Afraid Of Commitment?
Yes, I am
Well, it’s a scary word. For so many reasons, most of us are afraid to commit in a relationship. It would take a load of craps, guts and courage to commit…only those who are courageously in love will give a relationship their best shot – commitment.
Those who feel vulnerable, those who seek for something better, those who dwell in the past, those who have unrealistic expectations will always have difficulty in committing themselves in a relationship even if they found that “perfect partner”…the same people who will more likely end up as lonely bitter old men/women.
No-string attached relationships works for many. Most of us have temporarily fixes for our loneliness: jobs, ONS, LDR, alcohol drugs, “dating”, chatting, flirting, playing – they’re just that…temporary!
There’ll come a time when one realizes that they have simply wasted those precious time and opportunity to be happier and the opportunity to live a more fulfilling life till the end.
How long have you been blogging here? How many have you met online and in real life but didn’t take that chance to start a good relationship ?
? I bet my bums it’s not because they’re not good enough for us…it’s because we have other options…better ones…or so we thought!
Most of us regular bloggers here are simply bullshitting…we’re not here to look for a love or for a life partner…we’re too “smart” for that.
Sadly, CS became a hunting ground for scammers , wankers and players. 
Many here profess their expertise when it comes to life , love, sex and relationships…
but how fulfilling is your love life ? How far would you go for love ? Would you commit ?...or cut and run before you could get hurt again?
Comments (78)
yes, less picky could work...what we think as the "best" could turn out to be the worst
Like here on CS...let's say I chat with many men...I won't be able to make up my mind as to who I should take seriously because there are many options and there's always one who seems better that will come up, send a flower, a pm...charming...
same with the men here...they will chat with me for a while...they seem to like me...then a younger attractive member will catch their attention...and it goes on and on...
but if you put your attention to one person, know him deeply, things will change...good things will happen...might make you feel satisfied and happier than you expected...
You do not have to settle for anything less than the very best. And if you do, you will be unhappy.
So stop settling!
I don't think you can speak for anyone other than yourself, or for your own age group. I don't blame you - at your age I wouldn't have dreamed I'd be enjoying myself as much as I do now. Much more than I did at yours, where I had many of your fears.
Get old if you want, pet. You don't have to.
And good looking men still look at me, so all good
your last comment
Rolf
Woman mature like cheese... lol
sorry,your comment before your last one
My pic is as clear as day
Over and out x
Thanks for such thoughtful post
All of us do feel lonely from time to time...I do. I hate cooking and eating alone, specially sleeping alone but at the same time I don't like the thought of living full time with a partner...it would mean a lot of responsibilities and meeting half way...more likely, I'll be the one who'll meet his demands all the way...
No, I have no problems... yet. I'm still in a good working condition
Like I said, I'm just being realistic...I'm 39 now, I'm no longer interested with men around my age, they would be too young for me...with some exception, most of men around my age are just starting to settle down, they would want someone to have kids with...I'm no longer a candidate for that. If I have someone older, who might want children or not doesnt really matter anymore.
It's a competitive world out there...I'm not just talking about jobs and money but about relationships too. I'm not the type who will go under the knife and opt for plastics just to look good...but many men put importance on women's appearance no matter how old they are...I would want a man who doesn't worry much about appearances...they're mostly the older men
Bottomline, I just want someone whom I can be who I am and happy about it
Again, I have no problems...everything still working...
Well, I consider myself "oldies" now, I'm not young anymore
men grow old gracefully...you must be joking!
I don't think you're the type who fears commitment...far from it!
I have never known anyone in a 'no strings attached' relationship who had it last more than 6 months. Sooner or later 'no strings' became, I found someone better.
Is committing scary? Sometimes. Is it necessary? Yes.
I can imagine if somebody gave somebody their heart previously...only to get kicked in the sack.
The next time, they may be a little more cautious about handing the heart out again.
When I'm with someone, I was never interested in even looking at another guy or have this "the grass is always greener" attitude. Know a good few people that do and I do think that some of them will either end up alone or regret some choices they made.
If I meet someone I like and could see a future in a relationship, I will give it a go. Being realistic and taking the time to get to know someone is not a guarantee, but it helps.
I do like having someone in my life.
Welcome back!
well, if they don't want to take you seriously...just don't take them seriously...
fun to play games... as long as nobody gets hurt
yes, I agree it's necessary...if one wants to be in a good serious relationship, commitment is necessary...
will you commit ?
I understand...happens to many of us but there are those who wont commit because they want to be free to do anything they way, go where they want, live their life the way they want....commitment also means partnership...decisions will have to be shared...have to meet each other's halfway...are you willing to do that?
Good to see to you
"a partner is a positive addition to my life"
I like that...sounds really good. I guess when one is feeling secured in a relationship one can say that. It's about having the right person, everything else will fall in line....living together, sharing decisions...even having kids one day.
Giving each other a chance to know one another...some commitment could really help. If I'm serious with someone, I won't even look at any men nor be in a dating site, it's just not fair and a lot of crazy stupid things could destruct a budding relationship with someone who could be the right one...well,I'm here for the blogs and some fun
He is pulling the reins, in total charge do when you meet, where you meet, etc. That kind of relationship has no future, I know.
So don't waste these good years when you are young and pretty, and go find somebody who actually wants to be with You. You deserve that.
Therefore you have to find someone there, or is serious about moving there.
Your LDR is stopping you looking for better, but still tying you down, with no real possibility of a long-term future.
Don't waste your best years on a cul -de-sac relationship , you will regret it in the future.
Yes, I understand that and that's a very nice reason...it's just not easy to find that same great relationship again...no sense in taking risk and tarnishing those wonderful memories
I will commit but he has to be that perfect man
and I have to like him...he has to accept me, lunatic and all.
if you notice, my son comes first...even if I'm crazy about someone those two requirements need to be meet first...and as you all already know, those are the main issues in my LDR right now...
You have a very tricky situation going on over there. Hopefully something falls into place to make you truly happy.
would you be interested to live here?::moping: