That's pretty much the experience of most men on this site and others... one doesn't have to look very hard into the forum threads to find other guys with the exact same complaint.
I have yet to read a single post from any guy on here claiming to have too many women responding to his messages/flowers/profile.
Not particularly, though I'm flattered you think so. There's just A LOT more single men in my part of Texas than there are single women. It doesn't make for a very good dating scene, IMHO.
The Earth is an island too. If we don't control our population size, mother nature will eventually do it for us in one way or another.
You can't have an unlimited population on an island, even an island as big as the Earth. All we need is for 1 really good global disaster to occur... take your pick, there are plenty of candidates pending. It's inevitable, and we the Human Race are not prepared at all. There are far too many of us, we have this planet's resources stretched entirely too thin (just as the Hatians have their part of that island's resources stretched far too thin). Every human being wants a slice of the pie, and this pie we live on isn't getting any larger.
Haiti is simply a microcosim for a much larger problem if you step back and look at the really big picture. Earthquakes don't kill people... collapsing buildings in a high density population kill people.
There is a slip-fault for example in the heartland of the U.S. very similar to that fault in Haiti that has caused the current disaster, and it hasn't slipped in almost 2 hundred years now... the last time it "slipped" the population living atop it was very very light, but today it's got several major US cities sitting right on top of it. Read your histoy, it was hell on Earth the last time that US slip-fault slipped, with sand eruptions and huge subsidence (ie. the ground sank, for miles and miles) that went on for weeks after... that slip caused the earthquake that cracked the famous Liberty Bell as I recall. Though it happened in the middle of the country, chuch bells all along the east coast rang from the ground movements.
Those who do not know (or understand) history, are doomed to repeat it. Geologic history is famous for repeating itself to the woe of those living at the time. There's A LOT of us living today and the population is continuing to grow... the pie however, is not getting any larger.
Try everybody is married or a single male around here essentially... there's over 70,000 MORE single men than single women in the Houston Metro area where I live. Everywhere I've ever gone, there's been like 10 men for every single woman! Think that get's just a tad bit depressing after awhile?
Let's not even talk about how so many single women everywhere have children from previous relationships, or the obesity problem in the U.S.! Neither are attractive traits to me.
Ok so now let the cussing name calling and condemning of me begin... I'm pretty used to it on here by this point. If a man doesn't just love overweight women and single mom's on here, he's about as low as dirt I've found.
I have many pictures on my profile... hasn't done me any good in the past 2+ years on here.
Seems that being a single male is like being condemned to Hell. Women I message or flower on here never reply, and the very few who've messaged/flowered me over the past 2 years have either been from lands far far away or just totally NOT my type.
Just being a single male on here seems to ruin your chances of finding a date on CS. It's nuts I swear.
Same goes for eating fast food, or dealing with kids in the backseat arguing, or any number of other foolish things people sometimes do while behind the wheel on our highways.
Do DUI laws stop people from drinking and driving? Not from my observations! So what makes you think laws against Text'ing will prevent people who want to do it from doing it behind the wheel?
Point is, I'm against trying to micro-manage life thru Laws on top of Laws on top of Laws! It's out of control. The penalties for not paying attention to your driving 1st and foremost need to be steeply increased, but adding more laws doesn't make anything any better.
Why is it that DUI offenders once convicted and having had their driver's license pulled can still own vehicles, for instance? If convicted of DUI, the person's vehicle(s) shoule be confiscated and sold at auction! If that person is then stopped while driving somebody else's vehicle THAT vehicle should also be confiscated and sold at auction!!! Somebody who had DUI convictions has no right to be hehind the wheel of ANY vehicle again, EVER! And yet, they do it all the time. Ergo, the law itself doesn't work worth a darn, because the penalty for DUI is a slap on the proverbial wrist? Yet we're constantly adding more laws, which impact those of us who don't even drink period!
Ditto for making/taking cell phone calls in school zones... that's now illegal in Texas even if the call began BEFORE you got to the school zone! All because a few people failed to keep their attention on their driving, we're all paying the price of yet another stupid law.
Where does it end? When will it become illegal to eat food or drink a soda when you're behind the wheel?
Wouldn't suprise me any. Some of the people on here are undoubtedly on here because they're very vindictive... ergo, it's little wonder they're single.
While they were with Mr. Wrong, I was single and looking and not finding. Try that for 2 decades or so, and see how you start to feel. Plus, my previous post details some of what I've experienced meeting single mom's for lunch or dinner back in my early 30's when I was still somewhat open to meeting them. And no I'm NOT saying EVERYONE is like that, only everyone I met which is why I quit... it's like, going out and finding women I know I won't like to date and buying them dinner, what's the bloomin point? Especially when they have so much bad to say about men... I didn't do it, it's not my fault the father(s) of their children are so crappy!
If I'm bitter, it's because there's a complete lack of single women I'd like to go out with to dinner and a movie or rollerblading or frisbee on the beach (in the summertime for pete's sake, not now it's cold out!).
I tired that for awhile... got stood up frequently, babysitter didn't show or dad didn't bother to pick the kids up for his weekend or whatever! Then there was the constant going on about how terrible the kids father's treated them and their kids... how the father was a drug dealer, or beat her up, got drunk peed all over the tv, or never sent the kids birthday gifts or anything... and they just went on and on and on about how badly men had treated them! Everytime I met a single mom for lunch or dinner, it was the same thing. And I don't particularly like other peoples kids anyhows, so where exactly was I planning to "go" with these women? Yeah, that wasn't going to work well all around which is why I finally quit trying to date single mom's they just were making me feel bad about myself and hey I have plenty of women on CS for that obviously!
Regards and best wishes and I hope you find the guy you're looking for hun.
I'm in better shape than I was in my 20's, I workout regularly and I think it shows pretty good... I've never lacked confidence, just can't find anyone to be confident with. This singles scene (including many women on CS) are just really killing my soul.
Women like ya'll are the reason I'm feeling this way. You made me. Your words are like venom, they're just toxic... the hate, is so evident.
If you have so much vile and contempt for a complete stranger who's done you no wrong in any way, it's little wonder why you're on CS. Either your ex's did you wrong, or you did your ex's wrong, or you and your ex's did each other wrong... I don't know, and I don't care!
I haven't done you wrong, yet read what you're writing about me! Is this how you treat people in general who you disagree with? Do I have no right to my own preferences?
I guess I don't, according to ya'll.
All I was doing was contributing to the topic, "Does life get tougher from your thirties onwards especially when dating?". This is not posted in the Single Parent's forum, if it had been I'd likely have just left the thing alone as I know I'll get nothing but vile from people there.
Obviously I'm not too knowledgeable about the single parent thingy and dating... I did not intend to offend anybody with that!
I'm suggesting that there should be about as many single dads as there are single mom's... ergo single mom's shouldn't have that much difficulty finding good guys to date.
So why so much venom towards a single male who has no children from previous relationships, and isn't comfortable dating women who do have children from previous relationships? Would it be better if I were to lie about it, is that what you want?
Why so much venom, ladies? What have I done to you?
IF we were meeting anybody in "the places where we are day to day in our life" then we probably wouldn't BE on here.
I don't expect much anymore, maybe to get cussed at by some single mom's and/or get criticized by complete strangers on CS for anything/everything I am... that's about it.
Almost 2 1/2 years now I've had my CS profile, and not a single date.
Hey, I didn't do it... it's not my fault! You prove my point as well, and I didn't even know you had a child till just now.
But there should be just as many single men w/children (probably not living with them of course) as single mom's so why don't they date single mom's? Why don't single mom's date them? At least you should be able to relate to each other's situations? Take your kids on a playground date or catch a Disney movie together or something...
You should have no problem finding good single men, men who have children from previous relationships also, to date... and if you are having difficulties with that, then blame those single men with children OR yourself, but NOT ME! I haven't knocked ANYBODY UP!
While you single mom's were having Mr. Wrong's "love children", I've been perpetually single and looking. Think I don't resent that just a little bit?
I've done not a blasted thing wrong to ANYBODY, so don't jump my butt about it. Save your scorn for your ex(s) or the single dads who won't date single mom's.
I have as much right to happiness as you do. Single mom's don't work for me, and there are farrrr too many of them which makes me angry and very frustrated.
It's was every bit as impossible in my 20's as it's been in my 30's. The biggest problem for me remains that single women without children from previous relationships are scarce... apparently, only men like Tiger Woods get to date attractive fit single women without children.
Women aren't getting any better, from my point of view. Far too many single mom's, which I greatly resent.
I wasn't looking for criticism, thank you very much. Think whatever you want to, but *I* do have a profile pic and other secondary pics, none of which has done me a bit of good... I just get criticized for it.
Ergo, that's probably 1 reason a lot of men don't bother putting their pics on their profiles.
And I'm just plain tired of repeatedly explaining and defending myself on here... this ISN'T the main profile pic I used on CS for over 2 years already! It doesn't matter at all what pic I put on my profile, don't ask me how I know this.
Also why is it I'm about the only person on this entire site that ever signs posts with my name? First names are not unique... but they do give people a way of addressing you in the forums, rather than referring to "that post by a curvey Italian lady" for instance.
Michael211_2000 Forum Posts (775)
RE: How Many??
That's pretty much the experience of most men on this site and others... one doesn't have to look very hard into the forum threads to find other guys with the exact same complaint.I have yet to read a single post from any guy on here claiming to have too many women responding to his messages/flowers/profile.
Regards and best wishes.
- Michael