How to Keep Him Interested After the First Few Dates

Here are some tips on how to keep the new man in your life interested in pursuing a relationship, on behavior to avoid and what to embrace during the early stages of dating, on how to keep him guessing, and how women can embrace their own social life and use it to their advantage.

Dating someone new can be an exhilarating experience, especially when it feels like he could be 'the one.' The butterflies in your stomach when you meet and the rush of excitement when your phone rings are often accompanied by the fear of, 'What if he starts losing interest in me?' What can you do to make sure that you're always on his mind and that he does the chasing? Here are some tips to make sure that you're in the driving seat in your budding relationship.

Don't answer his every request with a 'yes'

When you're head over heels for a guy, it is easy to fall into the habit of accepting every single request and suggestion he makes. Soon, you start cancelling plans with family and friends in order to see him and before you know it, you've got a major problem on your hands. Your friends feel sidelined by this new man in your life and he knows that you will do anything he asks. Does this sound like an attractive woman? Telling him, 'No, I can't make it tonight' will drive him crazy. He will wonder what you could be up to and knows that you have other priorities in your life.

Enjoy your own time with family and friends

In the early stages of dating, it is important to continue with your own life as normal. Go to the gym, spend Friday night with the girls, visit your parents on Sunday and fit dates with him around your schedule. Continuing with your every day life is important for two reasons. Firstly, when you do go on dates with him, you need to have something to talk about. If you've been seeing him 5 nights a week, you will probably run out of outside experiences to chat about because you've been spending all of your free time with him. This inevitably leads to stilted conversation and a boring relationship. Secondly, you need time apart to remind him that you're an interesting person with other important people and pursuits in your life. He is not your 'number one' and will have to earn his place there.

Let him have his own life too

Even in the early stages, relationships are about give and take. If he loves the fact that you have your own social life outside of dates with him, then you have to return the favor. If he's hitting the town with the guys, resist the temptation to turn into a jealous girlfriend and assume that he's going to start kissing every pretty girl in sight. Your jealously will only push him away. He needs to spend time with his friends, both male and female for the same reasons that you do.

Don't be predictable

Excitement and intrigue will ensure that your new man considers you to be a fun and alluring person and someone he wants to be with. Don't suggest dates at the same restaurant every time. Don't talk about the same subjects every time you chat to him, such as your work or your family. Mix things up a little. If you think he would respond well, turn up at his home one night and go for a drive. Spend the night in a different city. Call him when he will least expect it to let him know what a great time you had last time you were with him. Unpredictability is a complete turn on and will keep him on the edge of his seat wondering what's going to happen next.

Keeping a new guy interested isn't hard, but it does take plenty of self-restraint. It's easy to go with your feelings and want to be with him as much as possible. Take it slowly and don't alter your life too much for him. Keep him guessing what you're up to both when you're with him and your time spent without him and you're bound to have him falling at your feet.