Letting go (84)
I have not seen or spoke to my ex wife in 14 years
An ex is an ex.
An ex is an ex.
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KNenagh: If you are moving, it makes things easier Lilith.
I moved away after breaking up with my ex 5 years ago and not bumping into each other again was a good thing.
I moved away after breaking up with my ex 5 years ago and not bumping into each other again was a good thing.
He is not where I am, don't know how he found me either.
I haven't seen or heard from him in yrs..just creeped up on me lately.
I'm moving for variety of reasons and happy about it,just did not know or understand how to handle the recent doings going on
Nothing like throwing a wrench into the mix eh
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pedalguy59: I have not seen or spoke to my ex wife in 14 years
An ex is an ex.
An ex is an ex.
eggsactly!!Truer words never spoken Pedal
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Lilith10: He is not where I am, don't know how he found me either.
I haven't seen or heard from him in yrs..just creeped up on me lately.
I'm moving for variety of reasons and happy about it,just did not know or understand how to handle the recent doings going on
Nothing like throwing a wrench into the mix eh
I haven't seen or heard from him in yrs..just creeped up on me lately.
I'm moving for variety of reasons and happy about it,just did not know or understand how to handle the recent doings going on
Nothing like throwing a wrench into the mix eh
As long as it's harmless as in talking to get you back, no harm. Hope nothing else comes into it.
There are things that sometimes gob-smack me, but after a while I usually get a handle on them.
Hope your move and things will go well for you Lilith.
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Lilith10: Okay I see what your saying now.
Yes I needed to let go long ago and did.
Past is just that..the past..to me it means I have moved on to healthier times.
Yes that's whats happening..they don't want to let go I'm thinking.
Some pple just don't move on I guess, then it becomes another thing entirely..
Thanks for your response!
Ahh, now that's the stickler...inadvertantly being the co-dependant of someone who hasn't let go of their past that involved you, and trying to bring you down with them by keeping you in that old picture.Yes I needed to let go long ago and did.
Past is just that..the past..to me it means I have moved on to healthier times.
Yes that's whats happening..they don't want to let go I'm thinking.
Some pple just don't move on I guess, then it becomes another thing entirely..
Thanks for your response!
I hope they're not too unstable that could cause you any grief, or worse...fear?
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KNenagh: As long as it's harmless as in talking to get you back, no harm. Hope nothing else comes into it.
There are things that sometimes gob-smack me, but after a while I usually get a handle on them.
Hope your move and things will go well for you Lilith.
There are things that sometimes gob-smack me, but after a while I usually get a handle on them.
Hope your move and things will go well for you Lilith.
I hope so too KNenagh!
I was pretty shocked to say the least, but only time will tell.
I have cut all contact, so I feel that's enuf right.
Thanks so much, all comments were appreciated once again.
I'm sure as time goes by, he will get it
bye for now
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YouMeUs: Ahh, now that's the stickler...inadvertantly being the co-dependant of someone who hasn't let go of their past that involved you, and trying to bring you down with them by keeping you in that old picture.
I hope they're not too unstable that could cause you any grief, or worse...fear?
I hope they're not too unstable that could cause you any grief, or worse...fear?
You are precisely correct!Co-dependant is another topic and a good one.
You make a lot of sense YouMeUs..thank you.
I hope he has changed his ways at least, and I don't wish to spend my days worrying whether he gets it or not right?
I had fears of him in the past, is another reason I moved on, as I figured he was "unstable" as you mentioned..but I got over all that crapola, guess he never did.
Who does that anyways?..
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Lilith10: You are precisely correct!
Co-dependant is another topic and a good one.
You make a lot of sense YouMeUs..thank you.
I hope he has changed his ways at least, and I don't wish to spend my days worrying whether he gets it or not right?
I had fears of him in the past, is another reason I moved on, as I figured he was "unstable" as you mentioned..but I got over all that crapola, guess he never did.
Who does that anyways?..
I knew of a neighborhood boy who was so infatuated with a neighborhood girl. She meant the world to him. They got together, became an item but eventually she broke up with him. He stopped at nothing with trying to win her back, but she was completely done with him. He couldn't bear the thought of not being with her and eventually took a shotgun to himself. He survived but was severely maimed for life.Co-dependant is another topic and a good one.
You make a lot of sense YouMeUs..thank you.
I hope he has changed his ways at least, and I don't wish to spend my days worrying whether he gets it or not right?
I had fears of him in the past, is another reason I moved on, as I figured he was "unstable" as you mentioned..but I got over all that crapola, guess he never did.
Who does that anyways?..
I've thought about that situation quite often back then and it also made me more alert as to the possibilities of that being repeated by someone else. It is a sad state of affairs to think that someone cannot live if they cannot have someone...when afterall they were living just fine before they ever met the other person.
That is what I fall back on if I ever get a broken heart over a break-up. "I was fine before her, I'll be fine without her." Sadly not everyone shares that same point-of-view.
That he has came back into your life and rehashing what you have long ago let go, obviously suggests that he is not over you yet. Just be careful, Lilith.
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YouMeUs: I knew of a neighborhood boy who was so infatuated with a neighborhood girl. She meant the world to him. They got together, became an item but eventually she broke up with him. He stopped at nothing with trying to win her back, but she was completely done with him. He couldn't bear the thought of not being with her and eventually took a shotgun to himself. He survived but was severely maimed for life.
I've thought about that situation quite often back then and it also made me more alert as to the possibilities of that being repeated by someone else. It is a sad state of affairs to think that someone cannot live if they cannot have someone...when afterall they were living just fine before they ever met the other person.
That is what I fall back on if I ever get a broken heart over a break-up. "I was fine before her, I'll be fine without her." Sadly not everyone shares that same point-of-view.
That he has came back into your life and rehashing what you have long ago let go, obviously suggests that he is not over you yet. Just be careful, Lilith.
I've thought about that situation quite often back then and it also made me more alert as to the possibilities of that being repeated by someone else. It is a sad state of affairs to think that someone cannot live if they cannot have someone...when afterall they were living just fine before they ever met the other person.
That is what I fall back on if I ever get a broken heart over a break-up. "I was fine before her, I'll be fine without her." Sadly not everyone shares that same point-of-view.
That he has came back into your life and rehashing what you have long ago let go, obviously suggests that he is not over you yet. Just be careful, Lilith.
Youmeus, there are lots of unstable people in the world.
You said that guy was 'infatuated ' beforehand and he was an emotional blackmailer afterwards. She probably realised his instability whilst dating him, and hence broke up with him.
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mollybaby: Youmeus, there are lots of unstable people in the world.
You said that guy was 'infatuated ' beforehand and he was an emotional blackmailer afterwards. She probably realised his instability whilst dating him, and hence broke up with him.
You're absolutely right, Molly, that was his futile attempt to win her back but all he had done was solidify her belief that he was unstable, after what he had done to himself. Fortunately the business end of that shotgun wasn't aimed at her. Unfortunately it ever happened to begin with.You said that guy was 'infatuated ' beforehand and he was an emotional blackmailer afterwards. She probably realised his instability whilst dating him, and hence broke up with him.
I don't know what became of him after that, but I do wonder if he's lived a life of regret.
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I suppose the reasons people from my past are in the past is for good reason but not always a negative reason. I do not mind old friends getting in touch.
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YouMeUs: You're absolutely right, Molly, that was his futile attempt to win her back but all he had done was solidify her belief that he was unstable, after what he had done to himself. Fortunately the business end of that shotgun wasn't aimed at her. Unfortunately it ever happened to begin with.
I don't know what became of him after that, but I do wonder if he's lived a life of regret.
I don't know what became of him after that, but I do wonder if he's lived a life of regret.
Probably not.
I'm sure he still feels she owes him for 'making' him do it.
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mollybaby: Probably not.
I'm sure he still feels she owes him for 'making' him do it.
Sad, because you're more than likely right about that too. And I'd hazard to guess that he's also tried playing the guilt trip on her any chance he got.I'm sure he still feels she owes him for 'making' him do it.
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This relationship is from ten years ago 
He's either bored or between lovers, it's not about you Lilith, forget it.
He's either bored or between lovers, it's not about you Lilith, forget it.
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Have you ever had someone from your past try to creep back into your life?
There's a good reason ...they are the past in the first place.
Are you on the naughty chair
There's a good reason ...they are the past in the first place.
Are you on the naughty chair
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serene56: This relationship is from ten years ago He's either bored or between lovers, it's not about you Lilith, forget it.
I figured as much right?...
Thanks for your response Serene56
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The past is the past its tough to move on but if its gone its the past i wouldn't go back
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Lilith10: I figured as much right?...
Thanks for your response Serene56
Thanks for your response Serene56
I've a couple ex's I yearn for a little after a break up.
They're touchstones that have weaved in and out of my life over the years.
These women were favorites in my life, and they'll always occupy a
separate and special place in my thoughts.
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Ocee102: I've a couple ex's I yearn for a little after a break up.They're touchstones that have weaved in and out of my life over the years.These women were favorites in my life, and they'll always occupy a
separate and special place in my thoughts.
separate and special place in my thoughts.
That's a nice way of putting it, Ocee
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It basically means that if by not wanting to let go, and if by that results in unjustifiable ramifications, perhaps there is a need to let go?
There's no reason why anyone should have to beat themselves up (mingle) over something/someone from the past. If that is what's happening then they need to let it go, even though deep inside they may not want to.
Yes I needed to let go long ago and did.
Past is just that..the past..to me it means I have moved on to healthier times.
Yes that's whats happening..they don't want to let go I'm thinking.
Some pple just don't move on I guess, then it becomes another thing entirely..
Thanks for your response!