There you are Mr. Jeepers--finally found you. (I am a total wreck finding things on the computer--but don't try to help! It'll just make it worse! I'll scramble and ramble on my own and eventually get it--) O.K. now for the good stuff. I stopped smoking because of Jeepers on Nov. 13th. Yup, on Friday the 13th. It wasn't/isn't as bad as I had psyched myself up for, and the thought of drawing hot stinky smoke into my now clearing lungs absolutely repulses me. Still, there's something "missing", but it looks like I will be the winner on this one. Halleluia to the nnnth degree. Thank you Jeepers, and already there is a "bounce" in my life that was shoved down inside somewhere (my don't I go on? ha ha) but I am so glad to be sleeping/walking, breathing so much better and have found my singing voice again. Coffee tastes so groovy again, and how can I ever thank you?
We do seem to have difficulty telling someone that he/she isn't the "right" one for us. Lying is so uncool, so that's out. It's kind of like there's no way to tell another person "it's none of your business" when they ask a personal question. Some things just by their nature can't be dealt with as diplomatically as we would like. Try:
"Thanks for spending your evening with me. Nothing personal, but the chemistry doesn't feel right to me. You're a great gal and there's some really lucky guy out there". this is much better than leading someone on, and in the long run far more appreciated than you might think. There's just no delicate way to tell someone that you're not interested, so short, sweet, and honest seems best to me.
Real happiness is "wanting what you get", if there's no wind, then row, if life gives you lemons make lemonade, that sort of thing. My personal favorite (or one of them) is " A ship lies safely in the harbor. But..that is not what ships are made for".
yes, we have to work at things to get them. Hope this helps.
I understand, sweetheart. If he's what you want, I do hope there's a way. It's hard when you are a sensitive, caring person. If he doesn't find his way to you, darlin', then HE is missing out big time.
WOW-I think I like you, Bud! Not one to get too awful deep, this particular topic does interest me a great deal. I can't imagine us being here and NOT having a spirit. Tell me more of what you think,gozoman! and thanx a bunch for writing
I'll try and explain how I interpret this, and I really hope it doesn't sound too far out. Here goes:
First , we can't describe an afterlife in the terms and tools, as it were, that we have at our immediate disposal. (We're a little stuck in our earthly boundary). Having said that, I believe that our spirit/soul can best be described like flowing water (bear with me!) in that it can reach many different points and levels at once. In other words our spirit(s), after we leave this life we know, will be intact, but not limited to time, space, or any tangible barriers we only now understand. It's going to be wonderful, awesome, just like He said.
Count all your lucky starts. At least she was completely honest and didn't brush you off. Much better to find out right away. I hand it to her for being better than most at this. Move on. It's not you, it's just not the right relationship for you. Count it a huge blessing. Trust me.
A couple of concerns come to mind: just how far is 'far'? When someone won't open up consistently, then that is wrong. Look, I am going to just try and be a bud from a distance, and I hope you see clearly where this is headed--can the situation, my friend.It's O.K. to not want crappola. Life really is too short. Find somebody groovy. Really man, it's not worth the headache. I am SO serious. Please take my advice. I know what I'm talking about.
Going to start this one off with something that's of great importance to me at the moment--will fill you in!
1. It takes 21 days to make OR break a habit. 2. over-population is followed by great natural disaster.
would like to get your responses. To # 1 there DOES seem to be quite a lot of articles and convincing studies. Still--would like to research further. thanx!
Howdy--hey I just wanted to add this into the mix, for what it's worth: Are you aware that there are several lawsuits or suit proposals here that would hold a specific fast-food restaurant liable for health problems relating to customers? Now, I find this totally inappropriate. (only because it begs the question, "Where would it all end"?) Growing up in a health-conscious household which included daily jogging, calisthenics, yogurt/sprout/nuts, etc... diet; I constantly listened to my parents berate overweight people, and I mean QUITE discourteously, have to admit I had a not-so-nice outlook. Overweight people know they are overweight, and most are sobbing silently. It's a terrible problem, hard to fix (but I believe it is usually fixable), and we forget that people have hearts and feelings. That said, fat is not "fit", and it isn't attractive. Sorry...but everyone knows that's true.
Although a native, I have lived in other areas and I can tell you that this is completely true. Is it in the water here, or what? There is a definite reservedness about people here (I notice it most in the guys) and I have known a good handful of women who have left Oregon because what they're looking for just wasn't here. (Most of them found it--one in Hawaii, one in France, another in Texas). So, a woman who's looking for that special guy will have to adjust her expectations because, once again, people do not change for other people. It's a pipedream. A myth. It doesn't happen.
Wow, does hope spring eternal with you, Miss Kitty! Heck, there's hardly any other OREGONIANS here, let alone the (possibly) least populated area. Hope you get some replies from Union, I'll be interested in reading them. Don't want to pirate your thread, but will just throw it out that I'd like to start a "pen pal" with someone working as a ranch hand, or the like. Just for s and g's, you know.
You just made my day, lovie. Had an early Holiday party at my flat--wonderful evening. An older couple (sweetest folks) insisted on staying and cleaning my whole kitchen-dishes and all. Rainy season here on the Bay, although today is sunny. Thank you thank you thank you for writing. Will write soon--yur so awesome, druidess!!!
I'll throw something out there meant to be helpful and kind. (Getting cold feet about posting my thoughts as have had some negative comments. I really do not want to offend. that said...) Being "lonely" is not the best frame of mind to be in while looking for companionship. Becoming your own best friend and finding that you like your own company will make it easier to find someone of quality. People are drawn to people who are comfortable with themselves, and have the appearance of being so. Everyone gets lonely at times; learning to not be down about it, etc... is a good start. I know it can be hard, but I feel it's essential. Somehow the 'vibe' can show through, and people may think (even though it isn't true) that the other person is on a bummer, or whatever, and then they form an opinion and so on. I hope I explained this O.K.
For some reason I had a bit of trouble getting into this thread. Now that I'm finally here (gosh, I'm tired!) i would like to know if anyone has ever heard of "Brother Juniper Bread". It is possibly the best bread I've ever had. It gives new meaning to the quote "Let them eat cake". Anybody?
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RE: Can Jeepers do it part II....
There you are Mr. Jeepers--finally found you. (I am a total wreck finding things on the computer--but don't try to help! It'll just make it worse! I'll scramble and ramble on my own and eventually get it--) O.K. now for the good stuff. I stopped smoking because of Jeepers on Nov. 13th. Yup, on Friday the 13th. It wasn't/isn't as bad as I had psyched myself up for, and the thought of drawing hot stinky smoke into my now clearing lungs absolutely repulses me. Still, there's something "missing", but it looks like I will be the winner on this one. Halleluia to the nnnth degree. Thank you Jeepers, and already there is a "bounce" in my life that was shoved down inside somewhere (my don't I go on? ha ha) but I am so glad to be sleeping/walking, breathing so much better and have found my singing voice again. Coffee tastes so groovy again, and how can I ever thank you?