Forgiveness isn't like turning ona lightbulb and turning it off,it's a process and it takes time.
ALSO,when I FORGIVE other people,I DON'T DO IT FOR the other person,I do it for myself,so I CAN BE FREE and not carry the resentment.FORGIVENESS also doesn't mean to like the other person or to understand why the person wronged me,it means and I RELEASE myself from whatever tension I HAVE from the wrong the other person has caused.
I think some people have the mistaken notion that forgiveness means saying ''it's o.k,don't do it again''.
Obviously ,it's NOT O.K to be wronged but what FORGIVENESS means to me is to say to myself.....''It's over,it's history.''
There will always be feelings of inferiority and superiority but in my opinion I THINK one of the greatest challenges in life is to actually view and believe other people as being ...''EQUAL'',and if I CAN DO THAT,I'm in the right direction.
I get out a piece of paper and divide it in two.On the left side I WRITE down ALL the things I'm grateful for, and on the right side I WRITE down what is troubling me. It usually puts things in perspective and gives me enough courage to work on what needs to be worked on.
thewall2 Forum Posts (10,499)
RE: How to stop giving advice
Simple ...it's called MINDING YOUR OWN BUSINESS.CAPICHE?