niah9 Profile Reviews (449)

RE: I need ur advice

I am confused....and not for the first time...you are in a relationship, and looking for ladies...and you are attracted to larger ladies....
How about your lady....the one you are already in a relationship with...and where are you expecting...or how are you expecting to meet these ladies?
How can I make it easier....when my thoughts are with the lady you already have.
As I said, I am confused.....Niah

RE: Hi all please be brutal )))) I want the truth please

I think you know already Leepod....you have a great profile and the photo ....great, but I do feel you might expand on the text a little, but it'll stand on it's own...as it is.
You must be new...else you would be on many more Favourite lists....and remember...ladies don't like contacting the males...better you contact them..messages and flowers, but not red roses to start with....not of you want sincere hard to get ladies......
Niah

RE: Comments please!!

Now I can't believe you are not getting responses, because the fav., and hits are higher than most, so if you really have a problem, it is yours....because they contact...then it fizzles out....ask WHY.
Of course, you might just like ladies discussing you, so I can't be sure, but I felt the profile was fine, pics too, so again, do you just hanker for being the 'main topic.'...No I didn't say 'Man Topic.'
I'm allowed to tease you...I'm a Brit from the SE too.
Niah

RE: Need someone special

Can I say firstly, I found the photos confusing...they may be recent, but they looked so different, and I think will confuse any lady. Really looked like three different men so needs to be addressed.
Also it's great you have returned to college, but it is mentioned too many times, once maybe twice should be enough...I mean the lady won't be going to work with you.
Check you profile and the wording, there are a few mistakes there that can be easily rectified.
I hope you are no focused on a wife to stay home and wait for you, because some ladies want more for themselves than that...but you have on favourite and a few hundred views, so you are on your way and hopefully will get sorted quickly...oh and check your spelling too.
Niah

RE: Why No Dates???

Well....I have no idea how long you have been on CS, but 3 Favourite lists and over a thousands hits, means you not doing it all wrong, because ladies are responding.
Maybe you aren't trying hard enough to keep them, and close up the gaps in the profile...it looks like you have edited and not closed up text.
Do you focus on one lady at a time...or many..because us ladies know...and hate to be one of many....
But it could just be patience...you haven't found the right one.
May I say...keep sending flowers and messages, and perhaps you've looked at ladies living in a wide area, and meeting them makes it difficult....so bring the area closer to home....and of course lift the age...just a few years to reach a wider age group.
Also looking down in a photo, isn't good, better a happy smiling face...you look more like a school teacher....
Yes....I know I have no photo and telling you what to do, but I've never needed one...on my profile.
Niah

RE: Beeman57

I think what you are offering has to appeal, and probably with a woman who like you has lived in the mountains...maybe on here you will find her.
You need to do some home work, and search the profiles for someone like you...instead of waiting for them to find you, but what you can do is improve your profile before sending out flowers and messages....your best option.
The photos are either blurred or not showing a situation that enhances your chances...because although the mountains are beautiful, it takes a special lady to live in full or semi isolation...with nature. Do you have home comforts, or do you just get by? Think about all these things.
If it is close, give brief details of the local town ...sometimes even shopping can give you a break away from home, even if for life supporting needs, but is it close.....
You have to make yourself more attractive...without telling lies...and only you know the situation, so think hard, before going further with the profile.
Niah

RE: Advice wanted!!

Hi....John.
I found the profile to the point and brief....but expanding it...your choice, though it would keep the ladies longer on your page.....
If you are expanding, try from the lady angle, but subtle, not over-board, and since you have 5 favourites, and plenty of hits, you seem to be doing okay.
The quickest route of course is to take control and send out more flowers and messages yourself, but maybe that takes time, and I know you males hate doing your homework....just a thought.
Niah

RE: tell me

I think the pics...apart from the one with the kids and the cat should be changed....LOL.
Why...because your age differs I believed in them...and was unsure of the time frames...
You have impressive education for a Brit....so that is curious, and you seem well travelled....but Plymouth seems to be your Brit base...or maybe not...you see...questions...but I won't write and ask.....
Sure....we ladies could write to you, but you can also write to ladies....and that I feel is a cop out when you mention your part in other aspects of CS.....who cares....most of the CS ladies rarely venture into all of the other sections.....so remember that.....maybe you are self focused?
I truly feel your photos are not helping...and too varied....to give a true idea of the real you...unless you'd rather keep the CS ladies guessing....when some who maybe interested...rush on, confused.
There are other things I can say...but best leave it here, though you have plenty of hits and even favoured...maybe it's the constant travel....because you are doing something right....but friendly...no, you don't come across as that.
Niah

RE: What is it you like or dislike about my profile--feel free!

Hi.
When we are a bit different...maybe confident, other tend to shy away...and that I guess is what you refer to...I would play that down, because people need to learn that for themselves....probably it's ladies you scare off before males...know your strengths...maybe a weaker person will feel intimidated....fine...you need a stronger person anyway.
So play down what you believe, let others find out for themselves.
I feel the dress wears you not you the dress....so I'd try to find another pic that you are in control....confortable in....because it is you....that must appear at ease.
You have lots of hits and numerous favourite hits...so you can't be doing it all wrong...I just think explaining to much....maybe scares nice some of the good guys off......
I do wonder if you move around...what happens to the children and any love interest...that might scare some off too....
Niah
Yep...I know I have no pic...never needed one....

RE: Is there any valorous person to leave critical note here ?

Without doubt you are on the right track...but if you are thinking of a western lady...best check the spelling and work though the profile checking for mistakes...there are so many.... you can sort, but need patience.
I have no doubt you'll have no shortage of ladies...just depends on whether career minded or not....Good luck. Niah....

RE: Help ! Help ! Please

opps...that meant plenty of messages and flowers.... sorry again...Niah

RE: Opinion wanted

Yes I agree about the photos...need to look at them...says the lady who has none, but then I don't need a review....but a coule of pointers....the profile I though was okay but...edit some of the wording around your interests/hobbies....just reduce words by linking sentences and phrases.
Don't why you should state about Madras, unless you have the hang-up, and isn't it referred to as something else now?
How many messages and flowers to you send, and do you believe they were to those who would respond?
Niah

RE: Look the heart not the look

Hi.
I have to wonder in what language you write?
Usually writers say more rather than less about what the expect and want, and I found mixed messages throughout your profile, which I also thought brief, yet confusing.
Perhaps you can give it more thought, and explain more about what you want...as you seem to want perfection...romantic yes, but sadly life isn't like that because sometimes the perfect spiritual mental person, isn't a slim and beautiful creature.
Give it some serious thought and expand your text profile...the photos are fine. Niah

RE: Suggestions?

I have to agree, ladies rarely will send the first flower, so that is where you should start, but not red roses please....
The hint of printing is a good hook and should get some ladies interested, but I think you need a few of those photos you refer to...
Apart from that, I'd say you have covered most points...so start flowering and chatting...Niah

RE: Tell me the truth

I have to agree with some of the others comments, it's all about you...which is fine, but the more info and wants, the smaller the options of who can respond.....
Also, it does depend where you want to meet after a couple of emails...and the distance, which to me has to be close....and only now you have a property by a lake you have decided on finding a lady?
I think look at a more even balance on text, and by the time a woman has read through..if they finish, they might feel enough is enough....less is more....
You are attractive, but you are restricting your contacts....because of wants......Niah

RE: HELP

I agree about the comment regarding smile...it is a must...says the lady with no picture...but it hasn't been a problem....for me.
The text seems fine, but the smile....is a must, mind you if you want to look unhappy even grumpy...then it's fine. Niah

RE: wat my chances hrer or am i wasting my time

For some reason the earlier quote comes with my profile name too...not sure why/how
Anyway...You seem a very presentable person, so why so many spelling mistakes inthe headings?
The photo is great, the text could be developed, but you aren't wasting your time, the amount of viewings prove that, and you seem popular...as a favourite, so just expand the text, because you don't tell much about hobbies/lifestyle.
And check the spelling, that won't help....Niah

RE: wat my chances hrer or am i wasting my time

RE: Am I looking innocent?

You are welcome makusri...hope it will help in some way....
Niah

RE: Help me attract a loving man

I have thought about responding before, so here goes....If you have the hits on the profile, it isn't the photo it's the text...now although it's wonderful you found such a wonderful man, other hopefuls won't want to be compared with your last love, and it does rather take up alot of the profile. Maybe they get so far and decide you are not over him yet?
I think that part needs deleting, and you can tell that to any man after the third....contact, if the time is right....
You are an active lady, and attractive, so try that option, because what you had with him, will not actually enhance any new relationship. If anything it'll build a wall between you and new friends. That's my thought...I mean, we hardly add our earlier relationship..ie husbands of marriages whether ended in divorce or death. Do you even require a brief mention. You have given a story...it's time and you must move on...the memories are yours...
Hope it works....Niah

RE: What do you all think of mine? Thanks Folks :)

I'm a little confused with the final photo...hardly says anything about dating but the other three are okay, but ypu could change or add a couple or new ones if you feel they'll show you in a better light...but your choice of course.. hope it works...Niah

RE: Could really use a review!

I must agree, a smile works wonders, and would also swap photos, keep two maybe three...full face in creme okay, blue not bad, with hat borderline, and the one side on... looking front the front 2nd in from right when facing...I'd drop....
Taking a photo from below never flatteres either...but like the colour, but a smile will do that too...
I think always look and see if the info is confusing and misleading, but I never checked what yoy asked fpr, longterm-dating, pen/pal....but that is important, and ensure you send out messages and flowers, and be realistic....and allow time.
Niah

RE: Help Needed

One thought...as the text part seems brief but fine...though how about hobbies...what do you do outside work hours apart from spending time with your two nephews...
Do you wear only black?
Maybe a brighter colour in a photo and a big happy smile.....you want a fun male with personality, perhaps you need to win through by showing you have one too...you are Leo, so must be outgoing....friendly......Niah

RE: my photo

I have never found the photo was needed by me...I have plenty of hits because of my extended profile, and I respond to all who write...but you asked 'what is good or bad about your photo.'
Remember....I was trying to help...and I said what I thought...Niah

RE: Is my selfportrait good enough?

Two factos need to be addressed...first like others who have problems...I feel it's because they send mixed signals....what are you looking for...purely a pen-pal/email...or a lady with the possibility of a longterm relationship....
You seem a nice man, so the profile itself is fine, but the area, I did wonder if you could be in an area where ladies have filters in place...but your self portrait I felt was fine...Niah

RE: my photo

You seem rather self conscience...and I have to wonder if you usually wear such bright shirts....maybe it was to be noticed, but best not get noticed for all the wrong reasons. If you are serious, I think you seem a sincere guy, who needs a bit of help, and I'd start with a shirt, maybe white or a lighter colour for safety..... Try to stand confident...and smile..remember joined hands across the body means you are protecting yourself...so try to look confident, and one photo has you in the shadow, try to improve on that...but your fine, just need a little more thought and smile.....Niah

RE: I need your advice

I think the photo and the profile are fine...Niah...

RE: Am I sending the wrong signals?

Well...no shortage of comments...and I agree, your profile does not work...it send mixed messages...like email/pen pal.... but you call yourself letters ending with ....lover which is a major turn off with all the conmen we recieve flowers from....
Keep it simple, if you want a friend to write, then drop all the what you want and expects....this is a friendship thing not instant lovers...and it takes time to reach a position of trust anyway...oh and you really should smile, that looking down pose...positively scary....most women wouldn't respond....be friendly..look like the man ladies would like to call...friend.
Niah

RE: Here goes nothing :)

This is a very simple change, and maybe you could just try it for a short time...have the main photo taken in the same set up, but could you be turned...head towards the front and smiling...seems simple, but it might be enough to kick start the flow of emails.....you look kinda of serious and distant?
Niah