sometimes goin with the flow can land one in the sewer.
think the one who has 'been there' is only gossiping and youll take your chances? well, sometimes its a good chance youll end up in the same boat they did...
rock and a hard place indeed.
anyone else that can add to these aquatic euphamisms??
what if the person found cs late in their online life-LOL??
personally i participate on other sites one of which ive been on for over 3 yrs.
dif forums are for different things
also some places ive tried werent the right fit also- - some may know this; as a female, certain sites never delete your profile and you cant either...its a kind of exploitation-oops-
((we're all ignorant until we're not anymore- so im not ashamed.))
OP says they are confused but frankly i am confused as to why people are of the opinion that someone is a jerk for hanging out somewhere other than here??
isnt that part of how this place grows??
i sure never saw it advertised anywhere or ida been here sooner!
someone i 'knew' at another site told me about it.
the OP was clear and it is something that will come up- if you date someone long enuf...
the rest of this thread seemed - well some of it anyway- like that game we played at camp-'telephone' ?
the concept seemed to get a bit changed with each passing-LOL
one thing i will say is that if its causing the diagnosed, properly medicated person-an extra full helping of anxiety i would hope that they find the strength to address the situation b4 it in itself causes uncomfortable behavior...
if a person is being treated-in most places anyway- they must also be receiving talk therapy to receive meds.
that is the person to get guidance from, because if the diagnosed person is participating honestly there the therapist can be a great help in dealing with life. and role-playing first is very helpful. for anyone who is unsure about anything- job interview, a break up conversation- approaching your kids on a matter-
i think its the diagnosed persons responsibility to participate fully in their own treatment program, be counseled there about how and when to share this news, and not feel rushed like its some ugly secret.
its not our job to educate our partners about anything- especially if its as a defense or preemptive strike-LOL
it is a medical condition, not a defect or a disability either!!
we can always offer literature or maybe if its a serious relationship... a visit together to the doctor. ??
keep it simple is always best, tho not easiest. especially as long as such illness carries such shame because people think they know so much about it...
we all have anxiety about so many things about ourselves fear of rejection we base on so many odd things that we fear another will discover about us and find not acceptable. our alcoholic family- our child we never see- (insert yours here) soooo many things-we are an anxious society-
this is just another of those 'things' i think-
and obviously i am offering my opinions to the OP not in response to anyone elses response- and of course my opinion only addresses someone who has one of these illnesses and is engaging in treatment-
the percentage of those that feel "well" and discontinue meds is actually miniscule- its just what we all hear about because they become noticeable.
there are millions, literally, anong us w/ one of the first 2 maladies mentioned that are on meds and function well and nobody knows about it.
thats a kudos to modern science and stands to show mans interest in not being incredibly uncomfortable- (translate that last how you will-)
were they so mesmerizing initially and then took what you willingly gave and left you for dead, only to move on for another and another-as it is their survival?
whats the longest and shortest youve stayed?
i had a good-uh-resistance? for a long time but i slipped recently and and it huuurts... seems like when youre older maybe its harder or a different process to get blood flowing again...
fear has more effect now? or i have less distraction-
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