I raised my three and his three (6) and while it was never completely easy, it was well worth it! Although, my ex and I are no longer together, there is no loss of love between my adult children (Step or mine - Hell! There are are ALL mine).
I suffered through horrific step-parents and when it came to making a blended family with my ex, the first thing we did was counseling. Sometimes, in order to make a clear start, you have to start with counseling. The kids made us a family...warts and all.
Having worked in hospitals and having been in the medical field for many years, some of what you say is true. However; not all who are wealthy, contribute to charity and not all who are wealthy claim their income on their income taxes.
In most major cities; states have set up "charity hospitals." Have you been in one? Have you determined the level of care that you would receive if you go to one? Did you know that although hospitals are instructed not to turn away anyone in time of medical emergency; if it is determined that you do not have insurance of some type; then you will be sent to the local county hospital? Most are underfunded; staff are overworked and most are teaching hospitals and they receive their funding from the government.
Although you can go in and speak with a hospital administrator to try and reduce your medical bill, in a county hospital, these prices are fixed and it takes going to court to get these bills reduced.
I don't believe that they should support the other person financially. I believe that if I were looking for an LDR with an individual in another country and were thinking of moving to their country; then I would need to ensure that I was able to be hired there; have enough funds saved to afford the airfare and enough funds saved to see me through at least a year of unemployment.
I would never expect a potential partner to support me financially; I would expect that they would be able to support themselves and I expect that I would be able to support myself.
My children were given discipline (all six); were given love, care and respect. They learned how to take of themselves and others. They all had jobs beginning at 14. They weren't angels nor devils but individuals. They are now my friends~a precious gift they gave me when they became adults.
A lot of parents do teach their children respect and discipline their children but I have also seen parents from the moment their little bundle of joy is born, so cowed by society scaring them into thinking every little thing they do as parents are wrong, that they are unable to do parent effectively.
I can't that it would be a YES from me. I have one son who is in basic right now, and I heartily supported his choice. I have another son, who enlisted made it halfway through basic and was medically discharged due to an injury he received during training. I have many family members who have enlisted and served in the US Army, US Air Force and US Marines. I fully support(ed) their decisions to serve.
But to force young adults to serve for any length of time (mandatory service)after graduation is the same to me as parents forcing their children to enter college/university immediately after high school graduation.
Not everyone is destined for college/university or military service and to be forced in to doing something that one might not want to do, does not mean the person will learn or grow from the experience. Can you honestly say that if you are forced to do something that you do not want to do or feel any type of enthusiasm for that you would learn anything but intense dislike for it?
Every year as part of our desserts, I have to make "Lynna Roses" (named after my step-daughter)....nothing beats watching all the kids get all sugar high!
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Good one!
Ah! What a nice way to start the evening....
RE: Tea Party Movement
Who could afford the $549 price tag?