What about those who have not yet reached adulthood and have yet to differenciate between what has been drummed into them and what is right and propper? Should a 16/17/18 year old be treat with a little more understanding than a fully mature adult? What if your adulecent child commited an act that was deemed as unforgivable by society.Would you stand by him/her?
It is never wise to invest too much of your emotions and time from the very beginning. I think there should be a natural developement after you have both established you like each other. Falling in love takes time and touches on all senses as apposed to falling in lust which is usually quite instant. I try to not confuse the two and then just enjoy the ride at a leasurly pace.
Give the man a break now please. He has changed a few things and absorbed what he wanted too. It is his profile and the man has adjusted it after advice. He may be new to this dating thing online so give him time to breath. Saying all of that ill be mr hypocrite because he is inviting replies! me!!
Just looked at your profile again my friend out of respect and I do not see anything wrong with it really. Good luck to you and all that sail with you.
Thank you sxc.I detect that your post could easily have been longer but you condenced it. This post seems to be entirely from the "victim of there pasts" point of view? That is very valid because everyone seeks approval and understanding. But where should we draw the line? We all could say " but it built up for so long" or " my mind went blank for a while and I had no controll". Is it that we need someone in every school to simply observe childs behaviour and pick up on problems?
And I agree with that totally bbf. But I do think that it can confuse matters when someone you know and understand and feel empathy for has done something as a consequence of there past. What about child killers who are only children themselves? Can we simply condemn kids who are not even teens for the dispicable way they have killed a fellow child?
Do not say things like that. It will only put of potential rich men who are after a 40 year old with a warren of children who is looking for a deep and meaningfull relationship with his money! Im just trying to help here!
I would not say that second hand goods are worse than virginal,young or old goods. But a little grip on reality here is in order as to expectations and dreams and delusions. Everyone has stages in there life if what there seeking. But in a free dating site,at 40,with her attitude? I would not even buy her a bag of chips at the shop up the road even if she did all the driving to get to me and then the chips!
Your friend seems to have the mentality of which instead of looking at a subject with an open mind reverts to simply believing what they were told when young. So instead of starting with a blank page they have the answer writen down then take in and seek any info that supports that answer and rejecting anything that contridicts the answer given to her. But this is the same attitude that "products of there upbringing" have RE the child abusers.
In my experience women are far more open minded about being open minded while they are not in a long term relationship. Once there comfortable in a relationship there much more likely to revert to being conventional. Maybe it is true for men also?
But as they say many people never grow up-thus remain victims of there past. As in the case of Baby Peters killers,there supporters argue that they are simply victims of there past and only did to that poor innocent child what had been done to them.
We are all a product of our past.But where do we draw the line at empathising with them and maybe even work with them to help iron there history problems out and condemning them? How far will you go in forgiving or empathising with someone because they are a product of there upbringing?
What puzzles me is that the op creates a thread and revisits it to post a number of times yet does not contribute anything at all on the topic they have brought up!
To London so I can show you all the places that I love in the City from the wonderfull architecture to the famous places,the Art galleries and breathtaking museums,as well as the west end shows. Then on to my home town of Newcastle with the unrivaled friendly people.
I do not really agree that we all know when we are ready properly to move on after a long relationship has broken down. Sometimes we just think that we are ready due to loneliness as well as feeling the need to replace some of what we have lost and are used too. After many months of not being remotely interested in a relationship after splitting I dived back into the dating game thinking that I was ready only to find that actually I was not at all. Not only that but I dated a few around that time who were in the exact same boat as me. I think we all go through stages,and some unique to themself,after a long relationship has ended depending on the individual. And it is because of that that I think its impossible to give a time limit..if ever.
Why do people feel the need to tell the reader that they are handsome? And its the first thing mentioned too. Do they underestimate the reader so much that they do not trust the readers judgement?
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Should we empathise with an adult's actions because of there upbringing?
What about those who have not yet reached adulthood and have yet to differenciate between what has been drummed into them and what is right and propper?Should a 16/17/18 year old be treat with a little more understanding than a fully mature adult?
What if your adulecent child commited an act that was deemed as unforgivable by society.Would you stand by him/her?