Would it be close to it to say my love for that other person is stronger than anything s/he could do or say, however hurtful; that their actions have no bearing on my continued love, and therefore faith, in them as a love and also as a person? I'm having a tough time ironing this out. I do believe in unconditional love, just can't get it to make full sense to me.
For a comparison of what I see unconditional love as, please (all interested) post your own interpretation of "Unconditional Love" and lets bat it back and forth, see what jives and see what dives. I find this topic ultra-fascinating.
Have you ever heard of 'Elite Ladies Parties' or the like? The toys and accessories sold at those soirees are going like water in the desert. Believe me, they don't buy little ones. I am so tired of these "studies" claiming "it's not what you have it's what you do with it" rhetoric. Women like, want, and need full tilt boogie, man. Another trend is these outfits selling products to men to increase their well, shall we say, net worth. We need to stop dancing around this and many other issues. Of course size matters.
by the nature of the post and from many other responses, i.e. the term "partner" and "companion" are used, it appears that my saying "life companion" would be relevant to the desired effect of the post. For those just wanting casual conversation and pen-pals, of course this would not apply. Incidentally, several recent posts and threads would indicate that there are some members who have, in fact, found a companion through this site or another similar one.
There's much to be gained from multiple aspects, and the healthiest folks are the ones who are able to, accepting them as all a part of the whole, don't you think? An example is of course, a good cry!
A very caring teacher wrote in my high school year book "We are all a part of everyone we meet. Absorb only the best". Don't you think it would be slightly delinquent if we believed that all can be 'forgotten'. (Forgiveness is an entirely different matter). It is my opinion, if I can politely offer it*, that of course we can move on, and the intensity of anything hurtful can and will, of course lessen, but it still will remain with us for our lifetime. Remember the old French song,
The joys of love, are but a moment long The pain of love endures your whole life long But now s/he is gone, like a dream that fades into dawn But you brought me heaven right then, when your eyes kissed mine
Well said. I think what has happened over the years is that some people really have had very good luck finding their soulmate randomly or spontaneously, and that's fantastic. Really. The problem is that, like the romance novels depicting such meetings, they are rare. Sweet, but rare. It's just too difficult in so many ways when a person extends so much trust and then ruined (in many different ways) by the dishonest partner. If I had my way, meeting the right person by chance would be my choice--it sounds so endearing. But the era we are living in is just too dangerous for this. Love, and love at first sight, etc... is perhaps the most marvelous part of Life any of us can hope for. The times have changed and dictated a closer look at these issues of relationships. It's really too bad, but it is a reality. Don't get me wrong-I am extremely happy for the couples who have been able to find it this lovely way, though.
Absolutely not. If we are not good and honest caretakers of who we are and what we want, we have missed a very, very important boat. Be choosy. There are lots and lots of people out there. Perfectly all right to reach for the highest expectation of who it is we want. Too many important components depend on it. Our emotions, our bodies, our trust levels, our need to nurture and be nurtured. Nope. Quite all right to be "fussy". Don't you find it peculiar that some folks are more careful choosing a car or a pair of shoes than they are choosing a life companion? We certainly should prioritize.
Hope springs eternal, Conrad. I'm O.k. with continuing to have my thoughts, and check forum subjects to see what others may be feeling and thinking. By Golly, I do believe that's what it's there for. I ask politely, I think carefully about others opinions, I don't call names or put anyone down for a difference of opinion, I try to use language and words that most people would "get", and looking back through some of the other things I have participated in, I've certainly been courteous and willing to even change my position when it is presented to me in an appropriate manner. What do you mean 'having another go at it?' This I do not "get". I'm participating on the forums, just like you. Are YOU having another 'go at it'?
At last someone who understands. If I wanted to take the alternative and go to links (if I could) then talking to others on a forum would be kind of a waste of time, when I could just do the research myself. And why wouldn't the other posters WANT to actually "write" their own thoughts in real words? Isn't that what the forum is for? If I wanted gibberish that can be found without the forum. Thanks a million, Clara.
All right. Your point is well taken, however, It is over analyzing. I'm fully aware that people will do what they want to do, but the idea of my post was to let folks (gee, am I allowed to say "folks" or does that sound too downhome and informally colloquial)? Heaven forbid I hurt feelings with the wrong syllable. I sincerely hope you can see past these vernacular idiosyncrasies we have and understand the post itself. I don't know if it is because of the area here or what, but there is no access to links. This is not unique; others have the same lack or loss of the computers' full abilities, as well.
You do not understand what I am saying. And no one "made me God", and I have just as much right to say what's on my mind as you or anyone else does. Your insulting tone is inappropriate.
I've noticed an increase in the posting of "links" as opposed to actually saying what's on the writer's mind. Number 1: Many of us do not have the access, so we don't know what you're trying to contribute. Number 2: This is a forum. Use conversation. (Using links is kin to having someone else do your work for you). PLEASE, if you are going to have a lively chat/discussion, then do so. This isn't a reference guide, for crying out loud. Get real with your participation.
Your preamble is far too long. Edit it, and take the advice of the other thread participants and post a photo for best results. Try to sound well-read (intellectual) but not TOO smart. It is my opinion that women look for 'strong' men. (this notion that women like a man who 'can cry' is balderdash. My long experience with people from all over indicates that the opposite is true). Gentle but rustic, firm but not pushy. Just my thoughts.
Have you guys heard of the phenomenon of persons (sometimes very young) having a complete and accurate account of, what should it be called, a 'Past Life"? It seems well documented and authentic.This has me fascinated. (There is no possible way an eight year old could have dreamed up or simply imagined the detailed events, etc... I would be interested to know if any of you have any info about this and if there are books, DVD about such. Thanx
Been a 'ho - hum' day for me. Got up early, now kinda tired but too tired to rest, if anyone has ever felt that. Things to do and no energy to do it. Yeah, I hope tomorrow is better, too.
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RE: Unconditional Love
Would it be close to it to say my love for that other person is stronger than anything s/he could do or say, however hurtful; that their actions have no bearing on my continued love, and therefore faith, in them as a love and also as a person? I'm having a tough time ironing this out. I do believe in unconditional love, just can't get it to make full sense to me.