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Decided to update my profile today so I hope you like the new photos. Self portraits are hard to do, but these are the best ones.

See ya later, drop me a line if you are interested in chatting,
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His profile exclaimed..."No Baggage". I stopped and wondered, what exactly did that mean?

Did it mean not to have the experiences I went through in life that help mold me to who I am today? What would I be like without those learning tools? Who would I be? I must be swallow if I cannot feel. A lump of clay would have more personality then those who did not carry the baggage.

We have ALL been hurt, disappointed and betrayed. We are human and carry emotional scars, some even physical. I truly can not think of one person I know that has NOT been hurt by their parents, siblings, lovers or friends. Not one human that did NOT feel at onetime, a hole in their heart. Are we not emotional creatures?

We all carry baggage....somewhere down the road of life, you picked up a suitcase, it is whether you choose to hold on to it, and add more weight. making it heavy, weighing you down.

I am proud to say I have "baggage". I am proud that I went through those experiences so I could learn who I truly am. I hold no regrets from my past, how could I ever help someone, if I did not experience it myself? It would be like telling a drunk to quit drinking, when I never had a drink in my life. How would I know what it felt like to be a drunk? How could I have passion behind the words?

Perhaps your profile should read..."Got Baggage...did you learn?"

Friendship is a mutual intimacy of mind which we all naturally crave and is created and sustained through an iterative cycle of building mutual trust through the love-motivated communication.
But....
what about when once we succeed in developing the relation and afterwards we feel that there are still present some misunderstandings and lack of trust.
But on the other hand we still want to sustain the relation.
how can this relation be further sustained???

I wonder if any one agrees with the words of Gary Chapman, on his discovery of the 5 love languages. Over the years of his counselling couples he finally categorized 5 love languages that people wanted or gave. I can relate to it can you?
Here is a quote from his site

The 5 language are:

• Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
• Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
• Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
• Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
• Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.
Determining Your Own Love Language
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
• How do I express love to others?
• What do I complain about the most?
• What do I request most often?
Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr. Chapman says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."

is there such a thing as a true love out there?


" " " " " " " honest woman?
" " " " " " " loyal lover?
" " " " " " " soulmate?
" " " " " " " reason to keep trying to find someone to love?

Why is it that some people dont post photos, even when they have been a member for ages. Speaking from personal experience, when I ask a bloke the usual response is ....
'well, im in a job or an area where i would get recognised'(erm what is there to be ashamed of)
or
'my camera is broken'
or as i heard yesterday 'i havnt got round to it'
and this is 6 months after they became a member.

I personally like to have a face to the name, i understand when someone joins they may be shy, but after a while its not difficult and certainly this site is nothing to be ashamed to be a member of.

are you lonely? looking for friends to chat with? lets see if we can become friends!

WHAT NEXT ON HERE,SO MANY ALDIES IN HERE FRUSTRATED LIKE ME,SEEKIN AN HONEST KIND MAN,THEN I SEE A PROF,MAYB MORE OF MEN ATTACHED BUT SEEKIN FUN,MY GOD THEY WAN THEIR CAKE AND EAT IT..SELFISH IM SORRY OK....

U BLOCKED ME CONTACTING U,IM BAFFLED,WE CHATTED FOR A BIT,I WISHED U WELL,being nice gets me nowhere......