I feel like my body has got totally out of shape, so I got my doctor's permission to join a fitness club and start exercising.
I decided to take an aerobics class. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. But, by the time I got my leotard on, the class was over.
I think 'indifference/getting-closure/letting-go-of-it-all' is the closest to forgiveness as it gets in such predicaments, for anybody, regardless of what they might say.
Again, assuming that the abuser is really out of your life, that is.
You can get justice, let go of anger, learn from it... but what do you do with those horrible memories? Those I would imagine will fade with time but still'd be there, right?
I am reading what Mercedes wrote and find myself thinking that if my child would be put through this horror, I'd just put this man out of his misery myself, in a cold blood. Dunno, it's just an immediate reaction, could proof not true if I actually were in this situation, but still can't see how the memory of that can be gone - the impact is too strong I'd think,
hence moving-on and indifference = forgiveness here. IMO.
Meaning you are not effected by any of those emotions anymore.
Not accepting a 2nd date is normal process IMO. I don't think of first meeting as being a date anyways. I know you think differently. but it's irrelevant for this topic.
I was thinking more along the lines:
backing-off after a few weeks or even months, when things are getting more or less serious. And immediately moving on to the next.
P.S. I think men should grateful for getting those 1st dates with you.
Know how to prevent sagging?