That was what I said too...online to RL relationships do not have a great track record therefore it would take a considerable amout of time in real life before i would invest the same love on a partner as I do my two children. That is not to say I would invest less time on a partner than I would my two girls because there finding indipendance and there own social life etc.
What I do find distastefull is that because I have apposed your ambroses and your views you two have made the assumption that somehow my views are influenced by me being single and that I have a negative attitude to dating. That is extremely presumtious judgemental and totally wrong. And ambrose has a cheak to mention knee jerk reactions. Gie me stregnth!! Mods,pass me the appropriate emoticon please.
^^^^ How childish and silly. Ambrose and Sommerauer: Anyone can revisit the earlier pages and read what you have written re your children so ill invite them to do so. My stance has absolutely nothing to do with me being single or otherwise. I am not so self absorbed as to treat my children as second best in preference to a relationship that could prosper or fail. My "negativity" is based on being realistic and that realism is that most relationships online to RL fail. Your kids are a constant unless YOU push them away or make them feel second best. The bottom line is that your attitude is selfish.
Your children are your flesh and blood and parenthood never rea;;y ends. A partner is only a partner untill you or they decide not to be anymore,then the next one comes alone. Do you think that a child will appreciate that they come second best to whoever is the currant partner? I think it is a case of getting your priorities right.
Three years ago I fell for a wonderfull women in Norway who I had known innocently online for a few years prior. This relationship only developed from friendship a few months after seperating from my ex wife. She had 3 children and I have two girls.We at first threw caution to the wind and we spent every other week with each other-but... Then came the children problem.I was simply unable so soon to relocate away from my children because things were so raw still and I simply wanted to be near them.She however was willing to move to the UK and leave her kids with there father and step mum who they did not like at all. In the end I simply could not be responsible for seperating them from there mother and I did not want to be with a women who was willing to abandon her kids,especially given the conditions they would be left facing. Maybe if I had met her now my personal position re me relocatong would be different? But life goes on.
I post what pleases me and not for anyone else.If anyone else "gets" me thats great,but why would I want to please anyone who does not "get" me? I would rather be popular with one person only and if that person is me then so be it! Simples.
I would rather be single untill the day I die rather than buy a bride. Where does self respect ans self pride come into it? Not to mention respect for your partner.
For me I have to be mentally in tune with who im with. Very seldom do I come across this simply because we all are individuals. I do feel as if I know myself well and allthough i may empathise with a partner it does not mean that I have a similar thought pattern with her. Maturity comes in many forms. Some people never mature and some mature very young due to there personal need too. But even very mature people can have very different views and outlooks. So maybe if your on the same track but one is miles behind then is it a problem if both appriciate each other?
So obviously a made up profile. You were single only a few days ago mate as well as so many other inconsistancies. Get it together next time before you start posting with your next one.
I actually did make love in the water half a mile out (and still only up to the waste in water) off the coast of St.James's in Barbados once and she was so enthusiastic that we were surrounded by dead snapper fish by the end of it!!
One girlfriend is all I want or need.It takes all of my energies to satisfy one womens needs properly so why would I want to dilute it? But if she is game...
I agree Avecaim,once you have made an agreement to each other then it should be honoured. But what he seems to be refering too is that the more experience a women has had the less he feels he can trust them. My view is entirely the opposite,which does not nessesarily mean that she must have had many partners-just life experience with partner/s. An informed and experienced women will know what she wants and for her to choose me is more of an honour than a women with little or no experience.
This just smacks of insecurities. I would prefer to find a women who has used her past experiences to develope a more informed judgement about who and what she wants. Would you hide your partner away from the world in fear of her being tempted to even look at what else is on offer?
I agree with you on that score..If you have made an agreement to see someone then it should be exclusive. But a persons history is just that. Everyone has one and it does not allways resemble what they are now..including what you may find from there past online activities. When I seperated from over 15 years of total loyalty on both parts I found the internet and I found sollice in doing dirties for a short while. I consider myself very "normal" so if a possible partner has evidencial net history then who am I to judge? It is not a partners history that is the problem its there partners attitude towards it. We move on and simply enjoy the present and possible future. Surely?
I was not being kind but mearly tipping my hat! I do agree,everything has to FIT into place nicely and everything else will come in time. *Col toddles off to read someones profile!
Bloody hell. What a stunner,and you live close to me too!! Such a pity that your spelling is as bad as mine. Ive dated as young as a 21 year old in the last few years but it was not really through mental connection. Since then I have ran away a few times from someone too much younger simple because I do not want to waste my time anymore.
Nothing wrong with a women with a truck load of experience and bad choices. There is more chance of her recognising your good points. I do not think that women of experience will compare a good man that ticks many boxes with the superstud or best looking man they have been with and me. Maybe men judge women much more in comparison to there ex's than women?
Face it. Women hate to be wrong or even hate to be seen to be wrong. So,once they have decided to invest and pin there colours to a man then the last thing they want is to feel that they have made a bad judgement,especially to there friends and those that know them. A man is more practical and will simply walk when it suits him too. Women in general stay untill the bitter end rather than wake up and smell the coffee! Simples.
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RE: Would you leave your love for your children?
That was what I said too...online to RL relationships do not have a great track record therefore it would take a considerable amout of time in real life before i would invest the same love on a partner as I do my two children.That is not to say I would invest less time on a partner than I would my two girls because there finding indipendance and there own social life etc.
What I do find distastefull is that because I have apposed your ambroses and your views you two have made the assumption that somehow my views are influenced by me being single and that I have a negative attitude to dating.
That is extremely presumtious judgemental and totally wrong.
And ambrose has a cheak to mention knee jerk reactions.
Gie me stregnth!!
Mods,pass me the appropriate emoticon please.