I agree, behavior shows what is going on inside the head...most of the time anyway. A close friend of mine who I was talking to about his behavior concluded the jealousy thing as well. I know he keeps reminding me about how good of friends we are and wanting it to last. You might be right...as Pepps pointed out as well. That might be something I will have to try and abstract out of him....and then reassure him he should not be concerned.
Yes Usha....I follow your advice religiously. This latest bit should not be overlooked also. I guess I will be posting an ad in the local paper tomorrow "looking for an attractive nanny."
On my way home tonight, I had another thing I wanted to mention about your comment...since we are referencing the Bible.
Not to challenge you on your opinion, in fact, it is commonly believed that people can judge what sort of person you are from the friends you have. I would say there is some truth to that, but it is not completely true. There is an exception I can think of.
But, back to the comment I wanted to make in reference to the Bible.
I believe it was Jesus who sat down at a table full of criminal type people (thiefs) if I recall correctly. When he was asked why he sat with them, he responded by saying....those are the people who need him the most.
He is not a bad guy when he is sober, even though I really do not know him that much when he is sober. I have hinted to him about his heavy drinking. He is guy who will drink about 5 or 6 shots of 100 proof liquor one after another.
....probably trying to drink away the bs he has went through in life. He might need professional help, but I am sure he will not go down that road.
I am going to attempt at putting my foot down a little on this situation. But, allowing some of it, might be the case. I am one of those who thinks things happen for a reason. For all I know, he may have actually did me a favor.
I know him very well and he has had a very tough life up to this point. If I had to guess, the majority of his happiness probably comes when we are hanging out. I will try the straight forward approach with him. I know it will probably fail initially, but if I can remind him about 10 times, he might start getting the picture, especially if I start to slow down seeing him a bit.
Absolutely good advice. Unfortunately, it is not quite as easy as that. Thankfully, Bert is the only foolish I really hang out with. But, like I mentioned in other post, I very rarely drink so a sober mind should prevail? ....even thought it failed this past weekend.
I agree L.L.. I know he values our friendship, as do I....but when he starts doing stuff that is interfering...and he knows it, he is crossing a boundary.
Good advice with telling him when he is sober. I was thinking he was not going to listen to me....but....if he sees I mean business with him, he might just take it to heart. ...like for example what you say, leave him behind.
Hello Ashes....'respect?' What does that mean? That is a foreign word to many, I think. Look at the last presidential election and the amount of respect we as a society were privy to have shaping our minds.
any tips?
Usha, you keep moving the goal line on me. I am starting to think that you just enjoy seeing me suffer.