I found this while looking for another quote......
But, this one is sooooooo much better. I submit that truer words have never been "spoken".....
“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.”
~~ Tom Robbins
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I blame Obama!!!
Cause Yer Really Gunna Rock Em Tonight!!!
The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you. -Tom Bradley
when I happened on the one in the blog.
Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words "make" and "stay" become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”
Tom Robbins quotes
read it over once or twice but sorry no i can't say myself i think its a good quote
might i add, there is not anyone person that knows themselfs really ...resons why i think so many people have difficulty in remaining true to themselfs, along with others also...sometimes it takes having what we wanted to no longer need it.
It's a good debate, something that happens seldom here anymore
So I have a question. Who is to say that we are happy enough in ourselves to deserve to be with someone else? Is there a happiness test somewhere that I've overlooked? Is Tom Robbins a happiness guru?
Oh, and why is it that practically ALL people who are in love - whether recently or for a lifetime, tell others that they are the luckiest of people because they have found the one that makes them happy?
Would seem a contradiction, don't ya'll think? If we are supposed to be so happy and content as a single person, then why do couples say it's the other person that brings them to fulfillment?
We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack. ~Marie Ebner Von Eschenbach
And makes him no more a happiness guru than the above.
As far as what people say that are in a happy relationship...again, a personal opinion. No more fact than the 2 quotes in this blog. We all have are our personal beliefs, however, considering others opinions can only help us to either reiterate our own or possibly expand them.... JMO
"Happiness is illusory. It's like your shadow - the more you chase it the faster it runs away"
The reason I say this is because the concept 'happiness' as we understand it is not quite correct. People often think, "Oh if I just had that new house/car/husband/wife/job/holiday I'd be happy" but of course we need to realign our thinking on what happiness is.
In reality it is a psychological condition, arguably an emotion and all emotions are temporary. When circumstances conspire to render a positive emotional shift as dictated by the chemistry occuring in our cerebral organics away from a neutral position this is what most associate to be happiness. This is the way the human mind operates.
The odd thing about it that often it is things that our cognitive mind fails to perceive as the catalysts for 'happiness' which trigger such emotional shifts and we often beleive that it has a spontaneous nature.
My theory, therefore is that people who appear to spend more time than others feeling 'happiness' are those who naturally have a better understanding of what motivating factors are the real cataylsts for themselves which generate their own real states of happiness.
Outside of those consideration; I blame the Tibetans.