It seems pretty easy to fall back on "we were schooled". You are a big girl...do what you feel is right. Not what you were 'schooled'. I was schooled to hate blacks...and catholics..and Puerto Ricans, but made a conscience decision that what I was taught was wrong. I made choices for myself. If you let the opinions of others control your life....that is your conscience decision. NO again NO. I do not want to be complimented nor stroked, by any one. I go out of my way to avoid compliments.
You have taken my post w-a-y to personal. Your reply keeps alluding to yourself, my post was about women in general. I I think I said...in general or most!!
actually this thread isn't about love...you turned it around. This thread was about being perfect. I still say it try for perfection is to set yourself up to fail. Strive to be the best you can be...and if you attain that, you are successful. Perfect or not
I think women, in general, have a high opinion of themselves. I believe that in large, they have more of an ego problem than men. So I can see where they talk about "perfection". Men see themselves more realistically, in general, and know they have limits.
So I can see where women would expect perfection, because many see it when they look in the mirror. Thus they think "I am worth it" when expecting perfection from men!
I might add, here, that a person should strive to be the best they can be. But to strive for perfection is an unrealistic goal. You only set yourself up for failure.
I see the problem as we grew up in a culture that told us to be more assertive. You are the most important person in your life. If you wanr something, go after it, and don't worry about who or what gets in your way. We were taught we are # one. We learned the values of instant gratification.
Somehow in the midst of all this asertiveness, we have lost our humanity. We are taught to say what is on your mind...but not told to respect others feelings.
Our motto has become Me me me me me, and Do Unto Others.
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RE: Asking for too much????
It seems pretty easy to fall back on "we were schooled". You are a big girl...do what you feel is right. Not what you were 'schooled'. I was schooled to hate blacks...and catholics..and Puerto Ricans, but made a conscience decision that what I was taught was wrong. I made choices for myself. If you let the opinions of others control your life....that is your conscience decision. NO again NO. I do not want to be complimented nor stroked, by any one. I go out of my way to avoid compliments.You have taken my post w-a-y to personal. Your reply keeps alluding to yourself, my post was about women in general. I I think I said...in general or most!!
Enjoy the rest of your day!