Signs or rejection that men understand (83)
Tulefell: I think ignoring his calls is pretty blunt. Never told him anything about my feelings. And no, I'll never say a man that we are "just friends", coz I never have male friends to start with. Friendship is very important to me, I had a very few people throughout my life, whom I considered my friends, they all were women. "Just friends" doesn't exist for me. And it's another subject.
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Tulefell: I haven't. You either have reading comprehension issues or are of the very sort as the "hero" of this thread.
I've been myself for more than 2 minuts now. You should have got enough.
A hero. I've never really seen myself in that light before. But you're right I am kinda heroic. More like spidey though than superman. Definitely not batmanI've been myself for more than 2 minuts now. You should have got enough.
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Rogerandout: A hero. I've never really seen myself in that light before. But you're right I am kinda heroic. More like spidey though than superman. Definitely not batman
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irish78eyes: If you ignored his calls then I don't know, that is pretty blunt. Keep ignoring I guess
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I've done what Chesney suggested ..... made him think it was his idea to not go any further and it works well
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I've done what Irish suggested...... say thank you for coffee/lunch but this isn't going to work. They never put up a fuss because they knew we didn't connect.
However, in a relationship with someone we were having a hard time making it work so after a couple years I said we needed to end it. He wanted to be friends but I said no. It didn't make sense to be friends with someone you were intimate with. We left it at that but because of some medical issues he has I called him one day to see how he was. That went okay so I called him about every 3 or 4 months for a year.
After awhile I decided that the phone calls to him weren't necessary anymore because his health issue was under control and I told him I wasn't going to call again. He fought my decision and didn't understand why I wanted to stop calling him. I could have left a voicemail that I wasn't going to call anymore but I thought he deserved the respect to tell him myself. I know why he wanted me to keep calling but it's not important to mention it here. If it wasn't for his medical issue I wouldn't have called him the first time
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I've done what Irish suggested...... say thank you for coffee/lunch but this isn't going to work. They never put up a fuss because they knew we didn't connect.
However, in a relationship with someone we were having a hard time making it work so after a couple years I said we needed to end it. He wanted to be friends but I said no. It didn't make sense to be friends with someone you were intimate with. We left it at that but because of some medical issues he has I called him one day to see how he was. That went okay so I called him about every 3 or 4 months for a year.
After awhile I decided that the phone calls to him weren't necessary anymore because his health issue was under control and I told him I wasn't going to call again. He fought my decision and didn't understand why I wanted to stop calling him. I could have left a voicemail that I wasn't going to call anymore but I thought he deserved the respect to tell him myself. I know why he wanted me to keep calling but it's not important to mention it here. If it wasn't for his medical issue I wouldn't have called him the first time
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Tulefell: Shall I start to pursue him in hope that he'd get enough at same point and reject me?
Maybe it will work hey?
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secretagent09: I've done what Chesney suggested ..... made him think it was his idea to not go any further and it works well
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I've done what Irish suggested...... say thank you for coffee/lunch but this isn't going to work. They never put up a fuss because they knew we didn't connect.
However, in a relationship with someone we were having a hard time making it work so after a couple years I said we needed to end it. He wanted to be friends but I said no. It didn't make sense to be friends with someone you were intimate with. We left it at that but because of some medical issues he has I called him one day to see how he was. That went okay so I called him about every 3 or 4 months for a year.
After awhile I decided that the phone calls to him weren't necessary anymore because his health issue was under control and I told him I wasn't going to call again. He fought my decision and didn't understand why I wanted to stop calling him. I could have left a voicemail that I wasn't going to call anymore but I thought he deserved the respect to tell him myself. I know why he wanted me to keep calling but it's not important to mention it here. If it wasn't for his medical issue I wouldn't have called him the first time
I bet you waited for him to pay for lunch though. Before you launched into that little speechand
I've done what Irish suggested...... say thank you for coffee/lunch but this isn't going to work. They never put up a fuss because they knew we didn't connect.
However, in a relationship with someone we were having a hard time making it work so after a couple years I said we needed to end it. He wanted to be friends but I said no. It didn't make sense to be friends with someone you were intimate with. We left it at that but because of some medical issues he has I called him one day to see how he was. That went okay so I called him about every 3 or 4 months for a year.
After awhile I decided that the phone calls to him weren't necessary anymore because his health issue was under control and I told him I wasn't going to call again. He fought my decision and didn't understand why I wanted to stop calling him. I could have left a voicemail that I wasn't going to call anymore but I thought he deserved the respect to tell him myself. I know why he wanted me to keep calling but it's not important to mention it here. If it wasn't for his medical issue I wouldn't have called him the first time
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Tulefell: Is there any?
I’ve had a date for a couple of years ago, we drunk a couple of glasses of red and talked for a couple of hours. The man was (perhaps still is) a good conversationalist, nothing controversial, nothing disturbing, no sharp edges and … nothing to remember or look forward to.
We agreed to go paddle together, he failed to show (due to excess alcohol consumption a day before that, my guess) and I found myself feeling a relief. I do prefer paddle alone.
We never met again: I said no to all his suggestions. But nonetheless, he took upon himself to make hints in his comments on FB as if he knows more about me, than he really does, as if we are a couple and meet regularly. I seldom react on his comments. I take my time to answer his private messages, if I do it at all. I never return his calls.
Isn’t that obvious that I am not interested in him? What signs of rejection do men understand?
Why not just be kindly honest? To yourself and to him? I’ve had a date for a couple of years ago, we drunk a couple of glasses of red and talked for a couple of hours. The man was (perhaps still is) a good conversationalist, nothing controversial, nothing disturbing, no sharp edges and … nothing to remember or look forward to.
We agreed to go paddle together, he failed to show (due to excess alcohol consumption a day before that, my guess) and I found myself feeling a relief. I do prefer paddle alone.
We never met again: I said no to all his suggestions. But nonetheless, he took upon himself to make hints in his comments on FB as if he knows more about me, than he really does, as if we are a couple and meet regularly. I seldom react on his comments. I take my time to answer his private messages, if I do it at all. I never return his calls.
Isn’t that obvious that I am not interested in him? What signs of rejection do men understand?
For people who 'don't get it' if every now and then you DO respond in one way or another, they know that if they persist eventually they'll get your attention. All they have to do is 'wait it out' ...
A friend once said to me: 'be brutally honest with yourself. Examine which of your actions don't match your wish and words of wanting him to leave you alone. When they are aligned he won't get 'crossed messages' and will disappear out of your life'. The reason for needing to be brutally honest is because of the need to examine if in some twisted weird unacknowledge way, we are flattered by their 'persistence' and so somehow transmit mixed messages they are only too happy to read in they way they prefer.
In my case when I examined my actions, wishes and words and was honest with myself, then the actions wishes words became totally aligned, the guy disappeared out of my life for which I was grateful.
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Things like this are the reason I don't even bother with initiating first contact anymore. If I ever got any response at all, it was usually "not interested".
Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
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Bladewound: Things like this are the reason I don't even bother with initiating first contact anymore. If I ever got any response at all, it was usually "not interested".
Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
LOL.Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
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Bladewound: Things like this are the reason I don't even bother with initiating first contact anymore. If I ever got any response at all, it was usually "not interested".
Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
The thing is that there are some 'good men' like yourself who don't seem understand that not being interested in getting to know them better doesn't stop them from 'being a good man'... and even if the woman might still be single some months from the moment of saying 'thank you but not interested' doesn't mean the woman should have said yes. Why not respect that a woman knows who she would like to get to know better? It could be because of a gut feeling, or because the guy looks like her brother, or because she would like to be with someone who has more similar interests, or who with same relegion. Whichever it is it doesn't detract from your merit as a person. It's about her and her values. If the values don't match, it's not a judgement. It just is. Okay, fine. I'm fully aware I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am a good person. If somebody isn't interested, if they feel they can do better, more power to 'em. I won't waste any more of their time, or mine. The funny part is, I'll still see them online months later, and they're still on the hunt.
I recently had a friend have surgery. This guy can charm the shorts off a nun. Naturally, he was pouring on the charm to his nurses. One of them, he thought her and I could possibly hit it off, so he texted me to ask my permission to give her my number. Sure, I never expected a call anyway. Three weeks went by, no contact (as I suspected). One day, I get a text. It's her. Well, well! She then proceeds to say she wants to try with my friend first! Tom was blindsided by this (I wasn't), as he never gave her that impression, he was playing Cupid on MY behalf!
Never heard from her again. Neither did Tom, but he expects to, as he has to go back for follow-ups. Even if he makes it clear to her what his intentions were, and even if she understands and then attempts to make contact with me again, I'll tell her to piss off. I'm nobody's second choice, not even on behalf of my friend. She had her chance, and she'll have lost twice at once.
I want somebody who WANTS to be with me. I'm not gonna beg for it, and I'm not gonna fight for it.
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ChesneyChrist: You have to make us think that it was our idea. Introduce him to someone younger and more attractive.
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he is messaging you cos you reply him:)
How about telling him that you arent interested and dont want to comunicate with him or just block him? :)
How about telling him that you arent interested and dont want to comunicate with him or just block him? :)
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Rogerandout: How? She's a woman. Their never right
well of course their right lots. of the time men can be wrong often too ,, or maybe you are always right .....------ This thread is Archived ------
Someone2772: he is messaging you cos you reply him:)
How about telling him that you arent interested and dont want to comunicate with him or just block him? :)
I know. Its breadcrumbingHow about telling him that you arent interested and dont want to comunicate with him or just block him? :)
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michaelright: well of course their right lots. of the time men can be wrong often too ,, or maybe you are always right .....
I'm not right all the time. But I know you used a full stop when you shouldn't have------ This thread is Archived ------
Rogerandout: I'm not right all the time. But I know you used a full stop when you shouldn't have
That was just my finger sir it has a habit of going places it shouldn't , know what I mean ,,,------ This thread is Archived ------
michaelright: That was just my finger sir it has a habit of going places it shouldn't , know what I mean ,,,
Not at all. Enlighten me. Actually Don't, I haven't had my dinner yet------ This thread is Archived ------
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Not nice on either, but animal instinct you can't deny ..its there or its not!