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RE: A question ladies, from a gentleman

It is a "gentemanly" gesture Peter...but if this was a first meeting, it would make me feel uncomfortable...however if the date went well...then certainly it would be nicer than fending off the "tongue monster"...

RE: Flowers

I actually think this is a cool idea...i'm always at a loss what to send my "guy" friends...usually the clover, the blue flower or the bear...

More masculine icons can replace the now outdated "valentine" selection...is someone going to suggest it to TallBrunette?

RE: Ok ladys if you meet a guy and he had no way to travel to meet you. How far would you travel to meet

Colin i see you used your abundance of charms to make someone new feel welcome..

RE: Forums are cool, but...

We're not in chatrooms here?...I would have never guessed

RE: Take me as I am or don't take me at all!

Its how people grow Lori...by being open to "change" and as you say..as long as said change is for the better...

RE: Take me as I am or don't take me at all!

I still can't say i totally agree...but not that i disagree with the part of someone loving you just the way you are...i am very set in some of my ways...and at my age my friends and family has come to accept me just that way...being "out there" meeting people..its not that they have tried to "change" me per se..as much as they have given me the opportunity to view my "behaviours" from another point of view...

RE: Take me as I am or don't take me at all!

I agree with not changing the fundamentals of one's self...however..change is not always a bad thing...especially if you've been with an "ex" for a long time..you somehow conformed in some manner (not that it worked!!..lol..) but when meeting someone new yet again, if there is no room for "growth" and "change"...well there may not be any room for you in their life either...and i'm not talking "overhaul" here...just little "compromises"..

RE: Ok ladys if you meet a guy and he had no way to travel to meet you. How far would you travel to meet

Actually just had this situation come up...had not left my own city nor driven on the highway for over 10 years (long story.. ) and for someone i met...i drove 2 hours there on the highway...because he was that important to me...so i guess in retrospect...its not really the distance...but the person themselves..

MEN SHOPPERS!!!....ugh!

Okay i promise...no shoes ...so will you come shopping with me...and be patient...and wait while i decide....

RE: WHAT WAS THE LAST MOVIE THAT YOU WATCHED?

Kim do you remember?...I would love to say i remember the movie...but ummm...i don't..was kind of busy!!

MEN SHOPPERS!!!....ugh!

I most certainly do not fight over shoes...well..maybe just a little

A SHOW OF HANDS PLEASE....

I came for #5...got #3..and ended up with #4...

MEN SHOPPERS!!!....ugh!

Most men would love if they could buy their clothes at home depot..I don't want a man shopping with me unless he is looking for the exact size of pumps in the exact colour as i am...
I hate the way they keep staring at their watches as if they have something more important to do (because its the clothes fairy that fills their closets with the clothes they wear...) their answer to every question is "yeah that one!"

What are the reasons you ladies hate shopping with men...

And men what are the reasons you don't want to go with us...

A SHOW OF HANDS PLEASE....

Been reading the posts and threads of various people on here...so i just got curious...

Which one of you are here...

1. Just for the forums
2. Just testing the waters...
3. Just making friends
4. Just for chat buddies
5. Really looking for someone to share your life with

Please only choose one...the one you feel the most strongly about..

Can Sorry be Enough?

We have all at one time or another been guilty of "putting our foot in our mouth" and words once spoken cannot be taken back...no matter how much you regret it...are you willing to forgive such hurtful words?

Can Sorry be Enough?

If you have hurt someone or they have hurt you with careless words...can saying you're sorry be enough? In what instance would you forgive...and when would you not forgive?

RE: any nice ladies out there that want to get to know me better?

I'm sure there are some that would have loved to...until they read your profile "match requirements"...

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

Would you rather have loved and lost...than never loved at all....

It can only turn to stone if you allow it too...we are all given just this one life to live..i refuse to leave it without experiencing the joy...and yes the heartache...of loving another so deeply...JMHO

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

...and i do like 'ya...LOTS!!

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

"V" just summed it up so well!! I am so impressed that not one therapist ever suggested to me something so simple as the fact that i just "LOVE TO LOVE" and that's why when i give it it is unconditional (and again we are speaking of being "in love" here)

BTW... i never saw anything wrong with my behaviour..its others that thought my way of being "in love" with people for reasons i could not explain was odd and encouraged me to "get help"

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

YOU ABSOLUTELY ROCK!!

RE: just had to block someone.

Jonathan YOU offended someone?...say it isn't so!!

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

Oh Jonathan...thank you

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

Sorry Rich...that was a very important part of this whole thing

Yes i do "love" people...its the being "IN Love" here that i am speaking of...

To Angel..i absolutely adored my first husband..and was so madly in love with him...i saw him across a room one night and KNEW i was in love with him and going to marry him...and i did..and loved him unconditionally for the 6 years we were together...and then i divorced him, walked away and never looked back...that was almost 20 years ago..do i still love him?..Absolutely! as much as i ever did...
will i ever go back to him...not if he was the last man on earth!!

Would you rather have loved and lost...than never loved at all....

And even though you have yet to show the people here on CS who you are...my friend you are too!

I LOVE YOU.....OR I DON'T!

I have always been the type of person i either love you or i don't...nothing in between. I don't "learn" to love people, i just do..how i know i have no idea...and when i say i love you...i mean exactly that...or i don't say it at all...as a matter of fact i have a very hard time saying those words (I know there are some out there that would beg to differ...lol) and when i do give my love its an unconditional love...and because a person did not have to do something to earn that love, there is nothing they can do to make me stop loving them.
If it will make some feel better, i am still able to walk away from relationships even when i still "love you"...because this is not a recent thing for me...i have always been this way.
I have discussed this with a therapist (they're always trying to find out what makes me tick!!) and there is a medical term for it (its lost somewhere in my huge book of "useless medical terms") but is there anyone else out there that's like this?

Would you rather have loved and lost...than never loved at all....

At the time the hurt is so overwhelming your reaction is to say you wish you'd never met them...but anger has always been fleeting in me..i take too much joy in laughing to remain bitter...so then through the pain i look at all the wonderful things i shared with that person and love them in spite of it...

If i didn't live and learn...and love...I wouldn't be me...

CAN YOU REBUILD?

I think that i would have to go with firelitr on this one...there are different degrees of trust issues and i guess it depends on which one of those are broken...infidelity being at one end of the spectrum, trusting you to remember a date important to me being lets say the other end (i couldn't think of anything else...) and i have to agree then that the person as a whole would outweigh the broken trust issue at the lower end of the spectrum....am i wrong?

I Wasn't Even Worth A Break-up...

I have since been informed that the reason there was no contact was because there was a power outage...and his computer went down...I am sorry for jumping to conclusions and apparently it makes me a "drama queen" and unworthy of having a relationship with....

But to be fair..i did not think it was in his nature to do this, and i'm glad that i am right...


My thoughts and input on this subject still stands though...