What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner. ( Archived) (44)

Aug 20, 2017 5:44 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
annaroach: From a few recent experiences.

The idea that they thought that we were an item
on the first and second date.

ie. saying stuff that would suggest that we would be together in the future.

I want to run for the hills,in that case.

It takes lots of time to get to that stage.

laugh laugh laugh

"Run Anna Run"




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Aug 20, 2017 5:46 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
Another things that's quite off-putting, is when she turns up half cooked with spray paint all round her face and nose. Cant she wait till thee date is over before she starts huffing?
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Aug 20, 2017 5:48 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
chris27292729: "Run Anna Run"



In what direction Chris dunno confused kiss
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Aug 20, 2017 5:48 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
pat8lanips: Another things that's quite off-putting, is when she turns up half cooked with spray paint all round her face and nose. Cant she wait till thee date is over before she starts huffing?



I agree, better to use glue until you've snared them
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Aug 20, 2017 5:51 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
annaroach: In what direction Chris



To the hills.
usually is UP.

laugh
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Aug 20, 2017 5:54 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
chris27292729: To the hills.
usually is UP.



Clever,,,laugh ,, i am getting very fit from running,
that's the bonus
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Aug 20, 2017 6:02 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
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Aug 20, 2017 6:34 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
One2note: For me, it's when they get too attached & clingy too soon !
I feel suffocated & head for the nearest exit door !

What's the rush?


Really ?

Reading that first post 'it sorta looks like' you expect that happen with any / every potential partner and you are definitely saying that it HAS happened in the past ?

Ask yourself 'What's the 'Common Denominator' in all of your previous relationships?

If you need a clue have a look in a mirror



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Aug 20, 2017 6:43 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
One2note: For me, it's when they get too attached & clingy too soon !
I feel suffocated & head for the nearest exit door !

What's the rush?



Could you not wallow, in the adulation for a while.

Then when she gets to know you , she might look for the exit door.

Your problem solved .grin
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Aug 20, 2017 6:46 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
pat8lanips: Another things that's quite off-putting, is when she turns up half cooked with spray paint all round her face and nose. Cant she wait till thee date is over before she starts huffing?



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Methinks perhaps your 'pre-date screening processes' may need work ...

Has this happened often ???

cheers
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Aug 20, 2017 6:52 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
morgan5: I just can't see the point in trying to change someone in my experience just causes problems. if you don't like the way a person is, move on just my opinion


Hits nail on the head really

The Getsalt Prayer ( Fritz Perles ) is a neat summary ( paraphrased )

" I am I and you are.

I was not put here to fulfil your expectations, nor were you put here to fulfil mine

If we meet and get along ... its wonderful

And, if we don't ... well, that's wonderful too "





cheers
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Aug 20, 2017 6:58 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
HexagonKeySet: Hits nail on the head really

The Getsalt Prayer ( Fritz Perles ) is a neat summary ( paraphrased )

" I am I and you are.

I was not put here to fulfil your expectations, nor were you put here to fulfil mine

If we meet and get along ... its wonderful

And, if we don't ... well, that's wonderful too "



I really like that, and if everyone thought that way there would be less conflict.

The behaviour ,that some people display are just a reflection of their bad attitudes
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Aug 20, 2017 7:11 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
One way of testing things, simply drop the salt shaker on the ground, then ask her to pick it up for you. If she uses her foot, start talking about evolution and missing busses. She'll work it out from there.
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Aug 20, 2017 7:19 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
Dedovix
DedovixDedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia12 Threads 1 Polls 5,492 Posts
One2note: What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.

Diametral opposite in expectations from life ,desires ,dreams
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Aug 20, 2017 7:28 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
pat8lanips: One way of testing things, simply drop the salt shaker on the ground, then ask her to pick it up for you. If she uses her foot, start talking about evolution and missing busses. She'll work it out from there.



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Sheesh Spud ... how many times have you been out n met a LadyChimp ?




cheers
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Aug 20, 2017 8:36 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
rainbowdream2017
rainbowdream2017rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia13 Threads 1 Polls 2,486 Posts
HexagonKeySet: Really ?

Reading that first post 'it sorta looks like' you expect that happen with any / every potential partner and you are definitely saying that it HAS happened in the past ?

Ask yourself 'What's the 'Common Denominator' in all of your previous relationships?

If you need a clue have a look in a mirror

Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all? One2 Note replays to himself One2Note rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 20, 2017 9:17 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
rainbowdream2017
rainbowdream2017rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia13 Threads 1 Polls 2,486 Posts
One2note: For me, it's when they get too attached & clingy too soon !
I feel suffocated & head for the nearest exit door !

What's the rush?
The most off-putting is dealing with Narcissist who has no empathy, being a total emotional Vampire. At first glance, Narcissist is likable, very charismatic and personable, but in the long-term is living Hell. Narcissists tend to externalize blame, pinning the blame on everyone but themselves, they're good at making excuses and not taking credit for mistakes they make.
frustrated
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Aug 20, 2017 9:31 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
Let me not have to remind him whereabouts is the showerlaugh
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Aug 20, 2017 9:52 AM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
Just being realistic, not grumpy...
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Aug 20, 2017 12:12 PM CST What's the most off-putting thing about a potential partner.
MsContessa
MsContessaMsContessaMayo, Ireland24 Threads 1,227 Posts
One2note: For me, it's when they get too attached & clingy too soon !
I feel suffocated & head for the nearest exit door !

What's the rush?

it has got to be Narcissists,
they are drawn to dating sites like bees to honey...
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