I think there will be those of us you need people in our lives, who want people in our lives and who arent afraid to say so too. Whats wrong with being somewhat dependant on others and having them dependant on us? Maybe I am a little old fashioned in my thinking.
I have pots of memories from the house we lived in until I was 2. (which is across the road from where I live now) My dad carrying me down the stairs and holding the top of my head because there was a low bit. I remember my older brother building a stack of teddies in my cot and pulling a chair over beisde it so i could climb out and get into his bed. (he's 18 months older than me) I remember the blue and green curtains in my parents bedroom and of sitting on my mothers knee and my hearing my brother fall down the stairs. None of these my brother can remember and my mother is surprised I can too. Clinbing up the stairs to my dads old workplace on my hands and knees. And walking across the golf course with our housekeeper to the post office. When I was 3 I was in hospital cos i stuck something up my nose and i can see clearly even now what the lift to the theatre was like and also the cots with the HUGE metal railing.
Although the weirdest vivid memory I have is horses at my grandparents house and my dad carrying me out to see them. I can remember what colour they were too. But my father swears they were gone before I was even born!!!!!
Yup a total skanger......but sure who's going to see me at 7am and 7pm in the dark walking along the beach. Saturdays and Sunday when I take her after 10am...thats a different story. Have to at least look half human then as I meet the same 3 or 4 people out walking their dogs. Then it turns into a big reunion among the 6-7 dogs and they all go crazy trying to chase my dog. Which never happens. Tis funny watching her leave them trailing behind.
In that instance we are talking about 40yrs ago. The mother of that child has no interest in having a relationship with her child. For whatever reason I do not know. She has a whole other family now that are totally unaware of their half sibling. It surprises me just how many people know of this and yet it has never even accidentally been brought up around her current children.
I've a sweatshirt that I only wear when I am either cleaning or taking the dog for a walk and it has a hood on it, which I never use........until now!!!! The humble hoodie for me transformed into the perfect walking companion. Keeping my ears warmer than any hat has. I dont have to worry about it slipping and uncovering my ears while walking along a windy beach. Wrap a scarf around and there is no worry of a gap between scarf and hat along the back of my neck. I love my hoodie. It's so practical.
The instances that sprung to mind when this topic came up are back in the 60's. If we were talking about now, I would have a very close family member who would be in exactly the same situation you mention.
In the instances I am aware of, it was the girls parents who were the ones who made the decisions as to whether or not the father....or indeed the mother, had anything more to do with the child.
you know my first response was, i'd welcome them with open arms. Its not their fault they didnt have their father around growing up. Then I thought....how would i feel if i found out my dad had a child before he met my mother and didnt acknowledge it? Id be devastated. Take me a while to get my head round it. Probably to do with the esteem I hold my father in. But ultimately...yes....I would want to meet my half sibling. there's 5 of us already...one more wont make much of a difference.
I could see myself giving the vast majority of it away. Once I had a decent house, a few pound in the bank and money to put my son through college, then that'd be enough for me. Thankfully I rarely drink, dont smoke and wouldnt touch drugs.
I am glad the money goes to the national lottery good causes. I think unclaimed prizes go back into new prizes in this country not to good causes.
not bad......didnt have to guess the answers I got right....the 2 i got wrong were guesses. Lots of american history and religious questions so am surprised I am in the lead today. but....
Mariannette Forum Posts (1,783)
12-12-12
Nope Aries.....you know the headstrong, passionate one.