Just days ago I learned of someone who is a young women with a total waster of a man who uses her for his own ends.She is not the most attractive women in the world but she is such a lovely person who would not harm a fly.Now she would be a wonderfull mum because she has all the nurturing instincts as well as a big need to feel loved. He treats her like dirt and prefers to make her inferior with his every action and word. But she is jobless and is now pregnant to him. She is extatic because she knows know that her child will be loved and in return will love her unconditionally. But has she considered how her life with the child will be after it is born and if he follows pattern and neglects his responsibilities? Yes.But only from her personal emotional point of view and with no regard for that childs future. I have a load of empathy for her.But should I also condone her too for having a child in her position?
You look young enough to not be worried about how young/old you look. When I was in my late teens I was unfortunate enough to still pass for about 16 and it did bother me as it was that sort of aged girls who took me seriously as a possible boyfriend.It was only the women my age who got to know me that I felt I had a chance with. Unless you join a cult or specialist group that likes sharing bodily juices(blood included)where your automatically "in the fold" then everyone will have wildly different views on you on first impressions. Gizz a kiss (But not open mouthed!!)
Sure ill date you.I will come along with a pen and a post it note.Then I will write down your pedigree,age,date and sell by date then stick the post it note to the most prominant place on your person!
One more thing that I ask and I am quite happy to be given examples off... How many Queens,Kings, presidents and world leaders dye young unless theres something out of the blue occure? Ok,some conditions may not be tracable with regular check ups. So a heart value rupture can occure without warning for instance. But,I have a belief that medical science that is not available for all is available for the benifit of a few key players in life. The are rumours that many British Royality were both kept going due to unknown technowlogy as well as they being bumped off at the most convinient time for the Royal Diaries.
That is a huge issue mr gooddude. Why would drug companies work on a cure that would take a one of payment to cure a problem when they can produce something that needs dependance,as well as other drugs to counteract that drugs side effects? Can anyone recall a drug company that went out of business due to the effectiveness of there products? For that matter,any drug company that has gone out of business period!!
The thing about emotions is that we need to experience the extemes of them all in order to live a fully life. If we do not experience deep sadness then we will not experience what real happyness is. If we do not experience deep anger we will not be able to experience what real elation is. From experiencing extreme emotions we mature and find some sort of even keel,and even though we may still experience occassional extremes of emotions,most adults spend most of there time in the middle. For me,if you take away the ability to experience extremes of emotions then it is bound to effect ones quality of life. However,in cases of mental health,when drugs are introduced to combat depression or anger or hyperactivity etc,then too often the drugs will prevent the person from feeling much at all in the way of emotions. But that is only my theory! Am I right?
That is an impossible question to answer for me. There have been times when I was married that I craved singledom as well as times when ive loved being married. Then there has been times when ive been single when ive craved for someone close,to cuddle and talk intimately with,as well as times when ive felt that im well out of a relationship. Then theres been times ive enjoyed having a run of short relationships/one off dates,then been fed up of them and wanted much more than that. I guess that the bottom line is that,for many of us,we are never totally satisfied for long. Maybe we expect too much out of life?
Whoo Hooo!! It looks like congratulations are in order.It is heartwarming to see two people from so far apart getting together in here. I hope you both have a fantastic time.
It seems to me that many people are naturally lose touch with some friends and even some social activities once they find a partner. Forcing someone,or even suggesting to a partner that they should give up a friend is controlling.However we all have the right to tell a partner how we feel about someone as long as they are valid reasons.
Yes.It is one thing to show a little insecurity but to constantly have to stop what your doing to answer a text straight away in case she wonders why you did not reply imediately or neglect to add at least 6 XXXXX's at the end is very off putting!!
Fast learner,at 59 years old and you treat your man like that? I hope you have learned fast. "Never take a partner for granted" its one short sentence but can take a long time to learn.
Well I started as I ment to go on on the first day of our marriage. So the first morning I made a full English breakfast with hash b's,sausage,bacon,mushrooms,toms,fried bread,baked beans,scrambled eggs and taost. Also on the tray was coffee,tea,cream,milk,cereals,a rose and the morning newspapers. All of this I took to her bedside while all that I had protecting my modesty was a very small apron. "Col" she said,"That is perfect my darling".
"Yes my dear" I replied, "And I expect mine like that every morning,Bint!"
I still do not know why our Marriage did not last!!
Who is to say that everyone would stay the same age or take years away? I met a beautifull women who added 4 years to her age because 1. she loved the compliments she recieved for looking so much younger and 2.She was more interested in older men anyway. Im quite content to state my real age. Im 54.
Wow,I have never had 3 in a row before.Is this because im getting better at it,like ten pin bowling? Or does it mean im getting worse,like standing over the line three times in the long jump?
I do believe that is true too petal. Nice to see you posting again. They say that we men mellow the older we get and lose the testosteron (though that is no reflection on an individuals attitudes). While women become stronger and more assertive. So in effect we naturally become more akin.
That really depends on why your with the younger lover and how big the age difference is in the first place. Many choose a younger lover because they view them as fun and not as long term material. Many choose an older lover because they view it as fun and not as long term material. If that is the case then my guess is that the pro's and con's will equal out so there would be little difference. However if it is long term then that really depends on if you match both physically and mentally. I find it curious that some women look for much younger men while some look for much older. Is it because the age difference is a ready made excuse/reason to end it before it has really began...just fun without having to state it as such?
I feel no threat at all in either stating my point or in having my views questioned gifted. But as your deffinition of monogomy is different to mine and the dictionaries then it is impossible for me to continue debating on this subject with you. You have repeatedly claimed that my divorce after 15 years as well as me never cheating or being cheated on in other failed relationships proves that my faith in monogomy is baseless. As you refuse to acknowledge the true meaning of monogomy then continuing debating with you would be totally pointless. So I give you a hollow victory by leaving you to it. I have no doubt that others reading will make there own minds up. Crack on.
You really do not understand the concept of manogomy at all and yet you are conducting a debate on the issue!! Monogomy has nothing to do with finding love and it lasting untill the day your partner dies. We could have a number of monogamous relationships in our lifetime. You give the clear impression that just because relationships can and do break down then monogomy as a belief is outdated and has little relivence in todays society. But that is where your argument is fatally flawed.
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Should women have children if they can not support them properly?
I totally agree with your statement above.Just days ago I learned of someone who is a young women with a total waster of a man who uses her for his own ends.She is not the most attractive women in the world but she is such a lovely person who would not harm a fly.Now she would be a wonderfull mum because she has all the nurturing instincts as well as a big need to feel loved.
He treats her like dirt and prefers to make her inferior with his every action and word.
But she is jobless and is now pregnant to him.
She is extatic because she knows know that her child will be loved and in return will love her unconditionally.
But has she considered how her life with the child will be after it is born and if he follows pattern and neglects his responsibilities?
Yes.But only from her personal emotional point of view and with no regard for that childs future.
I have a load of empathy for her.But should I also condone her too for having a child in her position?