I hear ya on this thought, although I'm wanting to be a little nurturing to this guy. It's a hard knock, you know. We all like to believe we're sage enough to stay out of harm's way, but you know how it goes. I'm a decade older than this seemingly nice guy, and I get 'hurt' by others, still. (I thank God I still have humanitarian feelings, that's my "silver lining". Rather be naive than cynical, any day. I sleep better, too. cheers---)
It's great--interesting and educational to hear other folks' views, experiences, hopes, dreams, sadness, joy, the whole maryann. I find that I am not at unyielding - when given sound advice and info I've been known to adjust or even completely change my position on a given issue. It is clear to me that this is healthy, certainly more productive than being stubborn . It is important to gain from others--kind of reminds me of the poem "Desiderata", which touches on these values. That is what I have gained from being in this club--getting to know myself a little better by conversing with other people. Most have been really cool, a few boogers in there, but far more sweethearts. We are all a part of everyone, anyway, in one sense or another. Hugs are good for you!
Look at your current postings - there are several discussing this very matter right now. Might be helpful for you to see what some of the other folks are going through. Look folks, not to sound melancholy, but this meeting somebody in cyberspace has quite a few moon craters, kapiche? I'm not saying it can't work, but hey, look at the crap people are going through. Come on, it's right here in black and white. Go figure...
Just read your profile. You know, you're over 40, have much to offer, seem stable enough. Flint isn't that small of a town--surely you can get out and about to some clubs, etc... use your imagination--square dancing, an outdoor enthusiasts' club, church, a nice bar (notice I said NICE bar ! ) anyway, the possibilities are there. Don't mean to overstep here, but it is my opinion that online dating will not work for you. Just "feel" it, that's all. Try the old fashioned way. Trust me. Like anything, finding somebody on the computer isn't for everyone. It is for some, but not for you. Do it traditionally.
I've always liked the poem "IF" by Kipling. other favorites were those 'ballad' type poems of Robert Service. Has anyone heard of Sylvia Plath? Interesting story, but I don't recall reading any of her poetry. What was it like? t h a n x
Hi Ambrose--don't know why I thought to ask you about the David Bowie song--just serendipity, I guess. Thanks for remembering. Don't know why but I liked it. My parents were of course arrogantly against any of the music of that era (my stepdad hated Janis Joplin, my fave) so I had to 'sneak' and listen to the popular radio stations. This particular song was played quite a bit, about the same time as "Heart of Gold", "Brown-Eyed Girl", and "American Pie", if my memory is correct. Thanks again-you're awesome!
Do you remember the song that went something like, "ground control, to Major Tom....." and then a part went, "Here I am, sitting in a tin can..." that's all I can remember. (You'll have to tell me if you know, I can't use the link feature. thx )
Have you ever heard a song for the first time that made you stop everything you were doing, and listen. Sure have. "Where The Streets Have No Name", by U2. Actually, I was watching T.V. and it was the music video of that song, they are on a rooftop in LA (?) and are arrested for disorderly conduct after the impromptu concert. It's absolutely wonderful--their performance. I couldn't get it out of my mind for a long, long time and have been a true-blue fan of theirs since. Had to go out and buy their albums--yup, vinyl. (I'm an old beatnik!)
There's a good movie called "Breezy" with Kay Lenz and William Holden. I think it came out in the 70's. Well done, and addressed the age difference/Love, etc... He played a 50 something businessman and she was 18 or so in the movie. I liked it--Love really doesn't know an age. (Being a tad old fashioned, it IS a stretch, though. John Jacob Astor was 30+ years older than his wife, both Kennedy and Onassis were quite a bit older than Jackie, Caroline K's husband is quite a few years older than her. Go figure. And remember, Tony Randall fathered a child when he was 70 something, the lady had to be about 40 years younger. Lots of older women going for younger guys, too, it seems. Mother Nature is quite a jokester-men are in their best around 20, women after late 30's, so I've heard. wassup?
Oh My stars I cannot believe I saw this post because you know what? This guy responded (yes, guy) to my prof. on another singles club, lives close and it looks like we're going to meet. Soon. I have all kinds of jitters, etc... as I've told you meeting somebody from cyberspace didn't set well with me. Well, I was a little bit of flirt (not ME!) and now I have to step out of my comfort zone and really meet someone. Yee gads! I'm nervous, and a little, I admit, scared, I guess. That's what I get for flirting...
thanks, Bud. (I made it to the next day. Got busy with some work , so got my mind off it. For being in my corner- you're the best, Jeepers. (Back in high school we would have said, "yeah, that Jeeps is Boss". ) Behave--I see your other forums, you clown!
this sounds like the best way to do it. I still think there was more to the 'gesture' than meets the idea. There's no free lunch, (OR breakfast) she should have asked first. Bringing the meal w/o being requested is the same as indicating it's her "treat". Period. This woman wanted to appear to be a nice gal--AND get paid for it. You can't have your toaster browns and eat 'em, too!
Hi Jeepers! Not even a puff--I find myself crossing to the other side of the street when somebody is smoking, I'm that concerned about not getting even a light whiff of it. The 12th will be exactly one month, and I have done way good, but sending you and S O S today because for some reason the want to is really really strong. (Must have been the gourmet coffee that triggered it--the two go hand in hand). So far have not fallen off the horse, but the sob is bucking! A word from you, please?
Assuming you might have read my prof. at some time, and therefore "know", I wanted to tell you that I have been told by other Christian that I can't be "who I am" and also claim to be saved, etc... It took years of dealing with my particular situation to at last finally believe in myself enough to know that The Holy Trinity does indeed love me, no matter what. What fun people have, cramming God into a little box, deciding who, what, when , where, and how for Him. How lucky He must feel to have all this help! thanks for writing
[quote=bay163 Oh, it's you they're talking about! I had to read almost the entire 22 pgs to find out! (I thought it wasn't kosher to make a reference to any one member (?) You know, sometimes I get to really liking a writer, and then he says some really awful things--takes the wind out of my sails. Reading your threads, I don't find anything wrong. You're just giving out your opinions, like all the rest. How come you folks (out there) nail others for their beliefs and opinions, but you want carte blanche to say whatever YOU want to say? There's a term for that!
Hi Sundown--I certainly hear what you are saying. Oh, if we could only be so wise all of the time. Love doesn't seem to care whether we're going to be "smart" about it or not. I'm getting up there, well, sort of, and I would like to think I'm not going to get taken, etc... but even friendships that seem iron, strong, good, can kick you bad, too. It's all a crap shoot, if you ask me. /Gotta hope you get lucky enough to find someone special who won't booger you up, I guess. Nothing would make me happier than findng somebody really nice to be close to, snuggle and cuddle, etc... (read my prof. for details, if yur curious...) and I'm afraid because I have a trusting and sweet nature I'll get kicked to the curb. Sometimes I really hate other people, and then I know it isn't right to hate. It's all a crap shoot. Gotta hope for the best.
I agree. I'm a believer, too, and I have what some other Christians would find to be a differing point of view (abut I don't think I'm wrong). We are all different. It is SUPPOSED to be that way. We all conceive God differently. It is SUPPOSED to be that way. Haven't you noticed that many Christians say they believe God/Jesus/The Holy Spirit to be a "personal" savior? Then they 'qualify' it by adding this is only true if you believe and do everything THEY tell you to! What an assumption of superiority! What crap! God is different for each one of us and those intrepretations are different because they are SUPPOSED to be. When will people 'get' this?
Almost one full month for me, Jeepers. It wasn't all that bad, the first three days or so and then it just kind of became ancient history. I can't say that I never "want" one, but it isn't as nagging as one might think. I have a serious medical condition that smoking was making worse, now life feels a lot better. (Sleeping better-# 1). Thanx again, Jeepers. It is day 27. I knew if I got through the "21 days" it would work.--(.21 days to make or break a habit)
I've been wondering about your 'nick'. My Scottish grandmother used the term "Liverpool Scouse" for what we would call 'Irish Stew' or 'Mulligan Stew', (lamb or beef and a whole truckload of veggies, etc...) are you aware of the term? I beleive there's a folk song or two using "Scouse" being served in a boarding house or the like.
Now who's botherin' you? Why, I'll show 'im who's boss! I'll give 'im the old business--I will. NOBODY messes with my pal Soldier! Not no one, not no how! Don't worry, SB, we'll mess 'im up good !
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RE: Online dating Nightmare. (long)
I hear ya on this thought, although I'm wanting to be a little nurturing to this guy. It's a hard knock, you know. We all like to believe we're sage enough to stay out of harm's way, but you know how it goes. I'm a decade older than this seemingly nice guy, and I get 'hurt' by others, still. (I thank God I still have humanitarian feelings, that's my "silver lining". Rather be naive than cynical, any day. I sleep better, too. cheers---)