So you are a commitmentphobiac? (198)
Laura25: Promises-promises...
I have comitted my life twice, third time careful
I believe I am. Everything I choose to do I commit myself fully to make it work, whether it´s relationships or work.
To prove my point, I was married for 25 years, then divorced, and remarried a year later, though that turned out to be taking commitment a bit too far as we divorced again after a year!
I don´t like to get things wrong, so I try to put heart and soul in whatever it is I´m trying to achieve. Perhaps that´s not always such a positive thing to do though.
To prove my point, I was married for 25 years, then divorced, and remarried a year later, though that turned out to be taking commitment a bit too far as we divorced again after a year!
I don´t like to get things wrong, so I try to put heart and soul in whatever it is I´m trying to achieve. Perhaps that´s not always such a positive thing to do though.
JAN_is: I believe I am. Everything I choose to do I commit myself fully to make it work, whether it´s relationships or work.
To prove my point, I was married for 25 years, then divorced, and remarried a year later, though that turned out to be taking commitment a bit too far as we divorced again after a year!
I don´t like to get things wrong, so I try to put heart and soul in whatever it is I´m trying to achieve. Perhaps that´s not always such a positive thing to do though.
To prove my point, I was married for 25 years, then divorced, and remarried a year later, though that turned out to be taking commitment a bit too far as we divorced again after a year!
I don´t like to get things wrong, so I try to put heart and soul in whatever it is I´m trying to achieve. Perhaps that´s not always such a positive thing to do though.
Forgot to mention...to the SAME man. Makes a big difference I think no?
I wouldn't quite say I'm afraid of committment, but more so the type that tends to doubt why the person I'm with in the committment wants to be with me. Alot of this has to do with the different things I've gone through in life. In a sense I have moved passed them, but there are always moments they creep back up on me and give me that moment of doubt about the type of person I am and in a sense that makes me wonder why someone would want to be with someone like that.
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).[/quote
Therefore perhaps you sabotage the relationship to prove your cause?
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).[/quote
Therefore perhaps you sabotage the relationship to prove your cause?
JAN_is: Forgot to mention...to the SAME man. Makes a big difference I think no?
OH ........Well I reckon you are wise enough to learn your own mistakes, and being a teacher....You were just double checking to make sure... 
Like my old trainer told me measure twice cut once 
patmac: OH ........Well I reckon you are wise enough to learn your own mistakes, and being a teacher....You were just double checking to make sure... Like my old trainer told me measure twice cut once
Good advice.No, just need a guy who can come up with more demands than mine. Kinda organized, structured, boring yet active. Know what I mean? 
What is all this about commitment?
Or is it a case that people are afraid of being alone and will commit to any relationship in order to feel needed?
Or is it a case that people are afraid of being alone and will commit to any relationship in order to feel needed?
Laura25: Why?
No Laura, im not scared of commitment, i think to try to keep your commitment with s.o or with your business partner is the way to build up the trust in s.o, that is the most important element to build up & keep the longterm relationship with s.o or with a business partner, destroy the commiment often cause to the broken relation, lead to suspicion, misleading, leading to many negative results, .... very headaches, i am very scared of losing the trust of s.o who i really respect, love and consider them as my real friends,
For you Laura:
wildprotector: yes I am very much committed to my promises, to my feelings,to a relationship, to love...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
You're exactly right!!! my friend...I am a great believer on that..."oNLY yOU" can make yourself happy....but much more happier when you find thay esp. someone that can make you laugh, go out with, and feel at ease on his/her present..in other words you can make silly together...
leostartingover: I agree! I'm not in the least commitment phobic, even though I've been hurt. My feeling is that it is opening yourself up to love that makes life meaningful. Yes, you do open yourself up to being hurt too, but it's worth the risk!
...to all of you who HAVE been hurt... and don't give up...
...to all of you who HAVE been hurt... and don't give up...
LEO,
Thanks for the reminder....
I know my heart
has been bruised but not wounded...But, I stand up and pick up myself...The message that I want to send to the guy that hurts me is"I am feeling good right now!!!.back to my normal things that I've been doing such as;( karaoke, dancing, going out with friends, and going back to work)..and taking classes for Bachelor's in Soc. Work Degree....That man,don't deserve my misirable moments...cuz I have friends as my support system and my family..esp.. my (princess)my only granddaughter...and she is my real joy that noone can wipe my loneliness away, except here...Here's for everyone that's been hurt....LOVE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN GIVE LOVE BACK TO SOMEONE...Laura25: hmmmmmmmmm.... Would you date Mr. Wrong until Mr. Right(er) comes along? Hi Swiss, good to see you.
Hi Laura good to see u too.
um,answer to your question is, i think ive dated too many mr wrongs already, still waiting for mr right to show up.. lol
Swissblueeyes: Hi Laura good to see u too.
um,answer to your question is, i think ive dated too many mr wrongs already, still waiting for mr right to show up.. lol
um,answer to your question is, i think ive dated too many mr wrongs already, still waiting for mr right to show up.. lol
This the lad ????
Laura25: Why?
<insert obnoxious emoticon here>
Boban1: okay, this is what comes to mind
Laura as Sigmund sitting in front a couch ,with a notebook in her hand ....
PS... the most important question " Tell me about your childhood".....
Laura as Sigmund sitting in front a couch ,with a notebook in her hand ....
PS... the most important question " Tell me about your childhood".....
I think that image is accurate. And ironic (for reasons I probably don't have to spell out to the thread author). 
wildprotector: yes I am very much committed to my promises, to my feelings,to a relationship, to love...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
kcuc0574: No Laura, im not scared of commitment, to try to keep your commitment with s.o or with your business partner is the way to build up the trust in s.o, commitment is the most important element to build up & nurture a relation with s.o or with a business partner develop heathly & strongly, destroy the commiment often result in broken relations, lead to suspicion, misleading, bring to many negative results, .... very headaches, i am very scared of losing the trust of s.o who i really respect, love and consider them as my real friends, and finally destroy the trust very easily, but build up the trust take time & efforts,
For you Laura: 
For you Laura:
strict: who?
meee?
just lazyyyyyyyyyyy
meee?
just lazyyyyyyyyyyy
Commitment-lazy? Hmmmmmm...
Don't know if there is any truth in your jest, but
it's a great term. I like it.
Lol... In fact, I think it
defines many singles considerably better than commitment-phobiac. 
Good afternoon, Strict.
Good to see you.
kcuc0574: No Laura, im not scared of commitment, i think to try to keep your commitment with s.o or with your business partner is the way to build up the trust in s.o, that is the most important element to build up & keep the longterm relationship with s.o or with a business partner, destroy the commiment often cause to the broken relation, lead to suspicion, misleading, leading to many negative results, .... very headaches, i am very scared of losing the trust of s.o who i really respect, love and consider them as my real friends,
For you Laura:
For you Laura:
Bravo, Kc! Applause.
Thank you.
You always amaze me - in a sense how similar you and I think when it comes to things which are important in life.
To my think-alike.
Ambrose2007: <insert obnoxious emoticon here>
Laura25: Bravo, Kc! Applause. Thank you. You always amaze me - in a sense how similar you and I think when it comes to things which are important in life.
To my think-alike.
To my think-alike.
Thank you darlin, same thoughts always make two souls feel more closely, that explains my unlimit love for darlin Laura,
hv a good day, yourself, 
Laura25: Your confidence is very refreshing, Muse.
Hope you are the next CS success story.
I know, a lot would depend on the other party... but still - we usually choose a completable person (meaning *he* won't be a phobe as well).
I might be wrong, wouldn't be for the first time.
Hope you are the next CS success story.
I know, a lot would depend on the other party... but still - we usually choose a completable person (meaning *he* won't be a phobe as well).
I might be wrong, wouldn't be for the first time.
Oh thank you - I hope it's contagious!
Im not commitment-phobic I would drop everything, go anywhere to be with my forever man. However, I live in paradise and have a great life soooo its going to take one hell of a special man for me to give it all up for.
time4fun4u: I am committed to tracking you down,taking you in my arms and making passionate love to you!
Whos a flirt?
Whos a flirt?
I dunno, 4X4...
does somebody change sheets, wipes/disinfects kitchen countertops, and stuff in this hotel California? Ever?!?? 
venusenvy: Im not commitment-phobic I would drop everything, go anywhere to be with my forever man. However, I live in paradise and have a great life soooo its going to take one hell of a special man for me to give it all up for.
I'm not commitmentphobic, either, but it would require an act of god to make me commit to anyone (perhaps making it an act of Dionysus would improve my chances?). 
Ambrose2007: I'm not commitmentphobic, either, but it would require an act of god to make me commit to anyone (perhaps making it an act of Dionysus would improve my chances?).
P.S.
venusenvy: Im not commitment-phobic I would drop everything, go anywhere to be with my forever man. However, I live in paradise and have a great life soooo its going to take one hell of a special man for me to give it all up for.
Nice to see you back...
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I can't even commit to an answer to the original question!