Whilst it may not be a problem for you, wouldn't you rather have made a friend beforehand, so that they may show you around (food, culture, sites) and share the experience with you? That may certainly a more personal approach.
You don't have anything to keep you from relocating and you're all ready to do so. So if you found a new love abroad, there'd be no dilemma about moving to where they live, not so?
Well then, it wouldn't matter that you pursued a relationship abroad, you'd has no reason to join the person wherever they live. That would be just fine with them:)
Not all relationships may have issues with money, or drama for that matter, but expectations about having enough money and avoiding unnecessary drama may be as a result of one's previous experiences, and or observations about same, thus influencing what he/she looks for in future relationships. Again...realistic.
Isn't it realistic to 'expect' that the person that you connect with cares about you at least as much as (if not more than) you may care about him? Isn't it realistic to expect that the man you connect with has the requisite maturity, intelligence an trustworthiness?
Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with you about the "interesting surprise", I still believe that we have 'expectations', or perhaps 'hopes', based upon what we want from the experience.
Is having "no expectation/s of a person (in any type of relationship) being realistic though? Don't we all have preferences about the people or situations that we find ourselves in/with, consciously and or unconsciously.....that's life.
Perhaps it may be different for men, but I've had a problem with an older man, divorced with kids and bills, thinking that we could not be in a real relationship because his finances weren't what they should be (even though I'm financially independent, and understood his situation). Also, I'm not certain that expecting to find my 'soulmate' is being practical.
Please forgive me. It is not due to a lack of intention, but mainly a need to allow the comments to flow as a group as opposed to what ensues during one-on-one interactions. Should you or anyone else desires a direct response from me, please indicate.
I would want to be a flower, preferably a rare rose or orchid, because it is treated gently, is treasured and maintains a high value among all admirers. And dogs dare not pee on it either. LOL!
I agree with your comment Matrician, but I also think that persons (like me) who aren't restricting candidates due to geographic location, may still be denied access to favourable matches due to other criteria such as 'what they are seeking or the purpose of their search' and even 'what ethnicity/ies they prefer (some profiles are very specific about that)'. And those are enough to cut the pool of candidates significantly, don't you think?
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LOL!
Is it fair to pursue a relationship abroad, if you have no intention of moving there?
Sometimes things aren't always about "need", but It's good that you "...wouldn't refuse either" :)