seking advice" is he serious about me for marriage ?" (27)
I think you are mixing the dating and the engagement.
don't expect to discuss a marathon, if you can't even crawl.
don't expect to discuss a marathon, if you can't even crawl.
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hii thanks for ur advise but I do understand the difference of dating and pre marriage meeting. Thanks
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hii thanks for ur advise but I do understand the difference of dating and pre marriage meeting. Thanks
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bullbull: hii thanks for ur advise but I do understand the difference of dating and pre marriage meeting. Thanks
The best advice I can give you is to ask your local "guru" , who understands your culture more than us westerners.
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Niha,
Listen to what your heart and head are telling you. You may feel a connection to him, but he is not returning those feelings. You are hoping he will eventually, but there is no guarantee that he will.
Listen to what your heart and head are telling you. You may feel a connection to him, but he is not returning those feelings. You are hoping he will eventually, but there is no guarantee that he will.
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Sorry but i dont think its going eere you want it to. He might have a wife&kids...if you're gonna travel&meet someone who hasn't said i lve u back etc ..he says i like you,then you shouldn't have, meet him till he told you&showed you he loves you, i can hear it in ur post that you have &would give up anything to be with him...im sorry i dont know that much how they do it e.g daten,marriage but I think you should hold back slow ur role abit...you've done alot maybe a lil much, so if he really wants to be with you, he'll tell all his family etc then you know that he's tryn,thats if he's not the affectionate type as your sayn shown nothing is not good.let him come to you, i don't me travel...talk what ever till ur sure
Really hope the best for ya.
Really hope the best for ya.
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@bulbul He paid for your holiday and expenses!!! Believe me that's more than most men on here would do, and he didn't try to get into your nickers. I think he must respect you.
I think you must get his and your feelings out in the open, talk to him. It's better to now thanl later.
Shouldn't your families be involved in all this.?????
I think you must get his and your feelings out in the open, talk to him. It's better to now thanl later.
Shouldn't your families be involved in all this.?????
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tomcatwarne: @bulbul He paid for your holiday and expenses!!! Believe me that's more than most men on here would do, and he didn't try to get into your nickers. I think he must respect you.
I think you must get his and your feelings out in the open, talk to him. It's better to now thanl later.
Shouldn't your families be involved in all this.?????
I think you must get his and your feelings out in the open, talk to him. It's better to now thanl later.
Shouldn't your families be involved in all this.?????
Didn't she say they spent two nights together. No man travels and spends money if he isn't going to get it.
He doesn't want his cousins to see her. That's a red flag and she's smart enough to see it.
Only thing she said that bothered me is "I am ready to sacrifice anything for him". Those words rarely come out of the mouth of a woman in the U.S.
I have a feeling that this is how he works building up the hopes of women. He's probably wealthy which gives him the opportunity to meet women all over the world.
If it's too good to be true.....then it isn't true
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You said it worried you that he didn't show any real feelings for you, didn't say the words "I love you"..Don't even think about marrying him till you have NO doubts..JMO
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bullbull: I met a guy online matrimonial site and we were chating since last three months and it was our mutual decision to meet in person. He is from Sweden but Indian Origin he is living there since he was 2 years old. We finally met recently for just two nights we were together and everything was perfect I really liked him as a person,but the confusion is even before he never used to show me feelings when we used to chat or talk over phone. I was expecting may be he will say when we will meet but nothing such happened,I said I love you he did not response of what I said,when I asked him he said,I liked you that is why I am here with you I came all the way just to meet you living my work and everything.he asked me for some time let me reach back to my country and then I will let you right now I am just taking everything inside but, when i go back home I will think and let you know all about.On the third day he drop me at the airport and he made all the payment of hotels and food bills. I am still wondering we spend two nights we both were comfortable with each other but thing which is cutting my heart that I did not felt the connection and warmth emotion which I was expecting from him. you can say he did not show me any feelings till last day......not even when i was going. So how will i come to know what is there in his mind and what is his feelings for me I am so much confused but also he said you can show our pictures to your mother he has given me so much mixed signals Kindly help me to understand this situation I liked him so much but at the same time I do not want to beg him for this relationship..........hope you guys understand I am ready to sacrifice anything for him but if he is ready to accept me............? Does he loves me? and one more thing he came to India on 28th night we were together 28th,29th and it was pre- planed that he asked me to leave on 30th because he doesn't wanted meet his cousins and he does'nt wanted me to see by his cousins. He is returning back on 2nd of November but some where I feel may be he is there to meeting some other women I don't know It just came into my mind now. I really don t know what to do? I may be wrong Please anyone help me out .......may be I am over reacting for no reason I do not want to misunderstand I really want this relation ...... I need your advice friends.....
Thanks & regards
Niha
Thanks & regards
Niha
Maybe he's just waiting for a chance to see what you look like when you guys wake up in the morning and you're not wearing any makeup. A lot of guys are like that.
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secretagent09: Didn't she say they spent two nights together. No man travels and spends money if he isn't going to get it.
He doesn't want his cousins to see her. That's a red flag and she's smart enough to see it.
Only thing she said that bothered me is "I am ready to sacrifice anything for him". Those words rarely come out of the mouth of a woman in the U.S.
I have a feeling that this is how he works building up the hopes of women. He's probably wealthy which gives him the opportunity to meet women all over the world.
If it's too good to be true.....then it isn't true
He doesn't want his cousins to see her. That's a red flag and she's smart enough to see it.
Only thing she said that bothered me is "I am ready to sacrifice anything for him". Those words rarely come out of the mouth of a woman in the U.S.
I have a feeling that this is how he works building up the hopes of women. He's probably wealthy which gives him the opportunity to meet women all over the world.
If it's too good to be true.....then it isn't true
On rereading her post I agree with her instinctive suspicions.
Something is wrong.
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The reason you've come on to ask advise is because you have massive doubts..You'll have your answer in time..Sooner than later..And it may not be the answer you're looking for.
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bullbull: I met a guy online matrimonial site and we were chating since last three months and it was our mutual decision to meet in person. He is from Sweden but Indian Origin he is living there since he was 2 years old. We finally met recently for just two nights we were together and everything was perfect I really liked him as a person,but the confusion is even before he never used to show me feelings when we used to chat or talk over phone. I was expecting may be he will say when we will meet but nothing such happened,I said I love you he did not response of what I said,when I asked him he said,I liked you that is why I am here with you I came all the way just to meet you living my work and everything.he asked me for some time let me reach back to my country and then I will let you right now I am just taking everything inside but, when i go back home I will think and let you know all about.On the third day he drop me at the airport and he made all the payment of hotels and food bills. I am still wondering we spend two nights we both were comfortable with each other but thing which is cutting my heart that I did not felt the connection and warmth emotion which I was expecting from him. you can say he did not show me any feelings till last day......not even when i was going. So how will i come to know what is there in his mind and what is his feelings for me I am so much confused but also he said you can show our pictures to your mother he has given me so much mixed signals Kindly help me to understand this situation I liked him so much but at the same time I do not want to beg him for this relationship..........hope you guys understand I am ready to sacrifice anything for him but if he is ready to accept me............? Does he loves me? and one more thing he came to India on 28th night we were together 28th,29th and it was pre- planed that he asked me to leave on 30th because he doesn't wanted meet his cousins and he does'nt wanted me to see by his cousins. He is returning back on 2nd of November but some where I feel may be he is there to meeting some other women I don't know It just came into my mind now. I really don t know what to do? I may be wrong Please anyone help me out .......may be I am over reacting for no reason I do not want to misunderstand I really want this relation ...... I need your advice friends.....
Thanks & regards
Niha
Thanks & regards
Niha
It doesn't sound like he's serious based on what you've posted. Too many red flags imho but only you can judge his intentions and sincerity so follow your instincts and tread carefully with this one.
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Just be patient! Do not do any steps first ..... let him make next move and based on that you will know his real intentions. I know it is hard to stay away and being patient
But win yourself and stay patient and wait
But win yourself and stay patient and wait
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i think all you need to know is that you are unsure...
base your choices and decisions on how you are feeling and thinking, not the other person.
if you are unsure (and you are...) slow it down, don't 'settle' for less than what you want. having a relationship with someone who is 'emotionally unavailable' can be very difficult.
just wait and see what happens....
if it's right, it won't feel like a 'sacrifice'.
jmho
base your choices and decisions on how you are feeling and thinking, not the other person.
if you are unsure (and you are...) slow it down, don't 'settle' for less than what you want. having a relationship with someone who is 'emotionally unavailable' can be very difficult.
just wait and see what happens....
if it's right, it won't feel like a 'sacrifice'.
jmho
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secretagent09: Didn't she say they spent two nights together. No man travels and spends money if he isn't going to get it.
He doesn't want his cousins to see her. That's a red flag and she's smart enough to see it.
Only thing she said that bothered me is "I am ready to sacrifice anything for him". Those words rarely come out of the mouth of a woman in the U.S.
I have a feeling that this is how he works building up the hopes of women. He's probably wealthy which gives him the opportunity to meet women all over the world.
If it's too good to be true.....then it isn't true
He doesn't want his cousins to see her. That's a red flag and she's smart enough to see it.
Only thing she said that bothered me is "I am ready to sacrifice anything for him". Those words rarely come out of the mouth of a woman in the U.S.
I have a feeling that this is how he works building up the hopes of women. He's probably wealthy which gives him the opportunity to meet women all over the world.
If it's too good to be true.....then it isn't true
You'd be wrong on that statement.
As for the OP, can't give you any advice or answers, nor an anyone else, because they're not in your situation. All anybody on here is doing is speculating at best. At worst, poisoning any chance of happiness anyone could have with their "advice'. Simply because it's tainted from their own experiences, which don't necessarily apply to your situation, or anyone else's.
Instead of coming on here and asking a bunch of miserable old kayaks for advice, ask yourself. You already know the answers to your own questions, all you have to do is realise the truth of the matter, and deal with it accordingly.
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bullbull: I met a guy online matrimonial site and we were chating since last three months and it was our mutual decision to meet in person. He is from Sweden but Indian Origin he is living there since he was 2 years old. We finally met recently for just two nights we were together and everything was perfect I really liked him as a person,but the confusion is even before he never used to show me feelings when we used to chat or talk over phone. I was expecting may be he will say when we will meet but nothing such happened,I said I love you he did not response of what I said,when I asked him he said,I liked you that is why I am here with you I came all the way just to meet you living my work and everything.he asked me for some time let me reach back to my country and then I will let you right now I am just taking everything inside but, when i go back home I will think and let you know all about.On the third day he drop me at the airport and he made all the payment of hotels and food bills. I am still wondering we spend two nights we both were comfortable with each other but thing which is cutting my heart that I did not felt the connection and warmth emotion which I was expecting from him. you can say he did not show me any feelings till last day......not even when i was going. So how will i come to know what is there in his mind and what is his feelings for me I am so much confused but also he said you can show our pictures to your mother he has given me so much mixed signals Kindly help me to understand this situation I liked him so much but at the same time I do not want to beg him for this relationship..........hope you guys understand I am ready to sacrifice anything for him but if he is ready to accept me............? Does he loves me? and one more thing he came to India on 28th night we were together 28th,29th and it was pre- planed that he asked me to leave on 30th because he doesn't wanted meet his cousins and he does'nt wanted me to see by his cousins. He is returning back on 2nd of November but some where I feel may be he is there to meeting some other women I don't know It just came into my mind now. I really don t know what to do? I may be wrong Please anyone help me out .......may be I am over reacting for no reason I do not want to misunderstand I really want this relation ...... I need your advice friends.....
Thanks & regards
Niha
Thanks & regards
Niha
Blimey if you wrote less I would´ve read your post, but you didn´t, and I didn´t.
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Johnny5IA: Blimey if you wrote less I would´ve read your post, but you didn´t, and I didn´t.
I bet u didnt even go out with him.
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If you have so many doubts, I would check him out. Single..divorced..crime etc. I don't know if you can do that in your country but it is advisable ..
Take your time and don't rush it if what you are looking for is a serious relationship..
Take your time and don't rush it if what you are looking for is a serious relationship..
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