We all would have had childhood dreams... right? Becoming a superhero, a doctor, a firefighter, a ballerina, a sportsman/woman, a fairy, a storybook character, a race car driver and the list goes on!
Well, I recently embarked upon trying to fullfill one of my own - driving an 18 wheeler (I know, crazy right. lol!).
I figure that I have the time and resources now, so why not TRY.
What about you? Is/are there any childhood dream/s that you would still like to fullfill?
"So, protecting the male ego supercedes child protection? Or genetic bonds supercede emotional ones?"
This isn't about either, fortunately, but about plain old "ethics". Yu's behaviour was un-ethical. The children are only a 'sub'- issue in this matter, as they weren't directly/knowingly the cause of their mother's deceitful behaviour. Sadly, it is usually the ill-behaviour of the adults that cause distress and misfortune to the children - who are the only 'innocents' in this.
This is about a mother, having acted irresponsibly and un-ethically, causing distress to her husband by her infidelity, as well as her deceit about his 'fatherhood'. Whatever his part may have been in the situation leading up to the 'revelation', isn't clear, so I prefer not to comment on that.
If her intentions were so noble, then she should have shared the idea with her husband. If she knew that they weren't, then she should be prepared to admit it, and accept the consequences.
It's hard to know exactly what caused her to deceive her husband in that manner, but I believe that she is wrong. If I were him, I would be very hurt and embarrassed, and would have serious doubts about the entire relationship. What else has she said or done to deceive me? Are our finances also being tampered with? Is she living a double life/married to the man I saw her with? What if.....?
The safest thing to do would be to leave, seek a divorce and sue for whatever I think I may be owed, and lastly (if she agreed to it) offer to stay in contact with the children but only until they are old enough to understand why I left the family. The choice would be theirs if they want to continue to have a relationship with me after that, though not as their father.
I wonder if the girls knew? If not, then I wonder how they'd feel if they found out what their mother has done?
Rebecca Moon Fri, June 10, 2022, 8:14 PM·2 min read After a paternity test revealed that all three of his daughters were not his biological children, a 45-year-old Chinese man is seeking a divorce from his wife of 16 years.
The man, surnamed Chen from Jiangxi Province in eastern China, began having suspicions about his wife, surnamed Yu, last year. While Chen was working in another city to support his family, he and his wife initially called regularly until she began to avoid him and explained that she wanted to work away from home, reported South China Morning Post.
On March 1, Chen managed to track Yu to a hotel in eastern China where he witnessed his wife checking out with another man. Although he forgave her, he later decided to do a paternity test and discovered that none of the three girls he had been raising were his biological children.
“None of them my own child,” Chen told Jiangxi Radio and TV Station.
After the revelation, Yu disappeared and is now untraceable. Chen has been reaching out to local media outlets asking for help in tracking down his wife. A TV station managed to contact Yu over the phone, and when asked about the situation, she responded that she did not cheat on her husband and that biological paternity is not important. Yu also criticized her husband for seeking a divorce.
“Couples who are sterile adopt kids all the time,” Yu told the news outlet. “Please try to empathize with me. The three children called him ‘dad’ for many years, but now he says the daughters are not his own. What is the difference between him and an animal?”
A lawyer, surnamed Yu, told Jiangxi Radio and TV Station that Chen is fully capable of divorcing Yu if he believes that her actions “severely harmed their relationship.”
“When he applies for a divorce, not only would the law encourage him to ask his wife to reimburse support payments and other expenses he paid for the three children, but he could also seek damages for psychological suffering,” Yu was quoted as telling the news outlet.
Is he justified in asking for a divorce? Can he sue her for mental and emotional distress? If this had been you, what would you do?
I understand this so well, that I have decided NOT to get married again. I had a difficult time retaining my independence whilst I was married, and after regaining it don't think that anyone (except God, of course), could be worth giving it up for.
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I'm only laughing 'cause I think you MUST be joking CC...
I really enjoyed that ...a nice stroll down memory lane with one of the Classics
A Dream come true
Perhaps you may get to travel to Mars...who know?