Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid
Online dating can lead to the same type of mistakes that traditional dating often involves. It is important to avoid these common dating mistakes if you are searching for a lasting relationship whether it leads to marriage or not. Long lasting friendships often evolve from what started out as an online dating attempt. Not everyone who meets online is destined for love. However, unless common dating mistakes are avoided, not even friendship will develop from the experience.
One of the most common errors is the tendency to mislead the other person. In an effort to present yourself in the best light, you might have a tendency to omit certain details or to enhance the truth. Perhaps you lie about your weight and say that you are twenty pounds lighter than you are so the other person will be interested. Maybe it's your age that you lie about, claiming to be ten years younger than you are. Either way, the lie is going to catch up to you if you ever decide to meet in person.
Another of the common mistakes that people make when beginning a relationship is to reveal far too much information when they first meet online. It might be that the other person seems so understanding or that you haven't met anyone like this in a long time. Excitement at the prospect of developing a real relationship soon leads to a bit too much information being included in online chats or emails. Before you know it, the other person knows everything there is to know about you- the good, the bad, and the ugly.
This time, you won't have to wait until you meet in person because she is going to run in the opposite direction as quickly as possible. Revealing too much information and doing so quickly does not allow the other person time to process the information. Additionally, since you don't actually know the person on the receiving end of this information, you haven't been able to assess their motives or integrity. Offering too much information could be dangerous.
Another of the online dating mistakes is to become involved too quickly. This is easy to do since you begin the relationship with a certain level of anonymity. It's easy to fall in love or think that you are falling in love when you are searching for it and believe that you have found the right person. However, it is also just as easy for the other person to hold back certain information that might put him in a negative light or to mislead you about age, weight, or some other facet.
Online dating can be an enjoyable and rewarding experience. However, anyone who chooses to use an online dating site should exercise caution and limit the type of information that they give out. They should be aware that it's easy to provide misleading information and enter any online relationship slowly and cautiously.
Comments (16)
i was just reading that gentleman's comment saying a lady had her self down as never married but she was actually divorced. there could be a good reason that the lady said that. in the eyes of the law she is single. every country has different rules. in my country if you get a high court annulment the marriage is completely scraped from the records. its as though it never took place. and i no because i went through it so what do i put myself down as single, divorced, in the eyes of the law its single,
Waitta second.
So you get married, you have kids, you divorce, you get an annulment.
You are single-again in the religious sense.
You don't realize this, lady, but what does it do to your children? What it does is they become in one fell swoop, illegitimate. The marriage into which they were born, never existed.
I am sorry to say so, and pardon the piquancy of the language, but your children are now bantings.
Akram
but even honest people who are lonely can make the mistake ...of moving too quickly ... and i know this is for real... moving too quick into a relationship commitment only leads to more heart ache.. and frustration...and the opportunity is lost..
so lets slow down and take our time to get to know one another