I know divorce is final...and am quite sure that is what i ultimately want, but i want, as you said, for the dust to settle before we take that route, so i am in agreeance for a legal separation...i don't want what i do as a "single/separated" person to be used against me at some point down the road for leverage....
My husband wants us to file for a legal separation...i'm just not sure what i should be careful of in this type of thing and i don't want to "lose" what rightfully should be mine, nor make things worse for me. I know going to a lawyer is the best thing, problem is i don't even know what questions i should be asking or what issues i should be addressing...that's why I wanted some input here...
Let me outline something here..and get your input on this...
What if you met someone on line...long distance..you talk by messages and phone calls for 6 months...you send pictures back and forth..and everything seems on the up and up...but to be sure you have someone check his background for you...and its all legit...and you do a search on his "name" and find that he is only connected to the one site...seems too good to be true right???...
Here's the clincher...your email messages from him are very very vague. He answers all your questions..but in only one or two words for the most part, and does not offer up any more info than is necessary to answer you...though on the phone he is willing to talk more...He insists he loves you and wants to be with you, but at the moment is unable to take leave of his job (he is a high-ranking officer in the US Navy - which was also one of the things confirmed) so that he can be with you...but promises as soon as he is free to leave ship he will come....
Thats what i'm trying to find out here...what exactly does "legal separation" mean, and what does it entail...and how does one secure yourself in this instance..
If a couple is pursuing a "legal separation" (not just the two parties going their separate ways) but making their separation legal and binding...anyone on here have any input what should be included in such a separation document?
Has anyone on here "lost out" on something because they forgot to include it in the separation papers...or thought it wouldn't be important or an issue at a later date?
And thanks to everyone else...I know i can turn to family..they are there..but you know its the ones as Lilly says "you share your soul with"...There isn't anything I wouldn't do for a friend, and as fireliter said, have spent countless hours day and night with them getting them through their hurdles (even though i had 2 young kids and a job outside the home)...there is nothing i have i wouldn't share with them...so then why is it when i need that shoulder i feel so all alone??
What happens when you give all you have to a marriage...it doesn't work..you pick up yourself and move on...and meet someone else...and give all you have to give...and then turn around one day and need all these people to lend you their shoulder in your own need...but there is no one there...who do you turn to then?
If children already came prepared knowing right and wrong they wouldn't need parents...I will discipline my children...there are no handbooks on how to do this so for the most part i wing it every day..and on occasion...yes...i make the wrong choice because contrary to popular belief parents make mistakes too!!
Don't beat yourself up over it...you'll remember the next time and perhaps handle it differently...
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LEGAL SEPARATIONS....
I know divorce is final...and am quite sure that is what i ultimately want, but i want, as you said, for the dust to settle before we take that route, so i am in agreeance for a legal separation...i don't want what i do as a "single/separated" person to be used against me at some point down the road for leverage....