16 Habits Of Highly Sensitive People

1. They feel more deeply.

One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. They're very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.

2. They're more emotionally reactive.

People who are highly sensitive will react more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend's problems.

3. They're probably used to hearing, "Don't take things so personally" and "Why are you so sensitive?"

4. They prefer to exercise solo.

Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there's a sense that everyone is watching their every move. However, this is not a blanket rule -- there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports.

5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.

Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make. Even if there is no "right" or "wrong" decision -- for example, it's impossible to choose a "wrong" flavor of ice cream.--- highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose.

6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a "bad" or "wrong" decision.

7. They're extremely detail-oriented.

Highly sensitive people are the first ones to notice the details in a room, the new shoes that you're wearing, or a change in weather.

8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.

In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts. Many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community and thus would interact with a lot of people.

9. They work well in team environments.

Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don't have to make the final decision.

10. They're more prone to anxiety or depression (but only if they've had a lot of past negative experiences without having a supportive environment).

11. That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person.

While it's hard to say anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, well, sensitive to chaos and noise.

12. Violent movies are the worst.

Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea.

13. They cry more easily.

That's why it's important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won't be made to feel embarrassed or "wrong" for crying easily.

14. They have above-average manners.

Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people. Because of this, they're more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners.

15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether.

16. Prefer solo work environments.

Many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle -- where they have more privacy and less noise -- than in an open-office plan.

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I had someone tell me that I was too sensitive.

I took one look at them and said to them that that is just who I am ME.

Accept me or not didn't matter.
ccincy

There are a lot of positive attributes to "sensitivity" in a person, ever being highly sensitive. Perhaps, this is compensates for the "highly insensitive" persons of which there are quite a few.
With regard to 15:

The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether.

How do you view persons who frequently post "This blog does not allow comments" blogs?
In my opinion, there are two male bloggers here at CS who often practise this.

One usually post mainly pictorial blogs and never allows comments (as far as I am aware), but at the same time, posts comments on other persons' blogs.

The other may post a blog allowing comments initially, and sometime later, shut off comments from others.

Of course, they are entitled to do so, but are these examples of 15?

What do you think?

I have seen blogs posted by others, questioning the rationale for posting "This blog does not allow comments" blogs.
Socrates

Well! I don't think that I'm sensitive!

I even have been told many times, that! I'm mean. Too mean to be sensitive. Anyway Socrates! I get your point...hug
socrates44 San Fernando Trinidad and Tobago
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ccincy

There are a lot of positive attributes to "sensitivity" in a person, ever being highly sensitive. Perhaps, this is compensates for the "highly insensitive" persons of which there are quite a few.



Yes I see I think the author of this Huffington Post view.


There is obviously a difference between being highly sensitive and being sensitive.

It's also obvious that some people have desensitize themselves too.
I can go one step further and tell you that a boyfriend bought me a book called, "The Sensitive Person".

I read quite a bit of it and it would seem I am one. I finished with said boyfriend and so I gave it to my new love interest who was equally sensitive if not then more.

How I miss him in a very sensitive way.

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Angel

Being overly sensitive may not necessarily be a good thing.

To some extent, I think that a person's socialization (that is, the manner in which he/she was raised, and their environment, both domestic and social) may contribute to the degree of his/her sensitivity or insensitivity. Note that I said to some extent, since some persons do rise above an adverse environment.
Hi Soc,

Hope you're having a nice day/evening there.


Here's me...another highly sensitive person...always been my problem, my ex-husband tried to change it but failed. I believe it's innate. I'm always cautious and always try to stay out of trouble and never like to upset other people. I always do my best to stay away from people and events that could touch my sensitivity.

Now, I'm in a relationship with someone who's highly sensitive too but we seem to have the same mental wavelength and understand each other's sensitive nature.wine
RainComeShine

In the article on which this blog is based, and for which I posted the link at the bottom of the blog, reference is made to two books:

1) The Highly Sensitive Person
by Elaine N. Aron

2) "Quiet"
by Susan Cain

Perhaps you can also view those books.

I wish you and your new love a wonderful "sensitive" relationship.
I don't know if I am sensitive or not. All I know is I have learned to control it. Sensitivity is a tool that you should only use when it serves you. In certain situations you need to be sensitive but in other it is mostly a burden that can drag you down. It is much like emotions...you can shut it down when you don't need it.
Hi crazyheart

As I said to Angel, being overly or highly sensitive may not necessarily be a good thing.

I also wish you success in your new relationship since, as you say, both of you "seem to have the same mental wavelength and understand each other's sensitive nature."
In my opinion, such understanding is vital for the success of a relationship.
Hi ek

Well Spoken!
I feel for those who are highly sensitive as life seems much harder for them. I do feel like it is something we can overcome though as I have known people who were very overly sensitive and are now much more balanced.
It is good to be sensitive but to be highly sensitive can be detrimental to our health, particularly to our mental health as like you said everything becomes much more personal and these people can read into things that are not there.

I like to think I am sensitive but hope that I am not too much.

Good article Socrates. It is good to know who is highly sensitive so that we can know to be more aware when dealing with them as to not hurt their feelings and to understand where they are coming from.

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Wallops

Thanks for your balanced comment.

I am just wondering. Is there a relationship between sensitivity and self esteem?

Are highly sensitive persons more likely to have low self esteem?

On the other hand, are persons with high self esteem likely to be somewhat insensitive to others?
Hi. People who are very sensitive it simply normal people. I am very sensitive a sostradatelna and me hard lives, but me so brought up. Also I think it normally. But here in sport I always was the first command a sport.
I think this article lumps traits together in a prejudicial way.

For example, someone may have a high empathy quotient, but may not be emotionally reactive, or have low self-esteem. To get to this state of being is part of the self-actualisation process, ergo we can learn and choose how to use our innate traits, experiences, skills and knowledge.

I don't like the way this article appears to try and freeze people in a state and not recognise we all evolve fluidly over time. I don't like the way it tries to view people collectively, rather than recognising individuality. I don't like the way it appears to impose identity, just like any other form of prejudice.

And I don't think it's necessarily healthy to quash emotions as that's how we become disconnected from our authentic selves and others. Far better to recognise our feelings and process them, than adhere to external social, or cultural feeling rules.
Jac... is that excess of overcross or lockstitch, or just not enough aspirin? rolling on the floor laughing
ummka

Thanks for your comment.

Human nature is too complex to have a rigid definition of a "normal" person.
Usually, this is defined by a society and its culture.
I agree that, as you said, very sensitive people are normal. They may be considered a minority but being highly sensitive carries a multitude of positive characteristics.

By the way, what is a sostradatelna?
wishvis

Your point about poor parenting is well taken.
The unabridged article states:

"Parents of highly sensitive children, in particular, need to "realize these are really great kids, but they need to be handled in the right way," Aron says. "You can't over-protect them, but you can't under-protect them, either. You have to titrate that just right when they're young so they can feel confident and they can do fine."

(I abridged the article due to space constraints. In fact, it just fit into the 4000 characters limit. But I stated the link to the full article at the bottom of the blog.)

Your statement:

"But if there is one single thing I have learned in life, it is that our strengths are also our weaknesses. They are one and very same."

...seems like a very good theme for a blog. Perhaps you can consider doing and posting such a blog yourself.
jac

Re your comment:

"I don't like the way this article appears to try and freeze people in a state and not recognise we all evolve fluidly over time. I don't like the way it tries to view people collectively, rather than recognising individuality. I don't like the way it appears to impose identity, just like any other form of prejudice."

I disagree with the accusations you have levelled at the article, especially that it appears to try and freeze people in a state and not recognise we all evolve fluidly over time,and that it appears to be prejudicial.

The characteristics mentioned are not rigid and frozen. In fact, I do not think that can be said of any human characteristic. I would like to think that most of the others who have viewed the blog recognize and view the reference to these characteristics as a tendency toward them, and not as being frozen and rigid.
haha i know someone who has (almost) all of these traits, good read well done thumbs up
2Cute69

Thanks for your comment of approval.
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socrates the word sostradatelna it to mean to feel others pain, and to worry.hug
Ummka

Thanks for the information.

sostradatelna - to feel others pain, and to worry

I think English words closest in meaning are:

"empathy" and "sympathy".
Socrates

I think 'the highly sensitive person' is the the one I was reading.

There is no new person in my life because I'm too sensitive I guess.

dunno
RainComeShine

You may find the article, titled "Relationships and Highly Sensitive People", at the following link, interesting:



The opening sentence is:

"Everyone can have difficulties with friendships and romance, but being highly sensitive may include additional challenges."

Elaine N. Aron, PhD has written another book "The Highly Sensitive Person In Love".

The article refers to remarks by her and several others on the theme expressed in the title.
Hi Soc,
I find this article mostly true.

It's never good to put people in a box, as one size never fits all...but I think "highly sensitive people", in the positive sense, make the world a better place. Of course, if it is in negative sense, it causes a lot of unnecessary stress.

"Highly sensitive" people are more likely to go the extra mile, to see the tear no one else notices or cares to dry....they are never "too busy" for someone who needs them. Paradoxically, although they are "into" their own emotions, their sensitivity often reaches out equally to the other person.

I have often been told I am too sensitive, but usually it is by people who are being INsensitive! laugh cheers
Thanks socrates but in truth I can't handle smoking and gambling. The people I've met seem to turn out to be one or the other.

The only one I haven't yet faced is the Alcoholic and from what I've heard it wouldn't necessary show up until you were well and truly hooked.

I think I need to read the book though.

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calm

Thanks for your very meaningful comments.
Dear RainComeShine

Keep trying.
You may find the right person eventually.

In the meantime, here's a special song for you:




Also, here is a poem I wrote and posted on CS Poetry Corner:

ALONENESS
Author: socrates44

Aloneness is different from loneliness
It is an occasion for personal growth
It gives an insight into humanness
And helps us realize our self worth

Being with others continually
Denies us from ever having a chance
To look at ourselves objectively
To build up our own self reliance

Self reliance is the key to coping
With acute periods of adversity
It provides us with an inner strengthening
To overcome and claim the victory

Self reliance is extremely vital
To avoid the feeling of loneliness
Which can happen when there is denial
Of other's support and togetherness

If you feel contentment in aloneness
It can help you to avoid a pitfall
It provides an inner based happiness
Which is the greatest happiness of all
Horror movies turn feelings of anxiety and fear into an exciting experience. I think horrors are attractive to people who pronouncedly feel fear and anxiety.

Girls for instance. Every other point you've described sounds more like girls than men - cry more easily, indecisive, more refined etiquette, inability to take criticism, distaste for team sports, emotionally reactive etc - but chicks dig scary movies. A woman wants something to fear and loves to relate herself to any victim - horror movies serve both purposes well.
Obstinance _Works

Thanks for your comment.

What you have mentioned may be true to some extent. Women tend to express their emotions more freely than men. Men are supposed to be "strong" and not display such emotion openly, in keeping with the stereotype image of the "macho" male. However, there may be a "downside" to this behaviour.

See the next comment.
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