Can Someone please CONVINCE me
Why it is that some people need their egos pumped up?
Is it because they have such low or no self esteem?
Also when i was younger i was told by my best friend (Harry) that i couldn't play with or even like little Jimmy, I ask Harry why and he said "i dont like him and if your my friend you wont like him either"
I thought ok, i wont like Jimmy then,
The next week i was playing ball with Paul, Harry came upto me and said "dont play with him either, he says nasty things about me"
Ok i thought, seeing as Harry was my best friend i stopped playing with Paul.
Another week went by and i was talking a lot to Mary when Harry came up to me and screamed that Mary hated him so i shouldnt talk to her.
At the time of all this i thought i was being Loyal to my best friend Harry.
But as i grew older i thought to myself, why wasnt Harry being loyal to me, after all i was his best friend.
Why wouldn't he allow me other friends?
Is it right to expect people you are friendly with not to like the people you dont, can we demand or even ask our friends not to like little Billy, or Joe or Helen or Sue, just because we dont like them?
maybe it is/was acceptable when we were young, but surely as grown adults as we are now, surely we should all respect our friends enough to let them choose their own friends, who they can converse with, who they can play with who they can like.
Surely we have friends that some of our other friends dont like, but should we not judge each and every person on how they treat us, but be aware of how they treat others?
It is people like my childhood best friend (Harry) who need their egos pumped up.
It took me awhile to understand why he didnt like some of the people i wanted to hang around with, it was because they didnt bow to his every whim, they wouldnt agree with everything he said, they didnt do as he always asked.
Me, i could see a different side to Harry, i could see a side of Harry that made him vulnerable a side that showed his humility, yet he wanted everyone to like him, he wanted everyone to think of him as the smartest, all because some of his friends pumped his ego for him.
I was reminded of this whilst reading some of the blogs in the last week or two,
Some complaining about why people say certain things about them, why more people comment on his blog than mine, another stating if you are a friend of someone, then you are not welcomed on my blog he says.
Talk about life doing a full circle, things we did and how we behaved when we were young, we do them all again when we are older and supposed to know better.
As for for people forming into cliques or groups how childish is that.
I'll comment on anyone's blog if i feel i can add to it, if i dont think that i could add to it i want comment on it, i might just sit back and enjoy the reading of it.
I know there are a lot out there just like that, they will comment on anyone's blog if they can add to it, whilst others will never comment on it due to Bill being friends with Joe who is friends with Mary who likes Alan, who is dating Sue.
Come on guys, lets just have fun.
Talent is God given. Be humble.
Fame is man-given. Be grateful.
Conceit is self-given. Be careful.
Comments (53)
It`s like watching adult movies, we don`t really need to but its stimulating
And that is why you are, in my opinion, considered one of the most honest here.
You dont judge anybody until they have crossed you.
Hope all is well.
i am not sure if you have a death wish or maybe you are just a glutton for punishment.
Either one,
you could much much worse the CYN_real.
she really is a kitty cat at heart.
the fact that your title contains the phrase
"Can Someone please CONVINCE me" and then shows all these kids were convincing you in a manipulating manner points to a satirical paradox in your argument. As for Jesus He was the biggest non conformist of them all
Yes everything moves in circles perhaps even time
The question for you may be, Why do you need to be convinced ?
a good blog indeed
You can play with eho ever you want to; except for Noddy. He is my friend. You may not play with his toys either. He is my friend.
now i am worried that if CHRIST as you say was the biggest Non-Conformist of all, then maybe everything i read in that book may be responsible for the for all our actions.......
i tried to steer clear of the green eyed monster as a reason,
But truly, i am sure that we have all encountered this in some form or another.
here in Australia, we cheer for the underdog, BUT when the underdogs becomes the best, we cut them back down.
We call it the "Tall Poppy" syndrome
I was never a fan of Noddy or Mr plonk or any of the others Noddy used to hang around with.
I might go and find my Thomas the tank engine and let all here share him with me.
There are good and bad people and some never grow up.
If religion was the greed motivator for those who want war
Even more ironic if Jealousy of territory or resource's was in the heart of it all
And i refuse to grow up, but i will learn......
Maybe i should change my name to Peter pan.....
i could be wrong, (some would say i'm never right, but thats a different story)
It was once said, that all wars were started to some form of religious belief, thinking about that for a while, it does have a spectre of truth about it.
And if that is true, The the book they claim to be the "good" book, has a lot to answer for, or at least the writers of it do.
It would appear that maybe an argument may be made that the writers of the "good" book have incited riots and wars for their own self satisfaction.
Growing up is optional, growing old is mandatory but most importantly, never lose your zest for life.
Not thinking about people I don't like etc. and cut off contact with them is one of the best things I have done in the past.
if only all people would do that,
if you dont like someone, cut them off, no need to tell the world, no need to go on and on and on about it.
Ignore them, now that sounds like an idea.
But...other than that, Simmo...it's okay, you can be friends with Harry, even though he doesn't like me.
you have a point there, But the writers of that book must have known what they were alluding to when writing it.
Knowing that there would be readers that would bring about an unhealthy action/s
You say you are biased, yet it is the content, not the Author or who the Author likes or dislikes that gets you to comment on a blog.
I thank you for taking the time to comment on my blog even if i used to be friends with harry.
And i can assure you Abagail, the Harry i once knew would have been all over you......
You are correct essentially; the content and how it is written may appeal to me, thus the reason I contribute. I really do enjoy conversation and interaction.
yes it happens here, but it happens everywhere though.
I was once told if i dont like somebody, stay away from them and all that they do.
There will groups of people and groups of other people, we do not have to socialize with others, it is a choice we make,
but egos being egos make it hard for some to stay away from some groups.
i hope then that in future that i will write blogs that you consider have the content that appeals to you and therefore you comment on them.
As for the flattery, i only speak with what i know.
Other than that I agree with Abagail, I never met any of the bloggers personally, so content of a blog or how they interact with other people is the only thing I can go by.
Hiya Abagail, hope life's treating you well.
i agree with what you have said,
As with most things in life, it is the interpretation of the individual.
Hence the saying
"one man's rubbish, another man's treasure"
Perception they say is a person's reality, well perception is open to interpretation as well.
What one person sees or hears, may not be what others have seen or heard.
Simmo, I don't really believe we have met properly. Delightful to meet you... I have found the couple of blogs I have read, that you typed, to be well written and thought out. So naturally I will return, until you block me and send me to my room.
You are more than welcome to let me know when you are in the area, it would be great to have a coffee or margarita with you!
I didn't see the blog in question and I don't know who wrote it, but I'm not surprised.
Yes, it is immature behaviour, but I wouldn't let it bother me.
Some people and blogs are great craic and that's where I do enjoy taking part.
I block no one and stop anyone from writing on any of my blogs.
I am now the one flattered by your words.
you are right, we have yet to be formally introduced, which seems very strange seeing as this is a dating site and all our mates here know we are single.
You think they may have introduced us prior to this.
Shame on them.
My mother was born down your way.
And i used to go to the warrigal dogs a biot many moons ago.
Also have been to metung to hire boats to cruise around the lakes down that way.
just saying.....
So, I know a place where they do great strawberry margaritas in Kilkenny!
Tipperary doesnt show up cause
"its such a long long way to tipperary"
or so the song says.....lol...
KN
it didnt bother me, but just got me remembering how that sort of thing happen way back when i was just a youngster running around with a snotty nose and shorts.
Ohhhh strawberry margaritas... You are such a tease, K.
I love Simmo's song quote there, no wonder the area sounds familiar... it's THAT song.
I had to laugh at your 'shame on them' comment. I am not sure why they would have introduced us. Mostly I am fairly quiet.
Your mother was born in Gippsland? It's a beautiful area... Whilst I am not originally from here, I do love the area. I have grown up here... and now
It seems you have been in my backyard almost and never said hello... should I be concerned that you didn't think to say hello?
Ahh such a friend,
opps best i not admit that here or some people may not comment on my blog.
Hows things up in the mountains of Spain?