Is it possible for long distance relationship to succeed? (171)
unlaoised: I would have thought it obvious that two people in love would want to be together. maybe not so.
How about two people whose lives are enriched by an online relationship, but for some reason they can't be together? Maybe poverty, ill health, whatever.
How about two people in love who both have commitments where they are and can only get together at weekends, or once a month, or a couple of times a year?
Should they be made to end their love because they're not doing the thing that's obvious to you, or the thing which suits societal norms?
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skippyguy: Yes Analyzed.!!! you have to be careful wat you put at times, ..even more of what you don't put !
well goody...maybe someone can figure this all out for me
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jac379: How about two people whose lives are enriched by an online relationship, but for some reason they can't be together? Maybe poverty, ill health, whatever.
How about two people in love who both have commitments where they are and can only get together at weekends, or once a month, or a couple of times a year?
Should they be made to end their love because they're not doing the thing that's obvious to you, or the thing which suits societal norms?
How about two people in love who both have commitments where they are and can only get together at weekends, or once a month, or a couple of times a year?
Should they be made to end their love because they're not doing the thing that's obvious to you, or the thing which suits societal norms?
yes yes and yes to all of that...of course if a couple are happy with an online relationship..that's wonderful. In the context of the conversation at the time, it was what hurdles needed to be jumped in order to make it work, so apart from an internet connection and/or a telephone...my response was about possible relocation.
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Hell, I think 2 hours away is long distance
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SoonerGal: what was the question again?
YOUR WORDS!it's a miracle! but if you'd pay closer attention, you might find we could agree on a couple of things....
Women??????
Gotta Love um anyway!
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In response to: My personal opinion that it is possible for some time, but if people don't start to live in the same city, it will collapse. And if we include cheating during that period, how long is it possible to be dedicated?
It is possible and the odds are higher than what some on this forum have suggested. In the time I've been on the forums (since January 2011), I've known 2 marriages, a few relationships have formed and announced publicly on here and going strong, and at least a half dozen relationships that have not been made public for their own reasons.
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norgeborg: My personal opinion that it is possible for some time, but if people don't start to live in the same city, it will collapse. And if we include cheating during that period, how long is it possible to be dedicated?
Interesting question!..Never thought about it this way before....
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jac379: How about two people whose lives are enriched by an online relationship, but for some reason they can't be together? Maybe poverty, ill health, whatever.
How about two people in love who both have commitments where they are and can only get together at weekends, or once a month, or a couple of times a year?
Should they be made to end their love because they're not doing the thing that's obvious to you, or the thing which suits societal norms?
How about two people in love who both have commitments where they are and can only get together at weekends, or once a month, or a couple of times a year?
Should they be made to end their love because they're not doing the thing that's obvious to you, or the thing which suits societal norms?
I'm not sure how a person's life can be enriched by conducting an online relationship with no hope of ever meeting. I understand your point about only being able to see someone for short and irregular periods, that is something one could possibly live with and many do successfully.
A dating site is above all a means of getting to know and eventually being with a significant other, prolonged communication without ever actually being together will only turn out to be torture in my opinion. An online relationship which is not romantic can certainly be enriching though.
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unlaoised: yes yes and yes to all of that...of course if a couple are happy with an online relationship..that's wonderful. In the context of the conversation at the time, it was what hurdles needed to be jumped in order to make it work, so apart from an internet connection and/or a telephone...my response was about possible relocation.
'Possible' is not the same as 'obvious'.
My point was, we tend to be judgemental, have very fixed ideas about relationships and assume everyone must be the same.
The reality is that people can decide for themselves what they're willing to do, compromise upon, or prioritise, etc.
Some alternative lifestyles suit people better than conventional ones for a reason, as well.
I remember a blogger from aeons ago who had quite severe mental health issues and lived in relative poverty, if I remember rightly. As far as I know, he and his partner had never met and were probably unlikely to. When he talked of her, my goodness me, it was like someone had switched the sun on.
I'm not sure he would have coped with a face to face relationship, but it didn't seem to stop the love between these two people.
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skippyguy: Perception i guess you are either Natural or you are not , but of course all this is upon context..:)
ok you win 
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SoonerGal: ok you win
wasn't Trying to win....!!!
...Just make sense of the world...oki have tried to make sense of Woman of the world as well....but hey what can i say im a Idiot.!!
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skippyguy: wasn't Trying to win....!!! ...Just make sense of the world...ok
i have tried to make sense of Woman of the world as well....but hey what can i say im a Idiot.!!
i have tried to make sense of Woman of the world as well....but hey what can i say im a Idiot.!!
your not even in the same category as an idiot
your actually IMO one of the more brilliant on here 
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jac379: 'Possible' is not the same as 'obvious'.
My point was, we tend to be judgemental, have very fixed ideas about relationships and assume everyone must be the same.
The reality is that people can decide for themselves what they're willing to do, compromise upon, or prioritise, etc.
Some alternative lifestyles suit people better than conventional ones for a reason, as well.
I remember a blogger from aeons ago who had quite severe mental health issues and lived in relative poverty, if I remember rightly. As far as I know, he and his partner had never met and were probably unlikely to. When he talked of her, my goodness me, it was like someone had switched the sun on.
I'm not sure he would have coped with a face to face relationship, but it didn't seem to stop the love between these two people.
...a very interesting viewpoint, and one I failed to consider. You are right Jac. Many types of love exist, many styles as well. Your version is just as valid as mine or anyone elses. Indeed, there are relationships(pilots, actors, writer) where a spouse may not see the other for months or even years. So why not people who will never meet have a vicarious relationship?My point was, we tend to be judgemental, have very fixed ideas about relationships and assume everyone must be the same.
The reality is that people can decide for themselves what they're willing to do, compromise upon, or prioritise, etc.
Some alternative lifestyles suit people better than conventional ones for a reason, as well.
I remember a blogger from aeons ago who had quite severe mental health issues and lived in relative poverty, if I remember rightly. As far as I know, he and his partner had never met and were probably unlikely to. When he talked of her, my goodness me, it was like someone had switched the sun on.
I'm not sure he would have coped with a face to face relationship, but it didn't seem to stop the love between these two people.
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SoonerGal: your not even in the same category as an idiot your actually IMO one of the more brilliant on here
Why Thank You
, if only everyone thought as you...
but really just try to insert some honest....
fun into the forums, while i meet some wonderful people on the way..You included !
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Possible, but very expensive.
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lauryna: Possible, but very expensive.
Money does not always make you happy.99% of the times it does but not always Good luck with yours
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......I cant even strike lucky.....in my own area......let alone the world.....
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I just want to know how much time do you put into a long distance relationship... one year, two, three.... When enough is enough ? How long do you have this person wait for you? I understand that you create a bond with this person but if you claim your love to them and them to you . How long before you finally meet this person? and how long do you keep your life on hold ? Is this actually a relationship that is going to work...? Is this fair? Hopefully it is going to work. But I have big doubts about it... What is your opinion?
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littlebitcurious: I just want to know how much time do you put into a long distance relationship... one year, two, three.... When enough is enough ? How long do you have this person wait for you? I understand that you create a bond with this person but if you claim your love to them and them to you . How long before you finally meet this person? and how long do you keep your life on hold ? Is this actually a relationship that is going to work...? Is this fair? Hopefully it is going to work. But I have big doubts about it... What is your opinion?
Hi
I believe that the length of time depends entirely on the individuals concerned and their respective circumstances. I don't think there is a rule book to guide this situation. I've never been in a long distance relationship, but if I did meet someone far from me, the aim would be for one or the other to relocate. I'd definitely travel to meet the person as soon as I was sure that the connection was real and a commitment was made for exclusivity. Once the meeting took place and the connection made stronger, it would be a matter of organising things for relocation. An indefinite "one day we'll be together" kind of situation would not work for me. I would need dates and deadlines.
But everyone is different and each knows what works for them or not.
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what was the question again?