the idea of this but I think it’s very difficult now and most couples need both incomes

If I have children I would like to be at home with them as this is the way I was raised
Probably is old fashioned but that’s ok we all have different values
Sat Aug 1, 2020 6:59 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Butterflygirl1: Probably is old fashioned but that’s ok we all have different values
If we are slaves of fashion, how liberated are we from the constraints of societal expectations?

You have to drop your kids off at daycare and be employed by someone other than your children is equally as oppressive as You have to stay at home and look after your kids.

Feminism is about equal rights for women; you can't have equal rights for women without having equal rights for everyone else.

Everyone should have the same legal rights and practical opportunities regardless of gender, s*xual orientation, ability, etc.

Parents should have the right and opportunity to use childcare facilities and work, stay at home with the kids, or a balance of the two. Children should have the right and opportunity to be cared for in the best way possible with a minimum standard.

How you choose to go about that in the best interests of your children is the liberating factor, not the way you go about it. To choose to stay at home and parent your children is equally an act of feminism as choosing employment and childcare, or a mixture of the two.

It's healthy to spend time caring for your children, it's healthy for children to socialise and learn outside the home - there's no global right, or wrong. It's about each family finding the best way for their family given their skills, beliefs and practical constraints.
Sat Aug 1, 2020 7:06 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
MustangWriter: I know it sounds old fashioned.... but I always worked (made a good living) and she ran the household.
Which after her passing and by raising 4 daughters by myself... I found she was working much harder than I ever did.
Ah MustangWriter, condolences on your loss, I'm sure that was a tough time for you and your family :)
Sat Aug 1, 2020 7:10 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Butterflygirl1: I love the idea of this but I think it’s very difficult now and most couples need both incomes

If I have children I would like to be at home with them as this is the way I was raised
Probably is old fashioned but that’s ok we all have different values
yes, sadly more and more babies/young children are now being dumped into cattle pens for the day and it's considered perfectly acceptable too...

Family is being torn apart and soon "parenting" will be a forgotten skill... the dominion of only the "qualified"..
Sat Aug 1, 2020 7:29 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Dwgwnr1969: if I didn't contribute most then I would not have the upper hand...u gotta have hand...lol
What a brilliant reply. laugh

The fact that we place more value on some types of work than others and we have a financial system which quantifies that perceived value, supports hierarchy and imbalance in relationships.

There is no direct remuneration for looking after a family and home, so the value of this work is considered zero. If you go out to work, all of a sudden you have a numerical value which also credits you with a level of power.

The thing about women having to have a career rather than staying at home to care for the kids is that it increases their quantifiable value. Childcare outside the home also becomes quantifiable. Men who stay at home to look after the kids lose perceived value.

Outsourcing also creates economy. If things like childcare, housekeeping, counselling, nursing, care for the elderly, etc. are done outside the home it creates jobs and frees family carers to do those jobs. Those in power can then cream off their cut. That's why we haven't taken the simpler route of simply valuing the work people do regardless of wage, or lack of it.

If you start to value work differently it messes up the hierarchy and economy in all sorts of ways: I value the 'bin man' (as we say on this side of the pond), or public toilet cleaner more than the CEO of a big business that has no relevance to me. Why should the CEO have more financial value and more power in their relationships than someone who does essential work like refuse collection, or cleaning?

I like the paradigm shifts that we're seeing as a result the pandemic where we are starting to value essential workers, including how much of society has been built of the back of slavery, poverty and the devaluing of some people.
Sat Aug 1, 2020 7:48 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
blathin: yes, sadly more and more babies/young children are now being dumped into cattle pens for the day and it's considered perfectly acceptable too...

Family is being torn apart and soon "parenting" will be a forgotten skill... the dominion of only the "qualified"..
I suppose that depends upon the childcare you choose, or is available to you.

I chose self-employment working from home as a lone parent. I really didn't like the idea of someone else looking after my child. I worked a ridiculous number of hours day and night for little financial return.

I co-parented my granddaughter, by which time I was seriously running out of steam. My daughter and I decided that some of my granddaughter's care needed to be outsourced, so for three mornings a week she went to a local child minder. My granddaughter loved it and it increased the quality of her life. I had more energy when it was my turn to care for her because I didn't have to work in the night as well. My daughter got to continue with her education.

My daughter and I also learned a thing, or two about childcare from someone who was old enough to be my mother and highly skilled. It brought us more together as a family because we were less exhausted and fraught.

I really had to do a 180 with respect to my opinion about outsourcing childcare. There is no right, or wrong, as long as children are being well cared for and have an acceptable quality of life.
Sat Aug 1, 2020 7:52 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
jac_the_gripper: If we are slaves of fashion, how liberated are we from the constraints of societal expectations?

You have to drop your kids off at daycare and be employed by someone other than your children is equally as oppressive as You have to stay at home and look after your kids.

Feminism is about equal rights for women; you can't have equal rights for women without having equal rights for everyone else.

Everyone should have the same legal rights and practical opportunities regardless of gender, s*xual orientation, ability, etc.

Parents should have the right and opportunity to use childcare facilities and work, stay at home with the kids, or a balance of the two. Children should have the right and opportunity to be cared for in the best way possible with a minimum standard.

How you choose to go about that in the best interests of your children is the liberating factor, not the way you go about it. To choose to stay at home and parent your children is equally an act of feminism as choosing employment and childcare, or a mixture of the two.

It's healthy to spend time caring for your children, it's healthy for children to socialise and learn outside the home - there's no global right, or wrong. It's about each family finding the best way for their family given their skills, beliefs and practical constraints.
I like this fashion statement. on retiring 13 years ago i violated the u.s.environment environmental protection agencies rules on open burning. I took all my dress attire, ties, suits, shoes etc, and ceremoniously set them on fire in my home’s back yard.
Sat Aug 1, 2020 9:28 AM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
galrads: I like this fashion statement. on retiring 13 years ago i violated the u.s.environment environmental protection agencies rules on open burning. I took all my dress attire, ties, suits, shoes etc, and ceremoniously set them on fire in my home’s back yard.
It sounds like there's more than one violation there, even if only one of them was a written rule. laugh

What were you thinking as you performed this ceremony?

What were you feeling?
Sat Aug 1, 2020 2:18 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
jac_the_gripper: It sounds like there's more than one violation there, even if only one of them was a written rule.

What were you thinking as you performed this ceremony?

What were you feeling?
Partly, I was feeling younger and free years ago. I swore to myself in high school I would never have a job requiring me to wear a tie. That changed reluctantly post college. Wearing a tie is pointless and dangerous for some of us. Wearing a tie says I am a membership of a club and while wearing one I sacrificed part of my identity. No more. Fortunate for me I don't identify with that dress code a certain part of society looks for....
Sat Aug 1, 2020 2:41 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
No! I'd rather be in a relationship with a partner that completely manipulates me. love


roll eyes
Sat Aug 1, 2020 3:53 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Cranky_Geezer: No! I'd rather be in a relationship with a partner that completely manipulates me.
I think it would be very enlightening, relaxing and extremely entertaining wink
Sat Aug 1, 2020 4:17 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Oxycodone: I think it would be very enlightening, relaxing and extremely entertaining
I'm sure it would be. I was going to call on Captain Obvious to answer OP's question, but the Captain just laughed at me. wink
Sat Aug 1, 2020 4:23 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
Cranky_Geezer: I'm sure it would be. I was going to call on Captain Obvious to answer OP's question, but the Captain just laughed at me.
How about the pair of you do a bit of mud wrestling and Ill watch on the side, sipping fresh mango juice with a squeeze of lime, a sprig is mint and some icewink wine
Sat Aug 1, 2020 4:46 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
galrads: Partly, I was feeling younger and free years ago. I swore to myself in high school I would never have a job requiring me to wear a tie. That changed reluctantly post college. Wearing a tie is pointless and dangerous for some of us. Wearing a tie says I am a membership of a club and while wearing one I sacrificed part of my identity. No more. Fortunate for me I don't identify with that dress code a certain part of society looks for....
Don't get me started on the subject of uniforms. I hate them with a passion. laugh
Sat Aug 1, 2020 5:24 PM CST Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?
jac_the_gripper: Don't get me started on the subject of uniforms. I hate them with a passion.
I hated the uniforms we were forced to wear in parochial schools, especially those worn by girls.

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