Are you afraid of being hurt again? (209)
online today!online today!Track16Eastern, Newfoundland Canada1,006 Threads 11,189 PostsI make loads of excuses but reality is, I just don't want to be hurt so I don't stick my head out at all.
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Track16: I make loads of excuses but reality is, I just don't want to be hurt so I don't stick my head out at all.
That's understandable but stranger things can happen when you're not looking.
Never say never.
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Track16: I make loads of excuses but reality is, I just don't want to be hurt so I don't stick my head out at all.
No one wants to be hurt.Lets stick your head out as that is the only way to find out if anyone will take it .
off 
for love 
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rainbowdream2017: In the past,me and 'my family' could badly argued over the inheritance matter or not talking to each other and is hurt I carry inside me and don't want to think of it but I can not imagine that anyone I know would come up with murder.
If I am worry about it, I would go to the bottom of the world, like Australia or USA.
Hope that's only a bit of paranoid feeling.
All the best.
If I am worry about it, I would go to the bottom of the world, like Australia or USA.
Hope that's only a bit of paranoid feeling.
All the best.
Aren't you the lucky girl.
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NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: Aren't you the lucky girl.
I am sorry...
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rainbowdream2017: Thank you so much in making me feel great about this mix - mash of a poem.
It's quiet late with me to carry on writing another poem, but thanks for inspiration in exchanged of thoughtful words that makes one goes to rest with smile...
I like intoxication with poems.
It's quiet late with me to carry on writing another poem, but thanks for inspiration in exchanged of thoughtful words that makes one goes to rest with smile...
I like intoxication with poems.
No its thanks to you and others i'm getting - Lessons in Love
I hope you may help with untangling and giving your opinion on it from your vantage point...there was some more I wanted to write on this thread, when I get some more time
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jono7: thank you for your post. i think i keep coming back to the forums because every once and a while there is a gem like your post. a comment that pulls me out of the fog and back to what is important.
it reminds me to dig deeper. i was once told..if you're not feeling love and compassion dig deeper. and keep going deeper till you find it. because under everything else, if one digs deeper, they will find love and compassion.
it reminds me to dig deeper. i was once told..if you're not feeling love and compassion dig deeper. and keep going deeper till you find it. because under everything else, if one digs deeper, they will find love and compassion.
You are one of the guardians of the forum...it is I, who have received such riches and humbled...when from the written words of yesteryear matches the ones from the titan writers here - with every word typed leaving no room for those intent on leaving hurt. I hope you may provide your thoughts on the unraveling of lifes user guide happening right here.
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The secret is to replace dating with giving to charity.
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Yeah I'm afraid of being hurt again, thats why I use an oven mitt to get hot things out of the oven these days.
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pat8lanips: Yeah I'm afraid of being hurt again, thats why I use an oven mitt to get hot things out of the oven these days.
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
With each failure, we're told to dust ourselves off and give it hell again with all that we've learned from previous fails. Some folks are good at doing that and others, not so much. I believe happiness comes from within first and foremost and if we happen to find someone who we can share that with, it's simply an added bonus.
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I reckon that only when a person is 100% OK with being on their own that they really ought not get involved with another ... because doing so will probably only lessen the degree of OK ness that the other enjoys.
Say Person A is 100% OK and they meet person B who is only 60% OK ... it's more than likely that A's OKness will fall, by 40%, it's a matter of 'gravity' if you like, easier to be dragged down than to pull up another perhaps?
Say Person C meets Person D ... both are only 50% OK with themselves 50 - 50 = 0 OK-ness
Look around, y'all probably have seen relationships like that .... maybe even you were in one hoping to pul, or be pulled up by the other person ?
Say Person A is 100% OK and they meet person B who is only 60% OK ... it's more than likely that A's OKness will fall, by 40%, it's a matter of 'gravity' if you like, easier to be dragged down than to pull up another perhaps?
Say Person C meets Person D ... both are only 50% OK with themselves 50 - 50 = 0 OK-ness
Look around, y'all probably have seen relationships like that .... maybe even you were in one hoping to pul, or be pulled up by the other person ?
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HexagonKeySet: I reckon that only when a person is 100% OK with being on their own that they really ought not get involved with another ... because doing so will probably only lessen the degree of OK ness that the other enjoys.
Say Person A is 100% OK and they meet person B who is only 60% OK ... it's more than likely that A's OKness will fall, by 40%, it's a matter of 'gravity' if you like, easier to be dragged down than to pull up another perhaps?
Say Person C meets Person D ... both are only 50% OK with themselves 50 - 50 = 0 OK-ness
Look around, y'all probably have seen relationships like that .... maybe even you were in one hoping to pull, or be pulled up by the other person ?
Say Person A is 100% OK and they meet person B who is only 60% OK ... it's more than likely that A's OKness will fall, by 40%, it's a matter of 'gravity' if you like, easier to be dragged down than to pull up another perhaps?
Say Person C meets Person D ... both are only 50% OK with themselves 50 - 50 = 0 OK-ness
Look around, y'all probably have seen relationships like that .... maybe even you were in one hoping to pull, or be pulled up by the other person ?
Makes a lot of sense to me ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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rainbowdream2017: No one wants to be hurt.
Lets stick your head out as that is the only way to find out if anyone will take it . off for love
Lets stick your head out as that is the only way to find out if anyone will take it . off for love
I need to, I'll make myself do it
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DoubleFantasy: No its thanks to you and others i'm getting - Lessons in Love
I hope you may help with untangling and giving your opinion on it from your vantage point...there was some more I wanted to write on this thread, when I get some more time
Thank you for giving me undeserving honour in being teacher of love lessons, where I am always feeling as a humble student in trying to be balanced when walking a tightrope of love - without the net, lol.I hope you may help with untangling and giving your opinion on it from your vantage point...there was some more I wanted to write on this thread, when I get some more time
In given honour of sharing thoughts in observations about vantage point, makes all of us environmentalists lol.
Theoretically,lessons in love might be a bit foggy - looking from distance
but I try to share with you only one lesson that I find useful. - "Love should never be viewed from the vantage point of achievement, specially when one is single." Lol I am a big fan of photography, getting my camera from a different point of angles and trying to seek unusual vantage point and I suppose, I try to seek and find the same in life and people, to observe all different vantage points than pull all that are worth the saving up to my vantage ground that culture filters.
Hope this was helpful in untangling some mysteries...
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No not afraid , I want to be hurt by love
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
I've been reading everybody's post, and the general consensus, is that YES, EVERYBODY is afraid of being hurt, again. I DON'T disagree, but I DO have a problem with that. Most people are saying that the hurt makes them shy away from future involvements. That they let the pain interfere with their future lives.
In MY opinion, that's counter-productive. Sure, NOT getting what you wanted or hoped for, IS unpleasant! It hurts. It's frustrating. It's undermining. But hurt and pain are a part of life. We're ALL going to experience it, either in love, or some other facet of our lives. But if we pull our heads in, hunker down, and get defensive, how much harder is THAT going to make it, for US to "WIN" the game? Sure! It hurts! But I CAN survive! I've done so, before! And IF I want to get what I WANT out of life, then I HAVE to GET IN the game! If I let some pain knock me out of the game, then I've been beaten! I've given up, on getting what "I" want! There's an old saying about IF a horse throws you, you have to get up and get RIGHT BACK ON that horse! And life is JUST LIKE that horse! Whether it's love, or ANY OTHER thing, that throws you, IF you don't get right back up and get in the game, then you might as well just lay down and die. You're beat! The BAD guys won! Come on, people! Pain's a part of life! We ALL know it. We've ALL been hurt! So WHAT? You gonna lie down and die? Or you gonna get up and DO something about it? The choice is yours! And MINE! I can't speak for the rest of you, but "I" never quit, in life! Get over it! And get ON with it!
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Track16: I need to, I'll make myself do it
We're all holding some valuable inner gift to share, to enrich our life and another but if we put tone of briks- barriers in front of us ...it makes our perceptions look blurry and unreachable. You have all loving sweetness in you to be happy.
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Let_Us: I've been reading everybody's post, and the general consensus, is that YES, EVERYBODY is afraid of being hurt, again. I DON'T disagree, but I DO have a problem with that. Most people are saying that the hurt makes them shy away from future involvements. That they let the pain interfere with their future lives.
In MY opinion, that's counter-productive. Sure, NOT getting what you wanted or hoped for, IS unpleasant! It hurts. It's frustrating. It's undermining. But hurt and pain are a part of life. We're ALL going to experience it, either in love, or some other facet of our lives. But if we pull our heads in, hunker down, and get defensive, how much harder is THAT going to make it, for US to "WIN" the game? Sure! It hurts! But I CAN survive! I've done so, before! And IF I want to get what I WANT out of life, then I HAVE to GET IN the game! If I let some pain knock me out of the game, then I've been beaten! I've given up, on getting what "I" want! There's an old saying about IF a horse throws you, you have to get up and get RIGHT BACK ON that horse! And life is JUST LIKE that horse! Whether it's love, or ANY OTHER thing, that throws you, IF you don't get right back up and get in the game, then you might as well just lay down and die. You're beat! The BAD guys won! Come on, people! Pain's a part of life! We ALL know it. We've ALL been hurt! So WHAT? You gonna lie down and die? Or you gonna get up and DO something about it? The choice is yours! And MINE! I can't speak for the rest of you, but "I" never quit, in life! Get over it! And get ON with it!
In MY opinion, that's counter-productive. Sure, NOT getting what you wanted or hoped for, IS unpleasant! It hurts. It's frustrating. It's undermining. But hurt and pain are a part of life. We're ALL going to experience it, either in love, or some other facet of our lives. But if we pull our heads in, hunker down, and get defensive, how much harder is THAT going to make it, for US to "WIN" the game? Sure! It hurts! But I CAN survive! I've done so, before! And IF I want to get what I WANT out of life, then I HAVE to GET IN the game! If I let some pain knock me out of the game, then I've been beaten! I've given up, on getting what "I" want! There's an old saying about IF a horse throws you, you have to get up and get RIGHT BACK ON that horse! And life is JUST LIKE that horse! Whether it's love, or ANY OTHER thing, that throws you, IF you don't get right back up and get in the game, then you might as well just lay down and die. You're beat! The BAD guys won! Come on, people! Pain's a part of life! We ALL know it. We've ALL been hurt! So WHAT? You gonna lie down and die? Or you gonna get up and DO something about it? The choice is yours! And MINE! I can't speak for the rest of you, but "I" never quit, in life! Get over it! And get ON with it!
Easer said than done. I am waiting to jump on horse - while I am observing donkeys.
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I terminated all my previous relationships..
And i will not hesitate to do it again in my next one,
if needed be.-
And i will not hesitate to do it again in my next one,
if needed be.-
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